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From Our Readers: Why I Am Saying No to a Valentine's Date

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Call me bitter but there's no such thing as a Valentine's date.

All this time I was wondering why people crave for special emotions and fantasies wrapped around a special someone on this special day. Then I realize the next day that those 24 hours just passed. Why in the world do we feel bizarre on this day? Others who have that someone are lucky, but for most of us who don't feel pressured to have at least someone to spend those hours with, it's a bit hard to belong.

They say, "She might have had hurt so much before to be this bitter" or that "She should have a life and don't infect others of her bitterness."

First, I may be single but not bitter. Second, never will I be bitter because of my past or whatever complicated situation I am in right now. I only believe in one thing; everything happens for a reason. Whatever that reason may be, I will always be thankful for how it makes me what I am right now—stronger, wiser and bolder. This is not about me not believing in Valentine's Day. I'm just saying no to Valentine's date.


I actually don't believe in Valentine's date. I don't believe in the flowers, chocolates, stuffed toys, and all those couple-y things that are very popular this season. People are going to all these "special places" that are ordinary on regular days. The price of flowers go up, public places get chaotic, and gift items get so expensive. But the real reason why I don't believe in Valentine's dates is because of you.

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I don't believe in Valentine's dates because whenever we're together, I don't need any butterflies in my stomach because it's like you're giving me the entire zoo. I don't believe in dates on February 14 because we have February 13 and 15 to do things that other people are reserving to do only for that date alone.

I don't believe in dates on February 14 because we have February 13 and 15 to do things that other people are reserving to do only for that date alone.


I stopped believing in Valentine's date when I loved you. Days are gone when I needed constant "I love you" just to be assured that you really do. You know that actions speak louder than words and somehow, that's enough for you. This love is unconditional that never will I trade it for any other labeled relationship. However, after all those acts of service, physical touch, quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, those three words are still important for me.

I still don't believe in Valentine's date even if you tell me you love me. These aren't the only words I want to hear from you. I also want you to treat me nice. I don't believe in Valentine's date not because I'm bitter or I'm single or in a complicated relationship or because of my ugly past. Aside from all the hustle and bustle of this day, I don't believe in that because I know I can be with you even before or after February 14, and we can make any date a Valentine's date.


I don't believe in Valentine's date because I believe in love, I believe in you, I believe in the magic we can do together. It's a time to be better instead of being better, whether you believe in having a date today or not.










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