From Our Readers: A Letter from Your Future Love
I know that look. There you go again with your weary eyes. You're staring at something. Perhaps searching the crowd for me, the one you have not met yet. Or maybe I'm someone you already met, not just in the manner you expected. Regardless, I am here. I am coming for you. Relax, no need to worry.
I know exactly what you've been through because I've also been there. In my search for you, I've had my fair share of breaking somebody else's heart and having mine broken, too. I had confused a lesson for a soulmate. I've met people who weren't right for me. I became someone who wasn't right for them. But all these experiences were necessary to happen to become the right person for you. By the time we meet, you and I may be different people already. That's not a bad thing. This just means that we are two people with a history and with a myriad of life lessons at our disposal.
By the time we meet, you and I may be different people already. That's not a bad thing. This just means that we are two people with a history and with a myriad of life lessons at our disposal.
Some of the best things happen in the quietest of ways. When we meet, there will be none of those fireworks, confetti, and music on the background. Bells will not be ringing, birds will not be chirping, crowds will not be cheering. But my heart will sing and your soul will dance. We're not each other's halves. I'm not going to complete you, and you're not going to complete me. But this I tell you: we will be each other's safe haven. When the right one comes along, you just know.
You deserve love. Whether it's that butterflies-in-the stomach kind or something gentle and reassuring, the bottom line is that you need genuine love. Do not settle for half-baked devotion from someone else because you deserve so much more. You do not even have to beg for something which should be given to you freely. You are worth it. Do not ever forget that, especially when some guy makes you feel otherwise. You are amazing. You don't need other people's validation to know that.
Do not settle for half-baked devotion from someone else because you deserve so much more.
I will love you the best way I know how. I will love you the way you want to be loved. I will probably disappoint you, but I will also surprise you. I may not be the man of your dreams, but I promise to be the man you asked for in your prayers. I cannot guarantee that what we will have will be a walk in the park, but I promise that when things get hard, I will be there.
I will hold your hand, take you on a stroll and help you breath. We will slow dance even if there's no music. I will sing for you, even if I'm out of tune. I will buy you the food you're craving for when you get cranky. When misunderstandings arise, I promise that I will try to be calm and listen to you. When you're going through bad days, when it gets hard to see beauty in the world, I will remind you every day of the wonders and magic of the world. I will hold a mirror in front of you and whisper tenderly in your ear, "See, that's beauty."
When you're going through bad days, when it gets hard to see beauty in the world, I will remind you every day of the wonders and magic of the world. I will hold a mirror in front of you and whisper tenderly in your ear, "See, that's beauty."
The thing is, love is not blind. I see you. I see everything—your strengths, your eccentricities, your hopes and dreams, and most of all your flaws. But I don't mind. I am choosing you, all of you.
Let me love you now. Let me love you every day. We both know forever takes time and effort and patience. Love is a choice; we will not always feel in love most of the time. We will annoy each other. We will mess up. We will not always be our best selves. However, what we will be is real. Together, we will navigate this messy but wonderful journey called life. It's going to be a bumpy road, but I promise that you will never be alone. Not now. Not ever.
We will not be a perfect people. We've both fantasized about our own love stories with others. We took chances. We've both been disillusioned when things did not turn out the way we wanted. At some point, we've became jaded and cynical about love. We wanted to give up because we couldn't handle the pain, rejection, and disappointment. But in the midst of all these imperfections, we are able to create something perfect for the both of us. Let's always believe in the transformative power of love.
The next time you have that faraway look in your eyes, I hope you'd be filled with hope instead of longing and despair because guess what? I'm on my way. If you could maybe hold out for me for a little while? I promise I'm doing everything I can to get to where you are as fast as I can. For now, I encourage you to do what you love, to explore your options, to know yourself. Revel in your heartaches. In retrospect, you will realize that these are lessons which will help you become a stronger person. Create memories with the people you care about. Fall in love with yourself. When we finally meet, we've got a lot of catching up to do. I cannot wait to hear all about it.