From Our Readers: Here's How You Deal with Your Insecurities
- It's all about your mindset.
My professor once said that the easiest organ to fool is one's brain. You see, our brain is a funny thing, and sometimes the only way to fight it is to trick it right back. Instead of looking at the attractive things about yourself, you highlight all your imperfections. I know, I do that, too. But we, above everybody else, should be the masters of our own mind. Tell yourself every day that you are beautiful, special, unique, worth—anything that'll make you feel better about yourself. They may be the things you are proud of or the things you have achieved.
- Stop comparing.
Social media made gaining self-esteem even more gruelling nowadays. With all these models looking like perfection, with all your friends posting every milestone they have reached, it makes everybody go from "I look and feel awesome today" to "I feel ugly" in a snap. Your feeds make you see every single flaw you have. So what do you do? Start looking at the amazing parts of you. None of us are perfect but we all have inspiring parts in us. Don't let social media tell you what's beautiful and what's not, what's momentous and what isn't. Instead, keep in mind that what you think of yourself is much more important than what people think of you.
Don't seek for people's approval because the right people will love the real you.
- Don't be afraid to change.
One of the things I did to deal with my fears is by actually doing something about them. I came to a point where I told myself, how can I become the person I actually dream of if I remain the same? So instead of sulking relentlessly, I purposively dealt with them. When I tell you to have a good mindset, it doesn't mean you should be stuck and stop doing anything productive that will make you feel better in the long run.
If you can't stop complaining about it, then move and make a change.
- Learn how to move on.
One of my favorite characters, Game of Thrones' Tyrion Lannister, said something I can never forget: "Once you've accepted your flaws, no one can use it against you". If you do ask me now if I still have insecurities? My response will still be yes. The only difference is you can't use them to make me feel down or less of myself. I've come to accept that we are all different from one another but we all are amazing in our own various ways. So today, let's keep our heads up high and let our quiet confidence speak the loudest about who we really are.