From Our Readers: "I May Be Alone, But I Am Not Lonely"
This life, your life is all about you, not about someone or anyone. Put yourself first.
Pick yourself, pull yourself together, buy your own Band-Aid, stitch yourself together, wipe your tears, remind yourself that you're okay. Comfort yourself, believe in yourself, save yourself no matter what because no one is going to do it for you.
Don't depend on anyone's word because you'll end up disappointing yourself. Don't make them promise you something and never expect anything, the possibility of them breaking it is a a hundred and one so don't keep your hopes up; it'll just dismantle you in the end.
People will leave you, they will break their promise, they will disappoint and shower you with pain so the best prevention is to only trust yourself, no exemptions.
So keep yourself together and accept the fact that you are on your own. Everyone has their own things and problems to face so don't beg someone to be your knight in shining armor. Again, at the end of the day, you are on your own.
At the end of the day, you are on your own.
People might hold your hand or might lend them their shoulder for you to cry on, but that doesn't always mean they genuinely care for you. Because when the pain gets real and things become difficult, there's a big possibility that they will leave eventually. And when they do, don't beg them to stay. It's not worth the effort. You are on your own.
Don't go latching onto someone and expect them to be with you through good times and bad times. Don't go dreaming that they will stick with you until the end, because that won't happen. People get tired, people change, and eventually leave, so wake up! You are not anyone's damsel in distress. Life is too tough to ask someone to carry your burden with you.
You are not anyone's damsel in distress.
Although there is nothing wrong with being optimistic, just don't let it blind you from the truth. Truth hurts but lies are silent killers, too, so be careful. It is also the my kindest way of saying that you don't need anyone. You will be fine on your own.
Be realistic. That way, you won't suffer in the end. People are mean, so you should be stronger. Don't let them walk on you. Don't let them belittle you. Don't give up without a fight. After all, it's not about who won or lost the battle. The fact that you fought and stood up for yourself is enough to proclaim yourself victorious.
Never endure pain for anyone. Never put your happines behind for the sake of others. Think of what makes you happy and do it—the rest are irrelevant. It is selfish, yes. But I would like to remind you that you also had your fair share of miseries because of other people's selfishness. Being selfless is good, but if you always put other people first, that will kill you.
Think of what makes you happy and do it—the rest are irrelevant.
Sometimes being alone doesn't really mean you're lonely. It was your choice, not theirs. Being alone is not actually a bad thing, a sad thing, or even a pathetic thing. Remember that life is hard, but at the same time, those difficulties that you've been through brought you here and made you come all the way here. They made you as strong as steel and unbreakable like a diamond, so cheer up. When life gives you lemons, as they say, then make a lot of lemonade.
Your purpose in life is to enjoy it, be happy, and be you.
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Outdoors Danielle Flestado @artdkf | May 1, 2020 "I miss the outside world. The last time I went outside of our house was on my birthday. We just bought coffee across our village and went back home immediately. This painting made me feel that I'm in a field, just appreciating the beauty of God's creation. Can you imagine the green grass and pink flowers?"
When everything around you suddenly turns dark, the first thing we'd prolly do, as humans, is to find and grab anything that is closest and nearest to us. We'll hold onto them for as long as we can, trying to collect ourselves and gather courage to adjust our eyesights to the pitch black environment that's consuming us minute by minute. And then you'd hear nothing. Your sense of hearing would somehow go off after not seeing anything for quite awhile. You'll let loose. Cry. Panic. You'll be exhausted for fighting your way out. Then just when you're about to stop and give up, you're no longer afraid. There's only this deafening silence and pithole of darkness that's gonna eat you up alive. And surprisingly, you'll make a home out of it.
You'll make a home out of the darkness that when a ray of light suddenly hits you, you'll try to avoid it. You'll try to cover your eyes. You'll try to cover your ears from the voices trying to help you get out of it. You'll try to hide because your mind and body will go against your will to come out and live. Because the darkness that used to scare you, now comforts you in a way you thought has helped you survived life. And you'll try to live. Day by day. In the darkness. Not knowing where to go. Not knowing where to start. Not knowing who is with you. You will try to live until the darkness that once surrounds you is now within you. And everyday, it's gonna be a cycle of subtle torture. But let me tell you a secret. The darkness won't make you whole.
You'll be broken. And in those hair-like cracks, the light will stubbornly fight its way through until it warms you up. Until you realize to check the switch and turn it on. Until you allow other people to help you find your way back in the light. Until you realize you're ready to live in light again. There's a light at the end of this long and dreading tunnel. The only question that matters: will you let them in?
I always thought of life, like a bead where each piece makes it worth sewing together with other piece of beads to make a stronger bond and to create a beautiful result. Today, how do we bond well with different people especially this difficult time? As this day challenges us to a new normal, may we continue to bead along positively with our life.