From Our Readers: Why I Am Saying No to a Valentine's Date
Call me bitter but there's no such thing as a Valentine's date.
All this time I was wondering why people crave for special emotions and fantasies wrapped around a special someone on this special day. Then I realize the next day that those 24 hours just passed. Why in the world do we feel bizarre on this day? Others who have that someone are lucky, but for most of us who don't feel pressured to have at least someone to spend those hours with, it's a bit hard to belong.
They say, "She might have had hurt so much before to be this bitter" or that "She should have a life and don't infect others of her bitterness."
First, I may be single but not bitter. Second, never will I be bitter because of my past or whatever complicated situation I am in right now. I only believe in one thing; everything happens for a reason. Whatever that reason may be, I will always be thankful for how it makes me what I am right now—stronger, wiser and bolder. This is not about me not believing in Valentine's Day. I'm just saying no to Valentine's date.
I actually don't believe in Valentine's date. I don't believe in the flowers, chocolates, stuffed toys, and all those couple-y things that are very popular this season. People are going to all these "special places" that are ordinary on regular days. The price of flowers go up, public places get chaotic, and gift items get so expensive. But the real reason why I don't believe in Valentine's dates is because of you.
I don't believe in Valentine's dates because whenever we're together, I don't need any butterflies in my stomach because it's like you're giving me the entire zoo. I don't believe in dates on February 14 because we have February 13 and 15 to do things that other people are reserving to do only for that date alone.
I don't believe in dates on February 14 because we have February 13 and 15 to do things that other people are reserving to do only for that date alone.ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
I stopped believing in Valentine's date when I loved you. Days are gone when I needed constant "I love you" just to be assured that you really do. You know that actions speak louder than words and somehow, that's enough for you. This love is unconditional that never will I trade it for any other labeled relationship. However, after all those acts of service, physical touch, quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, those three words are still important for me.
I still don't believe in Valentine's date even if you tell me you love me. These aren't the only words I want to hear from you. I also want you to treat me nice. I don't believe in Valentine's date not because I'm bitter or I'm single or in a complicated relationship or because of my ugly past. Aside from all the hustle and bustle of this day, I don't believe in that because I know I can be with you even before or after February 14, and we can make any date a Valentine's date.
I don't believe in Valentine's date because I believe in love, I believe in you, I believe in the magic we can do together. It's a time to be better instead of being better, whether you believe in having a date today or not.
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Here's my two cents on the letter, call for help of our medical frontliners. Let’s hear what our healthcare workers have to say and try to understand it from their point of view, they have every right to criticize how this medical crisis is being handled by the government... after all, they're the experts on the topic. Though we see the frontliners as heroes in our eyes, the lack of concrete plans from the government to combat COVID-19 makes them feel otherwise. Healthcare workers are already starting to voice out how they feel as though they are being sacrificed as they follow through their sworn oath. We wouldn’t send our soldiers to war unarmed and without a concrete plan; the same should be expected for our frontliners. How can we send them to battle without proper gear? Why is there still a debate on whether mass testing is needed or not when the experts on that field continuously insist its importance in flattening the curve? Why is this still not the priority when it’s literally our lives on the line? It’s not like the medical experts demanding for mass testing are just stating their opinion about this mindlessly, they studied this laboriously. Make them feel heard so that all the sacrifices that they’re doing and all the deaths of their colleagues are not in vain. More than the words of praises, what our medical professionals truly need right now is TANGIBLE support. Here is to hoping they get that soon. @errren.22
*Minor edits have been made for clarity
Here is a photograph taken yesterday from the photo shoot I did in our house. ? I really love dressing up and being dolled up, it makes me feel great and confident of who I am ?
I was actually hesitant to post these pictures of mine. My sister eveb asked me to change my Facebook Profile Picture and it took me hours to decide if I should. But, I realized that this is me, the real me. I should be confident of my body and of who I really am.
At the end of the day, I dress up not for other people but for myself ? To all the ladies out there and even gentlemen who are taking a second to think if they should post their pictures, worried about what will others say their body, remember that we just need to be just ourselves. Be confident and let us support each other ? Let us be friends! IG: @romynaaaaaaa_
They say time heals all wounds, but it has been ages - is heartbreak exempted?
I have forgotten when was the last time we shared a smile - the last time when I saw the glow in your eyes and the last time when you whispered an I love you to me. I have forgotten when, but here I am - writing to you again.
I do not know if you will read this or you will just add this one to my proses and poems that you left unread, but you see, I am still hoping. I am mailing the pain of us to the gods out there - hoping they can take the pain away. I should have gotten over you, but instead of forgetting and accepting our ending, I am writing about us in tissue sheets, carving about us on trees, telling about us on the back of my journals, hoping that a thousand or a million write ups about us, can make me forget about what happened.
I am writing, waiting for the point where I can no longer write anymore, for I have none to tell - but when? I have nothing in me anymore, but the memories of us - and no matter how hard I try put those to its own grave, the memories grow back like lilies in the swamp - painful and beautiful at the same time.
No matter how hard I try to silence those and put it at the back of my mind, those ring back, playing like the favorite song we used to listen. They say heartbreaks turn into poetry and that is what happening to us - but poetry should be dulcet and dreamy, why does ours sound like pain and agony? They say time heals all wounds, but it has been ages - is heartbreak exempted? Darling, I guess not.
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