From Our Readers: What Inspired Me to Come Out
On my 18th birthday, I used to be so fearful and ashamed of who I wanted to be. I was taught that if you're a girl, you shouldn't kiss a girl or hold her hands. If you're a boy, you can't be clingy with other guys. I was taught that I'm a girl, therefore, I should be with a boy. But as I was getting older and I get exposed to the real world, my fear turned into courage. I told myself that not everything they taught me was right.
I told myself that love knows no gender and that I should love whoever I want to.
I remember having a girl crush at a young age but I was so afraid to tell anyone because of the judgement I might get. But when I was getting older, I've met a few people who already came out of their shell and I know those people won't judge me. So I asked for their advice and what they told me is to never be afraid of who I really am.
I was 17 when I first told my mom that I think I'm bisexual and fortunately, all she told me was that as long as I'm not stepping on anyone, she will still support me.
Last November, I completely came out of my shell through a Facebook post. I fearlessly composed a message for my friends and family that I am bisexual. I didn't expect their overwhelming love and support and that motivated me to show the world who I really am.
If you're going to ask me what inspired me to come out, it's most probably myself and nothing else. Before people can accept who you are, you have to accept yourself first. You have to love who you are before you find someone who's going to love you.
Before people can accept who you are, you have to accept yourself first.
Yes, this world is full of judgmental people and it's just so hard to come out, but they will never matter because the only important people here is your family. If your friends can't accept who you are, they are not true friends in the first place. You can judge me. You can call me a sinner (we all are, anyway). You can call me names. You can call me anything you want but your judgement will never change who I am.
No, I'm not confused. No, this is not just a phase. Yes, this is who I am. I am bisexual and I will always be proud of it.