From Our Readers: Why You Should Be Friends with Your Ex
A couple of days ago, I saw a post about why we can't be friends with an ex. It got me thinking, and I don't agree. You should be friends with your ex because, once in your lives, you filled each other's voids. You finished each other's sentences before anyone else did. You said yes to numerous things you're very much afraid about because he was there, holding your hand so tight that you thought he'd never let go. But he did.
You should be friends with your ex because once in your lives, you filled each other's voids.
You should be friends with your ex because he knows a lot of things about you. You told him your deepest secrets at three in the morning, hoping everyone was asleep and couldn't hear your hisses and inhales. You gave him a story about that crazy girl you have been annoyed with, or when you divulged yourself in deep thought about your best friend while you two are seated on the rooftop, gazing at the stars. You did things out of love that no one had the idea you could do.
You should be friends with your ex because he made you happy. Every time you failed at something, he always caressed you with his warmth embrace and sprayed you with his lines, "It's going to be okay, baby." And you believed him. You believed in him and in yourself that it will really be okay.
You should be friends with your ex because his pullovers and hoodies are the warmest and softest things, ever. You can still smell his scent after a very long day, while you are hugging them as tight as you could, dreaming that it was him you're holding. You never returned this piece of comfort, even if you two ended.
You should be friends with your ex because why not? You may just be his fan, his spectator, his tutor, his lab partner, or you may be his best friend, his long-time crush, childhood friend before you two got together romantically. But here's the reality, you liked each other for a reason.
The two of you did not just waste a couple of months or years just to ruin each other. You had a great relationship, a great bond.
You should be friends with your ex because you are friends first of all. You may or may not still be over him but you should not be afraid that you could fall again. The reason why you cannot be friends with your ex is because you are still trapped in this little thing called love.