Sometimes, in life, there will be times when you face so much pain that you won't know how to deal with it. Maybe because it's your first time experiencing that pain or you've just never learned how to cope with it. You might get overwhelmed with the pain that it will constantly be on your mind. You'll think it's impossible to get over it.
The truth? You'll eventually move on from it.
But even if you get a little help along the way from your family and friends, no one can really help you get through the pain except you. You will start to think every decision you make is wrong. You'll think how much you're going to affect another person, and you don't want that. You will start to feel too emotional constantly, as if the whole thing was your fault. And whether you believe in Him or not, you're going to ask God to stop whatever it is He's doing with your life because everything's going wrong.
But here are the things I can promise you:
First, I promise that you are not alone. Probably one of the worst feelings of being in pain, is that you will think no one will fully understand what you're feeling. Because of this, you'll tend to disregard or avoid all topics concerning what caused you to feel that way. But trust me when I say that if you find the right people to talk to, you'll find someone who gets just how you feel. They might not entirely feel the same way as you do, but talking to them will only help you release all that emotion you've been feeling all along.
This doesn't mean, though, that what caused your pain should take all the blame. They were merely living their lives; you're living yours. If anything, they gave you something only a few people can—an experience to learn from.
Second, I promise that you will get through the pain if you want to. If you keep telling and assuring yourself that this is something you'll never be able to get through, you definitely won't. If you tell yourself that you're not ready to get over it, you won't be ready. But this doesn't mean you'll never be; just take the time and you will see.
It's true when people say that the only thing that's stopping you to achieve something is yourself. You can talk to your friends and family about what you're feeling. Take advice from them. Listen to what they have to say. But in the end, if you want to learn to get through your own pain, you have to learn how to take that first step. And that first step is making the decision yourself.
If you are in need of help, we have a suicide prevention hotline 804-4673 (HOPE). According to the World Health Organization (WHO), 350 million people worldwide suffer from depression. You're never alone in this battle so let's stop the stigma on depression and treat mental illnesses as valid illnesses.