From Our Readers: You Can Still Feel Lost in Your 20s
Are you in your 20s? Are you scared and confused? Don't worry, you're not alone.
At 25, they say you should have a stable job. You should be in a happy relationship. You should be contented with what you have. But what if you're 25 and you're still trying to figure out everything?
At 25, you don't have to know everything. There will be times where you have to ask a question or questions. It's not degrading your knowledge or your judgment; it's called learning. A lot of times, we think that being an adult means knowing everything when what we do is almost the same just like what kids do.
At 25, you don't have to know everything.
At 25, you can say no. It's not about getting in the zone or going along with the crowd. It's about what you're most comfortable about. If you don't feel like getting out on a Friday night, you can say no to your friends and tell them you're staying in instead. There's no harm in doing what you want.
At 25, you can still cry. Who says that when you're an adult, you have to be tough? You're human and every human being cries. If you get hurt because your boss yells at you, cry even if it's in secret. If you get into a fight with your friend or your boyfriend or girlfriend, cry. It's not being that you're a softy or you're weak, it only goes to show that you're hurting.
At 25, you can still cry. Who says that when you're an adult, you have to be tough?
At 25, you can still be lost. You can be jobless. You can be single. You can worry about a lot of things. Quarter life crisis is real. If you think you've got it all figured out, think again. Maybe what you want isn't what you're doing right now. Maybe who you're with isn't the one for you.
Maybe just when you thought that what you have is enough, that's the moment you realize things aren't really enough. You're still getting there, a long and winding road is ahead of you. Do what you think you want to do. Don't confine yourself in a place where you're not happy. Happiness isn't something you get from a job or a relationship; it's something from deep within you. You will figure out what you want, so go ahead and do it.
Remember, the path that you're walking on right now might not be the one for you. Go ahead and make your own path instead.