From Our Readers: To My Younger Self
You're always worried, overthinking your every move. You regret all the chances you didn't take. You hate getting close to people because you're afraid of getting hurt. But at the same time, you don't want to be alone so you force yourself into getting pushed around through the crowd. You laugh and smile with them, but we both know that they're only touching the surface of who you really are. A big, strong wall is surrounding you.
You turned down almost every single offer because you think that you're not good enough. Or because you're so afraid of stepping out of your comfort zone. But let me tell you something: You're very wrong.
Break down those walls, put yourself out there, and don't be afraid to take a leap.
There's a world of opportunities waiting for you to reach out to them. Don't be afraid of tripping and falling. There will be somebody who will help you get up and if there's no one, there's always you to help yourself get up.
Stop feeling so sad. You'll soon meet people who will genuinely care for you with all of their hearts, and you'll find yourself feeling the same about them. You may get into arguments, but learn to swallow your pride and apologize—they've already forgiven you even before you said sorry.
Stop thinking too much about your future. Everything would fall into place soon enough. You'll struggle at first, but you'll get to where you're supposed to be. Just work hard and stop thinking that it's impossible to do this and that. I can promise you that everything you're whining about right now will eventually happen.
That person you're crushing on? Don't allow your universe to revolve around him. You're much better than that. You can let him occupy your thoughts for now, but don't let him control your life. Wipe your tears and take a deep breath; you deserve so much better.
That boy who keeps looking at you? He likes you. I know you don't like him back. Reject him instantly and save what you can of your friendship. Or else you're going to go through a long cycle of awkwardness. He'll understand and he'll move on, maybe even faster than you ever will.
Those people who keep making you feel bad? Don't mind them. You'll reach higher places than they ever will. I know their words hurt. I know it's easier to just curl up into a ball with your favorite ice cream and cry, but I guarantee you that the pain will end soon. They're nothing but a mere hurdle that you can easily brush off if you choose to.
I know it's easier to just curl up into a ball with your favorite ice cream and cry, but I guarantee you that the pain will end soon.
Stop going crazy over that single failing grade or those harsh words the teacher told you. Take their advice and you'll be able to prove them wrong. That zero will turn into a hundred, that red mark will be a star. If you can't find your name in the honor roll, don't fret; that's just a number that wouldn't be everything once you enter the real world.
Tragedies will come into your life and you'll suffer at some point, but that's only going to be for a short while. Don't sacrifice everything for that brief moment. You'll pick yourself up quicker than you think.
Take my word for it when I say that life will get better. All your doubts will soon fade away. Your fake smiles will turn into real ones. Your tears will dry up and will be replaced with laughter, and you'll find people who'll make life worth living—people like yourself.
Just be patient, good things will come. I promise. And if you're asking for proof? Well, I'm writing this to you with a smile.