From Our Readers: How to Overcome Self-Doubt
Everybody go through this but not everyone gets over it—whether you're a six-year-old singing at your family gathering or an 18-year-old getting into college or even a 21-year-old facing unemployment.
I have been struggling with low self-esteem since forever. I cannot say that I'm an introvert or that I'm just shy, because I am far from being those. I have a lot of lovely friends and most of the time, I am up for different tasks like public speaking or acting on stage. Others even think that I am so confident, but I am not.
I have been struggling with low self-esteem since forever. I cannot say that I'm an introvert or that I'm just shy, because I am far from being those.
I have done those things to simply reassure myself that somehow, I am worthy. I didn't do those things because I believe in myself but because I don't. Then later on, even performing became less and less fulfilling. That really stopped me from growing.
I started thinking that I can't do anything by myself. It made me dependent on others and hide behind the curtains, always watching from afar. My self-doubt got stronger over time and I succumbed to reading books in my room, spending less and less time with others. I struggled a lot. It got worse because I was constantly judged by others and because I always compared myself to others. Until one day, I had enough.
Fake it until you make it, a saying that's been with me for a long time. I am not saying it's bad or it's good or that it works, but that helped me a lot when I was starting. Slowly I began going out more, learning new stuff, and getting into things I never knew I could. At first, there's this nagging feeling that says it's just a one time thing and that I can't do it again.
I pushed through. A lot of things helped me. I have this scrapbook of my life events that I regularly update. It became a diary to me and helped me realize a lot of things. It's like a memory lane. The first poem I wrote, the script of my first play I worked on, the IDs of various events and organizations I've been part of.
As I looked at them I see myself being brave and bold. I start really believing more and more on what I am capable of. I continously avoided comparing myself to others. It's hard, I know. But it is true that you should count your blessings. Always. Surround yourself with people who support you because a positive environment is key. Belief in God is also the answer. Overcoming your self-doubt is a continous process. But don't ever think you're worthless because nothing and nobody is. Look in the mirror and see the beauty in your scars. We all have one or two or even a lot. But they are scars from various battles that made you strong.
Look in the mirror and see the beauty in your scars. We all have one or two or even a lot. But they are scars from various battles that made you strong.
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To the Person Who Does Not Know Any 1D Song
By: CJ Reyno
Never in my wildest dream I imagined to meet someone who does not know a single One Direction song or who does not even know, Harry Styles, Louis Tomlinson, Liam Payne, Niall Horan, and err… Zayn Malik. How did you spend your teenagehood without listening to their songs? The disrespect to my #StyPayHorLikSon. My initial reaction, Vas Happenin’?
Since I was 12 years old, that was way back on 2012, One Direction songs have been my official life soundtrip, my go-to songs whenever I feel happy, sad, mad, excited, and etch. I can still remember how people went crazy just to attend their concert here in the Philippines. I must admit, I was one of those. LOL. The group was also dubbed as, “The Biggest Boyband in the World”. They were an era. You really left me in awe when you told me that you do not know a single One Direction song. Their songs are gold. But I was a little hopeful when a new messaged popped up on our conversation, “Hey I know one, Make You Beautiful”.
You do not know how my world collapsed after reading your message. I would like to say that I appreciate the effort, thanks, but they do not have a song entitled, Make You Beautiful, because it is, What Makes You Beautiful. I tried to explain but you said that they are just the same. (Tip: Never fight with a Directioner when it comes to this because we will not let our guards down). No! They are not the same. How can you make this big mistake? LOL. What Makes You Beautiful is One Direction’s debut song. Almost everyone knows this, “you’re insecure, don’t know what for,” ring a bell? The music video of this surpassed 1 billion views on Youtube. On my 21 years of existence, you are the very first person who told me this “I-Thought-It-Was-A-Joke-But-You-Are-Serious” statement.
As a persuasive fangirl, I thought to myself that I should make you appreciate their music, that you should know that it is What Makes You Beautiful, not Make You Beautiful. The group may be in hiatus but their music is and will always remain superior. You are hard-headed lad. We even when to the point where you challenged me to treat so I can make you watch their music video. Am I even surprised that I agreed to this? HAHA. I feel like an agent trying to persuade her customer to buy a property on our company. You do not know how happy I was when you sent me your video listening to What Makes You Beautiful. I felt like I successfully closed a deal with my client. Not to exaggerate but I really jumped because of happiness after watching your video. It was the first message I checked that morning. Thank you for your effort, so much appreciated. Funny how our conversation starts with your innocence on One Direction until it goes deeper and last longer. Up All Nigh conversations which turned to almost Midnight Memories. Ironic how a Directioner had developed an admiration on someone who dislikes her favorite boys? Just like One Direction’s song, Change My Mind, “Never felt like this before. Are we friends or are we more?” I guess, like Liam’s line on Love You Goodbye, “It's inevitable everything that's good comes to an end. It's impossible to know if after this we can still be friends.”
I was happy that I made you listen to One Direction. At least I made you appreciate and made you aware that there is a song called, What Makes You Beautiful, not Make You Beautiful. I am happy that you already found your Girl Almighty. Wish me luck on finding my Summer Love. xoxo, Your Directioner friend
Here's a fan art that I made for Lee Joo Young of Itaewon class! I've been making digital illustration since last year and I'm happy that I was able to see my improvements. I'm also happy to see people's reactions and support for my craft even though all of it are made through my phone (adobe illustrator) only ????. You don't actually have to use expensive or complicated medium as long as you know how to be creative and like what you're doing, then you can do it. ????