From Our Readers: Would You Hold On a Little Longer?
Picture yourself in the corner of your room while mentally playing back the last scene filled with shattered screams, cracked voices, heavy footsteps, and slamming of doors. Can you remember the anguish drawn to his face subconsciously reflecting yours? Or the words that sounded so petty yet had put so much gasoline to the flame? Those can cloud you up, yes, but focus on it a little bit; that person who was halfway out your life was the very same person you were sure of to love for who they are and for who they are not.
So before you call it quits, why not try something refreshing that everybody may seem to have forgotten? Why not hold on a little longer instead of letting go that easy?
First things first, a relationship is where each should act in harmony, where one fills what is lacking, and the other holds what is overflowing. One would not be in it if he did not consider things beforehand—things like seeing the person who looks so much like an ever after, things like the sweet anticipation of seeing that person's face every day. Surely you have seen something worthy of your commitment that was why you took the risk in the first place. Therefore, you both built it. And you built it, and not because you want to see it fall apart.
The point of holding on basically revolves around loyalty which is well-founded by love. The book Insight defines loyalty as "the kindness that lovingly attaches itself to an object until its purpose in connection with that object is realized." That simply means what you have built must not be broken by petty quarrels and wounded egos.
A lot of people may suggest that letting go is the best act of love you could do, but that is just the easy way and not the only way. Some may say that holding on is you being a martyr but come on, you never entered the relationship just to see it end especially with conflicts that can be resolved by a sincere apology and great understanding. Conflicts exist because they have a solution; they never exist to be left on their own. After all, letting go ends up hurting both of you. Can you imagine the ache it would cost you to see your dearest go the moment you let them?
A lot of people may suggest that letting go is the best act of love you could do, but that is just the easy way and not the only way.
As you sit there in the corner of your room, instead of paying too much attention to what happened moments ago, lengthen your patience and think about why you chose the person in the first place. Remember your late-night conversations, the way he held your hands, the way you say good night to each other anticipating a bright good morning sunshine together. Think about those moments before everything came crashing down. Think about the things you can let to pass.
You might as well remember that you have given your share to the conflict. Think of something that could motivate you to forgive. You don't have to be right all the time, anyway. Remember, losing the argument against your loved ones is very much okay that losing your loved ones.