From Our Readers: 3 Things You Have to Know Before Falling in Love with a Traveller
Everybody loves a traveler. In this day and age, everyone seems to be searching for that adventurous and free-spirited soul. Who wouldn't want to spend their days listening to endless stories gathered from every corner of the world, right? Who wouldn't want to date someone who has been to places where not everyone has the privilege to set foot on? Who wouldn't want to meet someone who's full of life, energy passion? But they're pretty hard to catch coz they're always out on the road. Luckily, I have already found mine.
Like thousands of people out there, I fell madly in love with a traveller. But be warned because they are not easy to love. They should really come with signs of caution before you take the risk. But since they don't, I've got a few words to prepare you from the huge emotional turmoil of loving a traveller.
Don't get too attached.
Relationship and attachment are two words which are synonymous to each other. In a traveller's world, due to their spontaneous international flights and endless adventures, getting attached is the least priority for them. They don't want to make things too difficult for you when they leave. They don't want drama; they don't need you to cling on them because if you do, chances are, their travel plans will be ruined. So if you really want to keep them, don't get too attached. Love them, enjoy each moment but never cage them in your world. It's hard to not get attached, I know. But you have to keep in mind that if they are really destined for you, you'll have them in the end even if you don't cling on to them.
They will meet plenty of people while they're on the road. They will spend their travels with like-minded, attractive people. You will get jealous not only once, but probably on every travel they embark on. It's difficult being left behind, not getting the chance to travel with them because of your own life. Hearing their stories about how fun it is out there will trigger your fear of them forgetting about you while they're having fun.
But if you think about it, they still come home to you. That's what really matters, right? You are the one they share all their stories to. You get to spend days, months, and hopefully years with them. You see their flaws, the side of them that even they can't see.
When you're in love with a traveller, you have to have an open mind. They have seen the other side of the world, so look at things through their eyes. It's easy to latch on to them so badly but let loose. Be their partner and best friend at the same time. If they are yours, they will be yours in the end even if you don't grip on them tightly.
Once they get bitten by the travel bug, they will never stop. Travellers were born to explore. They will book tickets from one country after the other. They will sign up for volunteering abroad. They will dream about their next travel night after night, to the point that you will even wonder if they ever dream about you. Then you will get jealous again.
You will wonder if you're ever included in their plans. Relationships should involve two people supporting and motivating each other to become the best versions of themselves. Sometimes, you have to sacrifice the time you want to spend with them so they can focus on their dreams. You have to spend time apart to let them see the world.
Distance is good for relationships sometimes. It makes you crave for that person's presence. It makes you appreciate each moment you spend together. Tell themhow proud you are of them chasing their dreams.
Just like ordinary relationships, loving a person who travels have both advantages and disadvantages. Most people may say that things may not work out due to their instability and constant craving to be away. But what matters most is that you've got two happy people enjoying each other's company, supporting each other to become the best person they can be—whether together or apart. You can never assure forever, but both of you can always make sure that love and friendship will always be there.