You Shouldn't Be Guilty of Changing
I've changed a lot and people have noticed. I thought they would be happy with those changes, not that I was doing it for them anyway, but some of the things that I've heard have been a bit disheartening. To be honest, I once questioned my changes and thought that I was going the wrong direction. I felt guilty.
I felt guilty for becoming someone more confident. I felt guilty for being more friendly. I felt guilty for being more accepting of others. I felt guilty, because that's how some people made me feel. Thankfully, I realized that what I felt was wrong because one should never have to feel guilty for changing.
I realized that what I felt was wrong because one should never have to feel guilty for changing.
There will be people who will want you to become the person that they envisioned for you. They will make you feel as though their presence in your life should significantly affect your outcome, that your triumphs should somehow be linked to their influence. They will feel a motherly instinct to guide you to the "right" path, but that path was never truly right, because it was theirs and not yours. The path you take should be from your heart and not from someone else's ideals.
They will feel a motherly instinct to guide you to the "right" path, but that path was never truly right, because it was theirs and not yours. The path you take should be from your heart and not from someone else's ideals.
There will be people who won't want you to change because it threatens them. They will slowly notice the subtle changes, and they will slowly feel as though you've unknowingly drag them to the ground. You were once in a safe place for them, a place where you couldn't shine and show your potentials, but you've changed. And that scares them.
There will be friends who will say that they want the old you back. They will miss the moments you shared and the conversations you once had. You might have once thought that these friends were "for keeps", but you should know that real friends are the ones who will love you throughout all the changes you'll go through, not just during one point in your life. They are the ones who know you truly and will find the real you no matter how many times you've "changed."
People change from the experiences they've had. Some change because they've "grown up" and realigned their priorities. Others change out of necessity. Others change for the better. Whatever the reason may be, I believe there's always a valid reason for changing, but not everyone will accept that at first, and not everyone will accept that at all.
What you need to keep in mind is that you aren't a character in someone else's story. You can't be shaped the way they want you to. You aren't a character on a TV show or in a movie that's there to please them. There was never an obligation to embody a certain trait or act a certain way. You aren't here to be something or someone for another person.
There was never an obligation to embody a certain trait or act a certain way. You aren't here to be something or someone for another person.ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
You are here to be you. You're here to learn from your mistakes and become a better individual through them. You're here to become mature with your choices and recognize what matters most. You're here to be proud of yourself and who you've become. You should never feel guilty for changing because, in the first place, other people should not pressure you to become their vision of you. You should work towards your vision of yourself, of who you want to become.
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To the Person Who Does Not Know Any 1D Song
By: CJ Reyno
Never in my wildest dream I imagined to meet someone who does not know a single One Direction song or who does not even know, Harry Styles, Louis Tomlinson, Liam Payne, Niall Horan, and err… Zayn Malik. How did you spend your teenagehood without listening to their songs? The disrespect to my #StyPayHorLikSon. My initial reaction, Vas Happenin’?
Since I was 12 years old, that was way back on 2012, One Direction songs have been my official life soundtrip, my go-to songs whenever I feel happy, sad, mad, excited, and etch. I can still remember how people went crazy just to attend their concert here in the Philippines. I must admit, I was one of those. LOL. The group was also dubbed as, “The Biggest Boyband in the World”. They were an era. You really left me in awe when you told me that you do not know a single One Direction song. Their songs are gold. But I was a little hopeful when a new messaged popped up on our conversation, “Hey I know one, Make You Beautiful”.
You do not know how my world collapsed after reading your message. I would like to say that I appreciate the effort, thanks, but they do not have a song entitled, Make You Beautiful, because it is, What Makes You Beautiful. I tried to explain but you said that they are just the same. (Tip: Never fight with a Directioner when it comes to this because we will not let our guards down). No! They are not the same. How can you make this big mistake? LOL. What Makes You Beautiful is One Direction’s debut song. Almost everyone knows this, “you’re insecure, don’t know what for,” ring a bell? The music video of this surpassed 1 billion views on Youtube. On my 21 years of existence, you are the very first person who told me this “I-Thought-It-Was-A-Joke-But-You-Are-Serious” statement.
As a persuasive fangirl, I thought to myself that I should make you appreciate their music, that you should know that it is What Makes You Beautiful, not Make You Beautiful. The group may be in hiatus but their music is and will always remain superior. You are hard-headed lad. We even when to the point where you challenged me to treat so I can make you watch their music video. Am I even surprised that I agreed to this? HAHA. I feel like an agent trying to persuade her customer to buy a property on our company. You do not know how happy I was when you sent me your video listening to What Makes You Beautiful. I felt like I successfully closed a deal with my client. Not to exaggerate but I really jumped because of happiness after watching your video. It was the first message I checked that morning. Thank you for your effort, so much appreciated. Funny how our conversation starts with your innocence on One Direction until it goes deeper and last longer. Up All Nigh conversations which turned to almost Midnight Memories. Ironic how a Directioner had developed an admiration on someone who dislikes her favorite boys? Just like One Direction’s song, Change My Mind, “Never felt like this before. Are we friends or are we more?” I guess, like Liam’s line on Love You Goodbye, “It's inevitable everything that's good comes to an end. It's impossible to know if after this we can still be friends.”
I was happy that I made you listen to One Direction. At least I made you appreciate and made you aware that there is a song called, What Makes You Beautiful, not Make You Beautiful. I am happy that you already found your Girl Almighty. Wish me luck on finding my Summer Love. xoxo, Your Directioner friend
Here's a fan art that I made for Lee Joo Young of Itaewon class! I've been making digital illustration since last year and I'm happy that I was able to see my improvements. I'm also happy to see people's reactions and support for my craft even though all of it are made through my phone (adobe illustrator) only ????. You don't actually have to use expensive or complicated medium as long as you know how to be creative and like what you're doing, then you can do it. ????