From Our Readers: "I May Be Alone, But I Am Not Lonely"

Think of what makes you happy and do it-the rest are irrelevant.
by Renei Ashley Elcano   |  Apr 12, 2017
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This life, your life is all about you, not about someone or anyone. Put yourself first.

Pick yourself, pull yourself together, buy your own Band-Aid, stitch yourself together, wipe your tears, remind yourself that you're okay. Comfort yourself, believe in yourself, save yourself no matter what because no one is going to do it for you.

Don't depend on anyone's word because you'll end up disappointing yourself. Don't make them promise you something and never expect anything, the possibility of them breaking it is a a hundred and one so don't keep your hopes up; it'll just dismantle you in the end.

People will leave you, they will break their promise, they will disappoint and shower you with pain so the best prevention is to only trust yourself, no exemptions.

So keep yourself together and accept the fact that you are on your own. Everyone has their own things and problems to face so don't beg someone to be your knight in shining armor. Again, at the end of the day, you are on your own.


At the end of the day, you are on your own.

People might hold your hand or might lend them their shoulder for you to cry on, but that doesn't always mean they genuinely care for you. Because when the pain gets real and things become difficult, there's a big possibility that they will leave eventually. And when they do, don't beg them to stay. It's not worth the effort. You are on your own.

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Don't go latching onto someone and expect them to be with you through good times and bad times. Don't go dreaming that they will stick with you until the end, because that won't happen. People get tired, people change, and eventually leave, so wake up! You are not anyone's damsel in distress. Life is too tough to ask someone to carry your burden with you.

You are not anyone's damsel in distress.

Although there is nothing wrong with being optimistic, just don't let it blind you from the truth. Truth hurts but lies are silent killers, too, so be careful. It is also the my kindest way of saying that you don't need anyone. You will be fine on your own.


Be realistic. That way, you won't suffer in the end. People are mean, so you should be stronger. Don't let them walk on you. Don't let them belittle you. Don't give up without a fight. After all, it's not about who won or lost the battle. The fact that you fought and stood up for yourself is enough to proclaim yourself victorious. 

Never endure pain for anyone. Never put your happines behind for the sake of others. Think of what makes you happy and do it—the rest are irrelevant. It is selfish, yes. But I would like to remind you that you also had your fair share of miseries because of other people's selfishness. Being selfless is good, but if you always put other people first, that will kill you.

Think of what makes you happy and do it—the rest are irrelevant.

Sometimes being alone doesn't really mean you're lonely. It was your choice, not theirs. Being alone is not actually a bad thing, a sad thing, or even a pathetic thing. Remember that life is hard, but at the same time, those difficulties that you've been through brought you here and made you come all the way here. They made you as strong as steel and unbreakable like a diamond, so cheer up. When life gives you lemons, as they say, then make a lot of lemonade.


Your purpose in life is to enjoy it, be happy, and be you.

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