From Our Readers: To the Insecure One
"I am fat."
"I am ugly."
"I feel stupid."
"I will never be enough."
You must have been tired of hearing us complain about our physical appearance, social status, rigid gender roles, low mental capacity, and emotional distress. If not, I'm guessing you will be, maybe not now but I'm sure you'll feel that way in the future.
I know that somehow, in some way, you will find a way to hate me—to see the bad things that I see in myself, to think that "Yeah, she's not worth my time and care and love." And that's not a new thing to me; people always leave.
There were times when I look in the mirror and see nothing but the emptiness inside—nothing. Trust me, I know how hard it is to love a person like me because I have been trying to love myself all my life, and it was the most difficult thing to do. I was thisclose to accepting that I will always be a loser, that I'm ugly, and that I'm a person who's not worthy of love. But you know what?
Never have I been so wrong in my life.
I am beautiful. I am intelligent. I am enough. I am worth it. The moment you start telling yourself what you are, you start to be like it, you start to believe it. I realized that there's no reason for you not to love yourself because you are worth loving, and you will always be. Nothing will completely replace the happiness you can feel once you have accepted all your flaws and treat them like the the things that make you unique and beautiful. You are in control of making yourself feel beautiful, enough. This process may take a while but it's worth going through, just as what you are—worthy.
You deserve your happiness. So take your time and get it!