From Our Readers: "I May Be Alone, But I Am Not Lonely"
This life, your life is all about you, not about someone or anyone. Put yourself first.
Pick yourself, pull yourself together, buy your own Band-Aid, stitch yourself together, wipe your tears, remind yourself that you're okay. Comfort yourself, believe in yourself, save yourself no matter what because no one is going to do it for you.
Don't depend on anyone's word because you'll end up disappointing yourself. Don't make them promise you something and never expect anything, the possibility of them breaking it is a a hundred and one so don't keep your hopes up; it'll just dismantle you in the end.
People will leave you, they will break their promise, they will disappoint and shower you with pain so the best prevention is to only trust yourself, no exemptions.
So keep yourself together and accept the fact that you are on your own. Everyone has their own things and problems to face so don't beg someone to be your knight in shining armor. Again, at the end of the day, you are on your own.
At the end of the day, you are on your own.
People might hold your hand or might lend them their shoulder for you to cry on, but that doesn't always mean they genuinely care for you. Because when the pain gets real and things become difficult, there's a big possibility that they will leave eventually. And when they do, don't beg them to stay. It's not worth the effort. You are on your own.
Don't go latching onto someone and expect them to be with you through good times and bad times. Don't go dreaming that they will stick with you until the end, because that won't happen. People get tired, people change, and eventually leave, so wake up! You are not anyone's damsel in distress. Life is too tough to ask someone to carry your burden with you.
You are not anyone's damsel in distress.
Although there is nothing wrong with being optimistic, just don't let it blind you from the truth. Truth hurts but lies are silent killers, too, so be careful. It is also the my kindest way of saying that you don't need anyone. You will be fine on your own.
Be realistic. That way, you won't suffer in the end. People are mean, so you should be stronger. Don't let them walk on you. Don't let them belittle you. Don't give up without a fight. After all, it's not about who won or lost the battle. The fact that you fought and stood up for yourself is enough to proclaim yourself victorious.
Never endure pain for anyone. Never put your happines behind for the sake of others. Think of what makes you happy and do it—the rest are irrelevant. It is selfish, yes. But I would like to remind you that you also had your fair share of miseries because of other people's selfishness. Being selfless is good, but if you always put other people first, that will kill you.
Think of what makes you happy and do it—the rest are irrelevant.
Sometimes being alone doesn't really mean you're lonely. It was your choice, not theirs. Being alone is not actually a bad thing, a sad thing, or even a pathetic thing. Remember that life is hard, but at the same time, those difficulties that you've been through brought you here and made you come all the way here. They made you as strong as steel and unbreakable like a diamond, so cheer up. When life gives you lemons, as they say, then make a lot of lemonade.
Your purpose in life is to enjoy it, be happy, and be you.
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these sheets that exactly remind me of how I gushed in between my pillow and space you filled in the longing of my burned sorrow put smile to my sober face just like how a three year old receive her lollipop
i searched you everywhere and here you are laying down beside me in my imagination the walls that our screens built a boundary and an obvious message that says i can never have you because you wear clerical shirt and obviously you loved someone else before me
oh god, do I really want this forbidden love? that only exist in my imagination? that only exist through my words? would you, meine liebling, notice me and my art one second? because I am dying to say I love you.
A Simple Learner Who's a Great Pretender
Maybe I'm just a learner, not a weirdo. A learner that knows how to listen and pretend. A simple learner who's a great pretender. Pretending to be slightly dumb enough not to be judged and criticized by those who do not appreciate my existence. We surround ourselves with people who's levels are either beyond or below our intellectual behavior, because as for reality, people may use you either for their success or your downfall. Since then, people tend to judge someone who has an intellect with things they shouldn't be. Making them a criticizer, and most of all, calling them weird.
Honestly, I'm one of this "weirdo" who actually loves to learn things, and for the record, I'm bullied and stressed out for making myself not to learn more and go with the flow to dumbness I had. Have you ever feel being assigned to some task where you know every process to make it easier and faster to finish but turns out to hesitate to voice out because some of your mates put themselves in charge. There are times where I know what to do, what to say, or how to react, but kept myself silent and pretend not to know anything that may help us. Maybe it's a good thing to just go with their ideas and learn from their perspectives, but sometimes you can't control it and says something, and once again called to be a weirdo and let you finish the work by yourself.
It's annoying that you only know one process yet they gave you the whole work and let you finish it by yourself because they insist that "MAGALING KA DIBA?". It's not your fault being an intellectual person, knowing such things that may help you to pursue your dreams, and have the basic knowledge about something. You don't need to know everything, just the basics. And as for those people who do not appreciate your existence, let them be and continue what's the best for you. In some cases, you'll be annoyed by this but most of the time you'll be thankful for it. Not for now but maybe later. Just be yourself either a weirdo, a great pretender, or a simple learner, and always remember to lower your voice and behavior because no one loves that.
Just be a great pretender not to hear any runts and be a good learner that appreciates everything. It's out of nowhere thoughts of mine, but simply I leave you this my favorite life quotation; "Don't introduce yourself, Let your success introduce you"
Dear me in six years, I wonder how life will treat you when you’re already 26 years old. Will you be financially stable? Will you be working in an advertising agency while pursuing everything about the arts? Will you be doing freelancing and living in a condo by then? I don’t know since things are very uncertain. I hope by the time you graduate from college and face the real meaning of the world, you’ll know what the real purpose of doing and living in the art will be.
I know it’s been so tough ever since you turned 20 but that’s how life works, I guess. There will be a lot of hopes and trials, breakdowns, and breakthroughs but I have high hopes of you becoming the better version of yourself. You always do, though. You were never a quitter. Making decisions is getting harder and harder as you grow but I hope it doesn’t make you stop doing what you really love to do. You will face different people with different perspectives. You will feel like a stranger once again, it’s like you were back in your freshmen year. It’s going to be tougher than you’ve expected but you can do it. I believe you can.
Most of the time, people's perception of us as a strong person makes us feel that we are not entitled to be vulnerable because they might be disappointed for seeing our weak spots. And so when we are hurting, we are often scared of extreme emotions and so bury our feelings. We deny them, trying to avoid the pain we feel.
But by doing that, we are just allowing it to come back to us and haunt us. And when it comes back, it might be stronger and it will be harder for us to get over it than when we faced them first. I realized it just now that facing those emotions will scare them until they're gone. The saying 'Let it hurt until it hurts no more' goes true. Admitting your pain to yourself doesn't make you weak. It only proves that you are strong enough to acknowledge such extreme emotions without avoiding them. We are humans and it's okay if we hurt sometimes.