From Our Readers: Your First Love Is a Unique Love
I have always wanted a long-term relationship. I want to be with someone for a long time. I want a stable relationship where both of us are assured that we will always be together no matter what.
They said that experience is the best teacher, that you have never really lived fully unless you went through a lot of experiences and being with different sets of people. I can deal with that. It's human nature to come and go. But at the end of the day, I want to be with the one who'll make me feel like I'm right at home. Someone who will remind me that no matter where I went or where I'll go, I always have someone to run back to. That whenever I feel lost, there's someone who will remind me that life was once simple without me doubting it because I know that what he's saying is true.
I want to be with the one who'll make me feel like I'm right at home. Someone who will remind me that no matter where I went or where I'll go, I always have someone to run back to.
Because I saw that, too. I was with him then. We have always been together. And who could make me feel that way other than the one I've experienced everything ever since the beginning with, right?
I want to marry my first love. I want to be with him through everything. I know that there would be hard times, and those hard times would require space for each one of us. There would be a lot of begging for time and space for sure, but I would be very understanding of that need. I know how it feels to be suffocated, and I don't want our relationship to cause anyone to feel that way.
I'm alright with everything, I'll be alright through everything as long as I am assured that we'll come back to each other at the right time. I want to marry my first love because I want to be with someone whom I know and who knows me very well. I want to be with someone who understands the way I cringe or flinch. I want someone who has memorized me.
Wouldn't it be beautiful to be with someone who's very sensitive to your every move because he already knows which will and which will not hurt you? I want to be with the one I have memorized as well. It would be nice to be with someone who sees the same things that I do.
I'm pretty sure that we've all imagined ourselves walking down the aisle while the person we first gave out hearts to are waiting at the altar. I'm sure all of us wanted and actually thought that the first one we loved would be the one we'll end up with. I think that's good, because why would we even bother being in the relationship if we don't hope that it's going to last, right?
But no matter how fantastic this dream is, I haven't actually forgotten what happens in reality and I understand that it takes a great great luck to have this kind of love story. And most of us don't have that luck because if we did, we won't be feeling that prickling sensation in our chest right now. If we had such luck our hearts wouldn't ever be shattered. It would never happen because the first person we gave it to was able to take really good care of our feelings. But he didn't, sorry.
Our first heartbreak was the moment our dream of marrying our first love was shattered. The great dream turned into our greatest frustration, giving us a lot of What Ifs and What Could Have Beens. Yes, it's just an end to an experience and not the end of our lives even if it felt that way.
But your first love is a unique love, and I don't think we'll ever feel the same when we fall in love again or when we finally fall in love with the right guy. It will always be different the first time.