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From Our Readers: Being Single Is Not a Disability

When it really isn't.
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I just read an article that I, a single girl, am now considered disabled. Wow, being single is now a disability, apparently. So before I get the privileges of this disability that include discounts on public transportation and comfy seats in public offices, let me tell you the reasons why I stayed single.

First, my heart is not stone-cold or stone-hard. I have a perfectly normal beating heart that falls for someone or something foolishly, and later on gets left alone. I also had my fair share of failed love stories and unrequited love. I also had episodes of bitterness, but I got over it. Why would I force myself on people? I would like to believe that if it's meant for me, then it's mine. All roads will lead him to me. Call me a hopeless romantic, I don't really care.

Second, I always have a fear of staying with someone all the time. Would I be able to stay committed? I have a tendency to easily get tired of the things that I love. Can that someone, the person that I love, keep my attention? Because I have a very short attention span.


Third, being alone for me has been totally okay; not great though but okay. I can live with it. It is normal to long for company but I always liked being alone or having a time of my own and taking control of my schedule.

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Fourth, I have a mean streak that gets so bad. We all have that, but can I live with someone who has it, too? I really don't know. I easily get disappointed by little things that I consider unpleasant. Maybe that's my fifth reason. It all starts with a disgusting thing that he does and everything goes downhill after that.

Sixth, I love fictional characters. Maybe they set my standards unrealistically high. How can you not love those imaginary guys? Dreaming is for free, so let me dream higher than the Empire State.

Seventh, I am not pretty. Who would choose ugly? The advocacy of erasing standardized beauty hasn't been implemented thoroughly. Maybe it takes a procedure or some sort of surgery to change people's standards and perspectives.


Eighth, most of the guys (not all but most) have eyes for fancy things. That includes different girls, as if girls are a special kind of luxury that they need more than one.

And ninth, being single and blessed is a choice. There are times when I don't feel that it is, but I know that it is in fact, a choice. I don't know the minor supporting details of other people regarding this but we all have reasons for our choices. Some will not understand and others luckily will.










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Katherine Go 2 days ago

Cold Food

The most thrilling and delightful moment of any school day is opening up your baon during breaks. There is always so much excitement in unveiling your homemade meal and snacks housed inside matching heat-insulating containers. Because preparing packed meals is an age-old tradition of showing parental love, loved ones pour effort into curating a nutritious meal accompanied by a selection of side dishes, desserts, and beverages daily; it reminds us that we are being taken care of, even from far away.

Baon plays a significant role in a Filipino childhood. Almost every Filipino child comes to school with baon made especially for them by their parents or household helpers. Even Filipinos in the labor force continue to bring baon for varying reasons: to save money, recycle leftovers, cater to personal taste, or attend to special needs. Nonetheless, eating your baon is a heart-warming experience that allows Filipinos to bring a piece of home along with them wherever they go.

Even other cultures practice making packed lunch. In Japan, mothers create bento--Japanese meals in partitioned boxes. Because of the popularity of bento, trends have emerged, such as the Kyaraben, or character-themed bento. Naturally, Japanese parents and students began competing for who had the cutest and tastiest bento, and this is similar to what I have witnessed in my own childhood. I remember seeing my classmates sharing their snacks and lunches. They would compare and boast about their parents' or yayas’ cooking. In my case, I never had the chance to join in the competition or indulge in homemade cooking. Up until this day, I have never brought any baon to school.

For a long time, I envied others. As trivial or petty as it may seem, not having baon became a problem for my grade school self. During that time, I had to sit in a separate cafeteria away from my friends because the kids who bought food were assigned to sit elsewhere. You could consider me spoiled, but I wanted to experience something most kids did. I had food at home, so what made it so hard to bring some with me to school?

Now that I am on my final year in high school I have come to realize the benefits of purchasing my own food. Since I spent on food everyday, I learned to budget my allowance at a young age. Over the years, I learned to practice self-control whenever I wanted to eat more greasy fries and drink sweetened beverages. I have tasted the strangest viands at the school cafeterias, and I have repeatedly satiated myself over my latest delicious discoveries. Despite the struggles, I am thankful that I have never had baon because of what I have learned. Not to mention, I never had to experience eating cold food.

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