Candy Bulletin

“I CAN’T LOSE YOU” …are words I deem more romantic than "I love you."

I have convinced myself countless times that falling in love is one hell of a feeling.

“I CAN’T LOSE YOU” …are words I deem more romantic than "I love you."

By: MELRAE SHANICE GUARIN

How does it feel to be in love? That I cannot answer. But I have convinced myself countless times that falling in love is one hell of a feeling. It is a feeling that draws a person to do things that that one has never imagined doing. When I was a teenager, I’ve always believed that love is all rainbows, butterflies, and unicorns. I blame watching too many movies on that. It made me set my standards way too high. Too high I feel like I’m going to end up a spinster. I used to have an ideal type and it changes from time to time. I think there was a point when it actually became an amalgam of traits that I got from every leading man in movies. Well, I’m not saying it’s completely wrong but it did make me expect too much in real life and we know what happens when we expect too much, right? D i s a p p o i n t m e n t. I just settled with the idea that I won’t have any ideal type and I’ll just wing it.

When I meet the right one, I will be just whoa, it’s him! No ideal types, just sparks and glitters. My views about love just shifted into different ways when I got older. Once, I was this young girl who fantasizes about an ideal guy, a prince charming, a knight in shining armor, a perfect leading man. But life is definitely not like the movies and experience will always slap you with reality. You’ll go through that stage where all those rainbows, butterflies, and unicorns all become nothing but a fantasy. The young girl the I was got slowly consumed by cynicism. It usually happens when you get invested in feelings and in expectations that you desperately wanted to happen. I often deny that I have become a cynic but when you get to see so many relationships get broken and fail right before your eyes, it just turns you into one. It doesn’t really have to happen to you first hand but when you witness it, even from afar, a part of you still breaks. Imagine having to experience it yourself, I would be doomed. Talking about the heavy side of love can go on for ages. But I still believe that

LOVE IS BEAUTIFUL. In so many ways. It may not always feel like you are walking on the clouds but day by day, it is proven to me that love can really make you do things you never thought you could. When they say that love conquers it all, I say, yes, it does. Come what may, love conquers it all. But here’s the thing – I change my mind about so many I things when it comes to love but I am certain that love is so powerful that it makes you want to change for the better. Some people find it hard to express and profess their love for someone. Saying “I love you” can seem as if it’s easy to say. It’s just three words, how hard could that be? But uttering the words “I love you” can be really difficult for some and believing in those three words can be more difficult to do when you’ve been through a great deal of pain before. It’s not easy as pie. Say it when it is real. Say it when you really mean it. Say it when you really do. “I love you” can be the most romantic, the best, and the ultimate words to tell someone you really love them. But this fantasist-turned-cynic has viewed love as some sort of a paradox. I have been into a rollercoaster of emotions myself and that includes going through a painful stage in my life that I thought was unbearable.

Love is a paradox. How so? Love, for me, is real when you have developed some kind of fear adjacent to it. Love and fear, so contradicting yet a strong combination. That fear may sound horrible but that fear drives you to do the impossible. Even saying the words “I love you” becomes easier for you. What do I believe now? This paradox that will constantly drive you insane, that will lurk within you for so long, that will bother and confuse you, is the very reason that will make you see your worth and your value. Love will make you feel fear. What is mine? Fear of losing someone I really cherish. If I lose that person, I'll be damned and I’m scared that it will break me in ways beyond repair. This is why I came to believe that when someone tells me “I CAN’T LOSE YOU,” it would make me feel the kind of love that I’ve been looking for. It makes me feel so loved and it makes me want to conquer it all. Saying it to me will definitely sweep me off my feet as Prince Charming does, will make me feel protected like a knight in shining armor, will strum my heartstrings like any leading man in the movies, and will make everything feel ideal once again.

It can be different for everyone. Some consider “I love you” as the most romantic sentence there is but kids these days, they blurt those words out like “hey, what’s up?” So easily, it feels meaningless. I wouldn’t want that. There are several romantic words out there. I’ve asked one of my friends and she said that she would want to hear “I choose you and I will choose you every day because you’re worth it.” Sweet, indeed! It may sound cheesy and mushy but all I pray is that when you tell anyone those words, just like how “I love you” works – say it when it is real, say it when you mean it, and say it when you really do.

your REACTION
HEART

28

CUTE

0

OMG

0

YAY

0

/////////////////////////////
COMMENTS. JOIN THE DISCUSSION BELOW!
Comments
VIEW more ARTICLES ABOUT
Recommended Videos

Create your content

Photo
Video
SoundCloud
Hi, you!
Title
Body Text
*1st 15 seconds will be uploaded
*File size limit (up to 60MB)
*File size limit (up to 60MB)
or
Upload Video
*For the direct video upload option, only the first 15 seconds of the video will be uploaded
*File size limit (up to 60MB)

By submitting your post, you agree to Candymag's Terms of Use and Privacy Policy.

Thank you for submitting your post.
You will be notified via email once your entry has been approved by the Candy team.

Submitted posts will be subject to the approval of the Candy Team.

A few reminders:

  1. Candy Bulletin is an online platform where users can upload original work, personal passion projects, and other forms of self-expression, for the purpose of sharing with the community.
  2. You can upload photos of your curated OOTDs, 15-second videos, essays, poems, and more, as long as the submitted work is original, follows copyright laws, and free of any nudity, pornography, or profanity.
  3. You are encouraged to comment on one another's posts, as long as everyone remains respectful.
Submit Another Post View More Posts
VIEW MORE
Loading Comments
Hide comments
your REACTION
Pick a sticker to view stories by reaction!
/////////////////////////////
CONNECT WITH US