From Our Readers: A Letter from Your Future Love
I know that look. There you go again with your weary eyes. You're staring at something. Perhaps searching the crowd for me, the one you have not met yet. Or maybe I'm someone you already met, not just in the manner you expected. Regardless, I am here. I am coming for you. Relax, no need to worry.
I know exactly what you've been through because I've also been there. In my search for you, I've had my fair share of breaking somebody else's heart and having mine broken, too. I had confused a lesson for a soulmate. I've met people who weren't right for me. I became someone who wasn't right for them. But all these experiences were necessary to happen to become the right person for you. By the time we meet, you and I may be different people already. That's not a bad thing. This just means that we are two people with a history and with a myriad of life lessons at our disposal.
By the time we meet, you and I may be different people already. That's not a bad thing. This just means that we are two people with a history and with a myriad of life lessons at our disposal.CONTINUE READING BELOWRecommended Videos
Some of the best things happen in the quietest of ways. When we meet, there will be none of those fireworks, confetti, and music on the background. Bells will not be ringing, birds will not be chirping, crowds will not be cheering. But my heart will sing and your soul will dance. We're not each other's halves. I'm not going to complete you, and you're not going to complete me. But this I tell you: we will be each other's safe haven. When the right one comes along, you just know.
You deserve love. Whether it's that butterflies-in-the stomach kind or something gentle and reassuring, the bottom line is that you need genuine love. Do not settle for half-baked devotion from someone else because you deserve so much more. You do not even have to beg for something which should be given to you freely. You are worth it. Do not ever forget that, especially when some guy makes you feel otherwise. You are amazing. You don't need other people's validation to know that.
Do not settle for half-baked devotion from someone else because you deserve so much more.
I will love you the best way I know how. I will love you the way you want to be loved. I will probably disappoint you, but I will also surprise you. I may not be the man of your dreams, but I promise to be the man you asked for in your prayers. I cannot guarantee that what we will have will be a walk in the park, but I promise that when things get hard, I will be there.
I will hold your hand, take you on a stroll and help you breath. We will slow dance even if there's no music. I will sing for you, even if I'm out of tune. I will buy you the food you're craving for when you get cranky. When misunderstandings arise, I promise that I will try to be calm and listen to you. When you're going through bad days, when it gets hard to see beauty in the world, I will remind you every day of the wonders and magic of the world. I will hold a mirror in front of you and whisper tenderly in your ear, "See, that's beauty."
When you're going through bad days, when it gets hard to see beauty in the world, I will remind you every day of the wonders and magic of the world. I will hold a mirror in front of you and whisper tenderly in your ear, "See, that's beauty."
The thing is, love is not blind. I see you. I see everything—your strengths, your eccentricities, your hopes and dreams, and most of all your flaws. But I don't mind. I am choosing you, all of you.
Let me love you now. Let me love you every day. We both know forever takes time and effort and patience. Love is a choice; we will not always feel in love most of the time. We will annoy each other. We will mess up. We will not always be our best selves. However, what we will be is real. Together, we will navigate this messy but wonderful journey called life. It's going to be a bumpy road, but I promise that you will never be alone. Not now. Not ever.
We will not be a perfect people. We've both fantasized about our own love stories with others. We took chances. We've both been disillusioned when things did not turn out the way we wanted. At some point, we've became jaded and cynical about love. We wanted to give up because we couldn't handle the pain, rejection, and disappointment. But in the midst of all these imperfections, we are able to create something perfect for the both of us. Let's always believe in the transformative power of love.
The next time you have that faraway look in your eyes, I hope you'd be filled with hope instead of longing and despair because guess what? I'm on my way. If you could maybe hold out for me for a little while? I promise I'm doing everything I can to get to where you are as fast as I can. For now, I encourage you to do what you love, to explore your options, to know yourself. Revel in your heartaches. In retrospect, you will realize that these are lessons which will help you become a stronger person. Create memories with the people you care about. Fall in love with yourself. When we finally meet, we've got a lot of catching up to do. I cannot wait to hear all about it.
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First. Pixie dust and paper cuts – these are the first things Wendy knew about Peter Pan. Aurora first met Prince Philip when she was sixteen. Learning how to ride a bike was also a first while I was growing up, but you are probably the first of too many. The first collection of dust and stars; maybe Luna will try to ask, who was your first? I might answer and tell her that it was you.
The first of too many stars in the sky. You are the first of too many fallen leaves during fall – and you will be the most anticipated snowflake as winter comes. A dark path that you can’t see without any light, hence, you were once the moon and there are the stars that shine so bright at night. Are we too early? Or we just really want to be ahead of time? Even in a glimpse, I would like to see the two of us connect as if we can reach the sky. There are other parts of the heavens you have never saw and other oceans you haven’t laid your feet onto – but the constellations will always wait for you. Close your eyes, love, close your eyes. Start counting backward: 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. Count backward until you see the twinkling lights that will guide you to the right path. To the right satellite; to the right person. A first.
There are many firsts – first love, first heartbreak, first sport you played, the first thing you do in the morning, the first thing you remember about the person in front of you. There are a lot. It’s actually up to us how we will consider something as a first. So, Primo, you are already a first of too many.
If you know me, and know me well, I am not the biggest fan of idyllic lifestyles. With a Type A personality, I act immediately upon whatever challenge that needs to be addressed. I actually enjoy keeping my mind preoccupied: doing university work in my favourite cafe then running errands around town, grocery shopping here, updating my accounts there, photocopying documents on the way down the street - all just in time before having a glass of champagne at the bar with my friends come evening.
And so, you could imagine my bewilderment when the next challenge to be faced was an extensive self-quarantine protocol. I didn’t know what to do when my greatest responsibility in this situation was to do nothing at all. My first few attempts to combat my consternation were very much rooted in distraction and imagination. My distractions involved conducting research, writing songs, calling family and friends, filming videos, and eating chocolate! My imaginations and fantasies were centred on travelling, shopping, even clubbing (which I rarely do) for when they find a cure to COVID-19. I did anything and everything that could be considered constructive in order to pass the time, mainly hoping I could just undertake the basic human necessities to survive - that is, eat and sleep the day through - until the next day comes, until the world is closer to becoming a better place, until quarantine ends, until my flight follows through, until I see my family and friends again.
Days in self-isolation and suspended flights turned to weeks and turned to months. By the third extension here in Spain where I study Fashion Business, I had to tell myself this shall be my new normal now, that I was blessed to be healthy, that I was tired of merely existing and missed what it was like to actually live - even if just within four walls. Little by little, I began to find significance in the simple occurrences of the day: the soft glare of the rising sun beaming golden streaks through my bedroom window upon waking up, the fragrance of freshly washed bed sheets that I had painstakingly hung to fit a relatively small clothes rack without crumpling them, the crunch and tanginess of warm toasted bread topped with raspberry marmalade, the buzzing sound of a phone call from home just waiting to be answered, to the caress of a fuzzy sweater to keep warm at night. I realised, “What pleasures to be enjoyed in the pause of slow living!” Through this continued pause, which I loathed at first, I began to appreciate each moment of the day rather than wish it would pass more swiftly, moments I had overlooked so often before the lockdown. I started to find that the challenge of self-isolation was never to pause both the regular routines of life as well as the positive emotions that came with these - as initially, I thought it meant to pause all happiness, so as to withstand a time of endurance in hopes for a better tomorrow, much like a form of delaying gratification. Life is just too fragile these days to delay gratification any further.
Life has paused, but it has not stopped. Believe that like any punctuation mark in a sentence, the pause will provide the right timing of things to take place. Till then, let us not waste our time waiting. Instead, we could be in the moment, seek substance in simplicity (that is, in what we already have), And enjoy the pleasure in pause. “Practice the Pause. When in doubt, pause. When angry, pause. When tired, pause. When stressed, pause. And when you pause, pray.”