From Our Readers: This Is How You Won't Lose Yourself
Nineteen. This is the age when we have started to taste the different flavors of life and love. Some of us have experienced love and has enjoyed its good parts. Some have cowered because they've only experienced its bitterness and sourness. While some are happily enjoying the company of their family and friends, while patiently waiting for the right one to come.
Love comes in different shapes and forms—from loving someone and being loved back to loving someone silently from afar. So for all of us who are in the journey of living life and finding love, let me share how you can experience it without losing yourself.
My mother taught me to never settle for anything, especially for something less than your true worth. Liking someone and yearning for them to like you back is normal. However, cliché as it may seem, do not ever change yourself to someone you are not just for that guy or for people to like you.
Do not ever change yourself to someone you are not just for that guy or for people to like you.
If that guy likes boyish girls, do not try to be one when you love being girly and dressing up. If that guy likes pretty girls with fair, white skin, do not hate yourself for not being close to his ideal type because you are wonderfully made. Do not let anyone define you into someone less beautiful than you actually are.
Look in the mirror, love your tan skin, love your curls, love the freckles that form beautiful constellations on your skin.
Love yourself and let the people around you know about that because by loving yourself, you're also giving off a happy vibe. Do not lose yourself on the verge of living life and finding your soul mate.
Never bend. You were made to stand out, so only bend when it is necessary to do so, when it involves your growth, and when you think that bending will be worth it in the end. Soon, under God's clock, you will find someone who will not require anything from you but your smile.
Nineteen, that is what you are; no longer young yet not old. Life is wonderuful, so live, love, but never barter your true self just to be liked by someone. You are you and they are they. We are uniquely made with a purpose, remember that.
Live, but never lose yourself. This is how you won't lose "you."