I'm the most passive person I know. I like the idea of letting people decide for me, so much that I became obssessed with the idea of allowing people to settle things for me. It may sound easy when written subjectively but it actually feels like I was attached to strings, with someone controlling them so they could do things their way. It feels like I am not capable enough to stand up for myself. You have a million thoughts swarming around your head but uttering them feels so scary that you end up pursing your lips together.
But there's always a way out of this. Here, I listed down a few tips that might actually help you who feel the same way as I do to cope up with the feeling of being controlled.
Dominant people often find their strength towards people who lack confidence in themselves—those who rarely speak up, too afraid to open their mouths because they might utter something so completely wrong. Being passive gives people allows people to dominate over you. So speak up! Learn to boost your self confidence and remind yourself that your opinion matters, too.
Just learn to say no.
Main reason why we become a nice target for puppeteers is because we can't even say the word no. It's never wrong to say no. Not being able to say no means you are allowing other people to control your mind, so you begin to do things their way. Teach yourself that it's okay to disagree when you feel like disagreeing.
Take responsibility for your choices.
Not that I'm suggesting you guys to engage into rebellion because that would be the last thing we want happening. What I'm trying to say is that we're old enough to come up with our own decisions even if we might need some help from time to time. Be responsible for your decisions and choices because that's what growing up is all about.
If there's someone you need to help, then it's yourself. Teach yourself to stand up. The only way you can manage to do the things we told you is if you are able to assert what's in your mind. People's emotions and opinions can easily get to you but with a strong heart, you can withstand those things.
Make the choice to take control of everything that affects you.
The first to do everything we've told you to is for you to believe and stand firm on the fact that you're no longer going to be controlled. Not that you should rebel on your parents, because that's not what we want to happen. This only means that you also have the right to speak your mind to them in a respectful manner. In that way, you can also start untying the strings people have tied on you to hold you down.