From Our Readers: Here's Why You Should Be Proud of Your Pain
People are good at pretending. Sometimes when we are in pain, we tend to pretend that everything is okay or we just simply ignore it. But ignoring that pain will only hurt you in the long run.
There's a point in my life that I faced so many challenges, struggles, family issues. And yes, I was in pain. I was hurt, broken. I felt so hopeless. I wanted to be numb. I tried to ignore the pain. I am desperate to feel better again. I even asked God, "Do you really love me? Are You still listening? Why am I facing these challenges, Lord? You know I can't handle everything. I am weak."
I cried so hard and pleaded for God to give me the answer. I waited for His reply. Then God said to me, "My child, see the cross? That's how much I love you. You don't have to handle everything, you just have to surrender it to Me. I know you are weak and have you forgotten? You have Me. 'My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is made perfect in weakness' (2 Corinthians 12:9). I know what you're feeling. I know that you're tired. My child, I am in control. I have the best plan. Will you surrender this to Me?"
How comforting is His word and His promises. My fears and doubts suddenly went away. And God reminded me that I don't have to fear the unknown, for He's already been there.
God allows pain and suffering in our lives for us to see His glory. Maybe there's a time that we ask ourselves, "Does God really care?" I tell you, God does care! He feels our pain and brokenness, but sometimes the way that He responds might not be exactly the words we want to hear.
As servants, when we put our lives in God's hands, we must be prepared to not understand everything that He does and the reason why He does things. The only answer when we're in this situation is to trust Him more. Know that He is able and there's nothing our God cannot do.
Ignoring this part of life will only make your life more difficult. Pain is part of life, it is part of everyone's life. Pain is something we cannot avoid no matter how hard we try. Remember, Jesus Himself experienced and is experiencing pain because when we are in pain, God is in pain also. When we're hurt, God is hurting. How selfless and unconditional is His love for us!
In your brokenness, praise Him. In your suffering, praise Him. In your trials, praise Him. In your pain, praise Him. No matter what the situation is, don't stop praising Him because He never stopped blessing us even if we think we aren't worthy of it. God will give us the eternal peace that we're asking in a world that only offers temporary.
Your story is His glory. So don't ignore the pain, make it as your proof that God heals. God is with you! He will help you get through it.
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these sheets that exactly remind me of how I gushed in between my pillow and space you filled in the longing of my burned sorrow put smile to my sober face just like how a three year old receive her lollipop
i searched you everywhere and here you are laying down beside me in my imagination the walls that our screens built a boundary and an obvious message that says i can never have you because you wear clerical shirt and obviously you loved someone else before me
oh god, do I really want this forbidden love? that only exist in my imagination? that only exist through my words? would you, meine liebling, notice me and my art one second? because I am dying to say I love you.
A Simple Learner Who's a Great Pretender
Maybe I'm just a learner, not a weirdo. A learner that knows how to listen and pretend. A simple learner who's a great pretender. Pretending to be slightly dumb enough not to be judged and criticized by those who do not appreciate my existence. We surround ourselves with people who's levels are either beyond or below our intellectual behavior, because as for reality, people may use you either for their success or your downfall. Since then, people tend to judge someone who has an intellect with things they shouldn't be. Making them a criticizer, and most of all, calling them weird.
Honestly, I'm one of this "weirdo" who actually loves to learn things, and for the record, I'm bullied and stressed out for making myself not to learn more and go with the flow to dumbness I had. Have you ever feel being assigned to some task where you know every process to make it easier and faster to finish but turns out to hesitate to voice out because some of your mates put themselves in charge. There are times where I know what to do, what to say, or how to react, but kept myself silent and pretend not to know anything that may help us. Maybe it's a good thing to just go with their ideas and learn from their perspectives, but sometimes you can't control it and says something, and once again called to be a weirdo and let you finish the work by yourself.
It's annoying that you only know one process yet they gave you the whole work and let you finish it by yourself because they insist that "MAGALING KA DIBA?". It's not your fault being an intellectual person, knowing such things that may help you to pursue your dreams, and have the basic knowledge about something. You don't need to know everything, just the basics. And as for those people who do not appreciate your existence, let them be and continue what's the best for you. In some cases, you'll be annoyed by this but most of the time you'll be thankful for it. Not for now but maybe later. Just be yourself either a weirdo, a great pretender, or a simple learner, and always remember to lower your voice and behavior because no one loves that.
Just be a great pretender not to hear any runts and be a good learner that appreciates everything. It's out of nowhere thoughts of mine, but simply I leave you this my favorite life quotation; "Don't introduce yourself, Let your success introduce you"
Dear me in six years, I wonder how life will treat you when you’re already 26 years old. Will you be financially stable? Will you be working in an advertising agency while pursuing everything about the arts? Will you be doing freelancing and living in a condo by then? I don’t know since things are very uncertain. I hope by the time you graduate from college and face the real meaning of the world, you’ll know what the real purpose of doing and living in the art will be.
I know it’s been so tough ever since you turned 20 but that’s how life works, I guess. There will be a lot of hopes and trials, breakdowns, and breakthroughs but I have high hopes of you becoming the better version of yourself. You always do, though. You were never a quitter. Making decisions is getting harder and harder as you grow but I hope it doesn’t make you stop doing what you really love to do. You will face different people with different perspectives. You will feel like a stranger once again, it’s like you were back in your freshmen year. It’s going to be tougher than you’ve expected but you can do it. I believe you can.
Most of the time, people's perception of us as a strong person makes us feel that we are not entitled to be vulnerable because they might be disappointed for seeing our weak spots. And so when we are hurting, we are often scared of extreme emotions and so bury our feelings. We deny them, trying to avoid the pain we feel.
But by doing that, we are just allowing it to come back to us and haunt us. And when it comes back, it might be stronger and it will be harder for us to get over it than when we faced them first. I realized it just now that facing those emotions will scare them until they're gone. The saying 'Let it hurt until it hurts no more' goes true. Admitting your pain to yourself doesn't make you weak. It only proves that you are strong enough to acknowledge such extreme emotions without avoiding them. We are humans and it's okay if we hurt sometimes.