Be Your Own Brand Of Beautiful
As little girls, we grew up with so many hints and cues about what it meant to be beautiful. Princesses in fairy tales always had impossibly tiny waists and delicate features. Our Barbie dolls (or any other doll, really) always had soft hair, long legs, flawless skin, skillfully painted makeup, and of course, a closet full of outfits we all (secretly) wanted. So it's no wonder why we started to have these hard-to-reach ideas about beauty—especially when we've always grown up with all these cues and references that shape our understanding of what beauty should be—to the point that it eventually becomes our very own definition of beauty.
But here's the thing, Candy Girls, beauty standards can be so problematic and for many reasons, too. In the first place, they're absolutely impossible to catch up with. Remember the saying "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder?" This couldn't be truer as everyone will have different standards of beauty for many reasons. One of them could be something as simple as where you live. Different cultures around the world have their own beauty standards. People in America, for example believe that tanned skin is more attractive and some girls go through different tanning measures just to achieve the look while our morena girls here are blessed with the naturally tanned skin they're gunning for. In the meantime, a lot of girls in Asia slather on whitening creams and even pop skin whitening supplements to get the naturally fair skin of Westerners. In the Philippines alone, so many skin products feature whitening properties, signaling the kind of beauty standard we hold as a society. It is so prevalent, in fact, that according to an Inquirer article last 2016, forty percent of women surveyed in Hong Kong, Malaysia, Philippines, and South Korea used creams to whiten their skin.
Beauty standards are also influenced by what's trendy at the moment, which means that beauty standards are going to change constantly. Who has the time to go chasing after all of them? Case in point: freckles. Shout out to all the freckled Candy Girls out there! Isn't it crazy how freckles suddenly became such a huge makeup trend in 2014, but before that, people did their best to cover them up as much as possible to achieve clear, flawless skin? Another beauty trend that's all the rage now is the Kylie Jenner pout. Lips weren't the main focus in the beauty department a couple of years ago, but now, a painted and plump pout like Queen Kylie's is an essential in many girls' makeup routines.
All these show how beauty standards are never permanent—they are always going to come and go.
With that, we have to ask ourselves if conforming to societal beauty standards is still worth it.ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
Imagine going through all the trouble of working on your appearance to reach a standard of beauty, only to have them change the following month or only to be considered as sub-par to other people? It's so easy to feel insecure and discouraged because of the impossibility of the task, but don't be.
Instead of conforming to standards, go beyond them!
Know that you are unique, and uniqueness is the most beautiful quality of all. In an era where the "copy-paste" mentality goes beyond the confines of your computer and even influences how people look, what people do, and much more, being your unapologetically unique self is the most beautiful thing there is. Being unique has become more and more difficult with the influence of social media, so more people have begun conforming to what is popular without really thinking things through.
But why must you limit yourself to the beauty standards of the status quo, when you could expand the notion of what is beautiful?ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
The challenge now is to be your own brand of beautiful. In a society where impossible standards exist to make us feel inadequate, it is so important that we don't let society's standards dictate our self-worth. Go beyond those standards! Do the things that make you feel beautiful—be it excelling in sports, engaging in your favorite hobby, or just helping other people out. If there's any beauty standard you should be following, it should be your own and no one else’s.
After all, being confident in your own brand of beautiful will surely never go out of style.
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The journey of how I won people’s hearts by having a winning heart
Whatever happens tonight, I am a winner. That was the last line I delivered in front of the roaring crowd. My knees were trembling and my smile was shaking. I wanted to radiate confidence but I knew inside me were whirling storms of uncertainty. I wasn’t sure how to carry on for the rest of the night, it was only the first hour and my soul was already exhausted. I stood in front of an unfamiliar sea of people, I felt uncomfortable as they fixed their glances on me. The stage was bright and flashy as my co-contestants glazed the platform with outstanding physique and beauty. I couldn’t look straight at them because every time I did, a bucketful of insecurity was being poured on me. The whole pageant took about a few hours but it felt like eternity to me. I repeatedly asked myself questions every single time I stood on that platform. My vision was impaired by the blinding spotlights and all I could hear were the deafening roar of the audience combined with the booming music of the event. My head was filled with questions like “why are you here?”, “Will you be okay?” What will others think of you?” “What if you fail?”. Every step was heavier as I continued to overthink.
For a moment on stage, I felt like I was floating. I was staring blankly at the end of the gymnasium. I was awakened by the loud cheer from the front row, I fixed my glance and saw large letters A-B-Y. it was like a snap to reality, I realized that’s my name. This time I could hear the synchronized cheers of people screaming my name. I smiled, walked away from the spotlight as I whispered to myself “let’s do this”. As the curtains opened, I walked towards the stage I felt lighter and different from the person a while ago. Walking was much easier and my knees weren’t trembling any longer. I stood at the edge of the stage, wandered my glance, and smiled genuinely. Flashing those pearly whites took barrels of longtime stored courage from within me. I marveled at how I could see the rainbow in the lights, the spotlights weren’t blinding anymore.
My feet started stomping to the music every time I pose and my hips would flawlessly sway to the music. The roar of the audience was overwhelming no more, it was like whispers lost in the beat of the music. I knew as I stood there, all I needed to do was smile and be myself. My name was called accompanied by the thunderous applause and booming cheers of the crowd. I stood there alongside with other contestants. I was holding a bouquet and a trophy. I could feel the heavy crown on top of my head. However, the trophy beside me was much bigger, the lady beside me wore an even flashier crown, it was the crown of the titleholder. That night I landed the first runner-up spot. My head was filled with “what ifs”. What if I did just a little better, what if I exerted more effort and so on.
As I stepped down on stage, several people rushed to me. They were jumping, screaming and clapping. It was so chaotic that it took me a millennium to recognize them, it was my family. They were hugging me from all directions. When I saw their smiles I knew I did great. I realized that was what I meant when I said “whatever happens tonight I am a winner”. Their presence, genuine smiles, and warm hugs meant more than the trophy and sash that night. For them, I was a star who shined through the darkness of the night. Before leaving the venue, a hand tapped me from behind “Congrats,” she whispered I turned to see her, and to my surprise she was a schoolmate who used to tease me because of my chubby physique.
I smiled as I expressed my gratitude towards her. As I walked away, I realized that I accomplished something legendary that night. I was able to showcase that pageants are not only for thin-looking, tall people. I managed to snatch everyone’s attention with this average height and chubby body. That night started with so much uncertainty and insecurity. As I stared at my reflection, I looked exhausted but I was wearing a different smile. A smile of victory and bravery. A smile that defeated the stereotypes and stigma about people like me. That night ended with a realization that maybe winning isn’t always about winning the crown, it’s about winning people’s hearts and having a winning heart.
I've always wanted to open an online business for me and my mom. My mom is a great cook and baker. So this quarantine, I've decided to finally create an instagram page and a facebook page for our business called Mars' Kitchenette. We offer various kinds of dishes like Lasagna, Tuna Pesto, Carbonara, Palabok, and the crowd's favorite, Brazo Cups. We are planning to expand our business by gradually adding dishes to our Menu. We just started yet we already have so many inquiries and orders. I am happy that me and my mom's hobby and bonding time, can actually make a profit. Visit our social media sites: Facebook page : mars_kitchenette Instagram: @mars_kitchenette Hit Like and Follow us!
5 Mystery-Thriller Novels to Read
If you’re stuck at home and out of Netflix shows to binge-watch, then you might want to try and read these mystery-thriller books to match your homemade Dalgona Coffee.
1. The Silent Patient by Alex Michaelides
The debut novel, and Goodreads Choice Awards Best Mystery & Thriller of 2019, follows Alicia Berenson, a well-known painter married to an esteemed fashion photographer. Life seemed perfect for Alicia, until one evening when she shot her husband five times, and… never spoke again.
2. Lock Every Door by Riley Sager
From the author of Final Girls comes this page turning novel about an infamous building in Manhattan called the Bartholomew. After stumbling upon an ad to become an apartment sitter, Jules Larsen has set out to look after apartment 12A under strict and somewhat odd conditions. Not long after stepping foot in the building, Jules has been met with unfriendly tenants, eerie noises in the apartment unit, and an abrupt departure of a fellow sitter named Ingrid.
3. The Sun Down Motel by Simone St. James
If you loved Alfred Hitchcock’s Psycho or David Lynch’s Twin Peaks, then this book is for you. After the disappearance of her Aunt Vivian while working as a night-shift clerk at the Sun Down Motel in 1982, Carly has set off to Fell NY, to work the same job at the same place as her Aunt had 35 years ago – with hopes of uncovering the truth lurking behind the Motel walls.
4. Verity by Colleen Hoover
While known for Young-Adult Novels such as Slammed and Maybe Someday, Colleen Hoover offers readers a romantic thriller about Lowen Ashleigh, a struggling author who was given the opportunity to finish the three remaining novels of a successful series after its original author, Verity Crawford, suffered an accident and has become immobile. After receiving an invite at the Crawford manor to sort through Verity’s notes, Lowen discovers an unpublished autobiography revealing the truth about Verity. With the eerie atmosphere of having Verity confined in her own home, and who is seemingly aware of her surroundings, Lowen is certain Verity is not what she appears to be.
5. Dark Matter by Blake Crouch
A mind-bending science fiction thriller from the best-selling author of Wayward Pines – Dark Matter is packed with the concept of the Multiverse and the philosophy of existentialism. The novel follows an ordinary Physics professor, Jason Dessen, who was looking forward to dinner with his family while walking the streets of Chicago. The next thing he knew, he was being held at gunpoint – by a man wearing a mask – and injected with an unknown drug and blacks out. When he regains consciousness, he learns that the world he woke up to was different from the world he knew.