WHY SAYING " BASTA HUWAG KA LANG MAG OVERTHINK" IS NOT A GOOD ADVICE TO GIVE
1. Easy to say but hard to do. It's nice to have a go to friend who will always be there for you in hard times. Someone who will give you advice when you have problems. However, even if you say that you understand them, the truth is you will never completely understand how painful it is because you are not really the one who is suffering. It is important to know that we all have different level of sensitivity. Maybe for you its nothing but you'll never know late at night they will overthink it.
2. Think about what they seem to need at the moment.
Sometimes we don't really need advice when in pain. Sometimes having a constant support system is all that we need. Someone to vent all our insecurities and problems. Someone who will listen. Someone who will listen to understand instead of listening to respond and offering a positive cliche. Someone who's okay in silence when we don't feel to talk at all.
So cry your heart out! It's okay to be not okay. Feel the pain but do not dwell on it for a long time. #toxicpositivity -Gwy June 14, 2020