3 Tips on How to Define the Relationship from JaDine's This Time
Real-life couple James Reid and Nadine Lustre's highly-anticipated summer movie, This Time, premiered yesterday in cinemas nationwide and recorded P15-million on its opening day.
But more than the earnings and the stunning cinematography of the movie (their scenes in Japan are breathtaking!), we loved how This Time showed us how we're supposed to go about The Talk with someone we've been in a no-labels relationship with.
Defining the relationship or DTR isn't easy. It's a tricky situation to be in because you'll either win or lose the person you've been "with." But if you need some pointers because you want to get out of the Almost Zone now, here are some lessons we picked up from James and Nadine's summer movie.
1. Think of how long you've been together.
Have you been in each other's lives for quite a while—months and even years? Think about all those times you've know them at their best and those times you've seen them at their worst. Do you still love them even if they annoy the life out of you? It's always tricky to define your relationship with someone, especially because you're comfortable being where you are at the moment. But highlight how long you've been together, and how you haven't dated anyone since then because you want to be with him and not with anyone else. Hopefully, he'll see just how genuine your feelings are for him and he'll get on board with you too.
2. Get in touch with your feelings for him.
Accept that you really are in love with him, and that there's nothing wrong with that. The reason why most "couples" fight once they realize one of them is in love with the other person is because they think it's wrong or it's a mistake. Of course you're bound to fall for the guy who understands your quirks, who has seen you at your worst, who has been with you since you were kids. That's absolutely okay.
3. Be ready to accept whatever answer he gives.
Things will not always end in the way you want them to. He could say yes and tell you he feels the same way. He could say no and that he just sees you as his best friend. Or he could say wait first because he needs to think about how he truly feels for you. Just make sure you're ready to hear what he has to say and live with the consequences—that means the potential of losing what you already have.
This Time is now showing in cinemas nationwide.