You Shouldn't Be Guilty of Changing
I've changed a lot and people have noticed. I thought they would be happy with those changes, not that I was doing it for them anyway, but some of the things that I've heard have been a bit disheartening. To be honest, I once questioned my changes and thought that I was going the wrong direction. I felt guilty.
I felt guilty for becoming someone more confident. I felt guilty for being more friendly. I felt guilty for being more accepting of others. I felt guilty, because that's how some people made me feel. Thankfully, I realized that what I felt was wrong because one should never have to feel guilty for changing.
I realized that what I felt was wrong because one should never have to feel guilty for changing.
There will be people who will want you to become the person that they envisioned for you. They will make you feel as though their presence in your life should significantly affect your outcome, that your triumphs should somehow be linked to their influence. They will feel a motherly instinct to guide you to the "right" path, but that path was never truly right, because it was theirs and not yours. The path you take should be from your heart and not from someone else's ideals.
They will feel a motherly instinct to guide you to the "right" path, but that path was never truly right, because it was theirs and not yours. The path you take should be from your heart and not from someone else's ideals.
There will be people who won't want you to change because it threatens them. They will slowly notice the subtle changes, and they will slowly feel as though you've unknowingly drag them to the ground. You were once in a safe place for them, a place where you couldn't shine and show your potentials, but you've changed. And that scares them.
There will be friends who will say that they want the old you back. They will miss the moments you shared and the conversations you once had. You might have once thought that these friends were "for keeps", but you should know that real friends are the ones who will love you throughout all the changes you'll go through, not just during one point in your life. They are the ones who know you truly and will find the real you no matter how many times you've "changed."
People change from the experiences they've had. Some change because they've "grown up" and realigned their priorities. Others change out of necessity. Others change for the better. Whatever the reason may be, I believe there's always a valid reason for changing, but not everyone will accept that at first, and not everyone will accept that at all.
What you need to keep in mind is that you aren't a character in someone else's story. You can't be shaped the way they want you to. You aren't a character on a TV show or in a movie that's there to please them. There was never an obligation to embody a certain trait or act a certain way. You aren't here to be something or someone for another person.
There was never an obligation to embody a certain trait or act a certain way. You aren't here to be something or someone for another person.
You are here to be you. You're here to learn from your mistakes and become a better individual through them. You're here to become mature with your choices and recognize what matters most. You're here to be proud of yourself and who you've become. You should never feel guilty for changing because, in the first place, other people should not pressure you to become their vision of you. You should work towards your vision of yourself, of who you want to become.