How to Get Over an Unrequited Love (or Crush!)
Liking or loving someone who doesn't feel the same way about you can be painful and sucky, but that's just how things go sometimes. As John Green writes, "The world is not a wish-granting factory." Every human being will go through it at one point or another, which sounds depressing, but take heart in the fact that we're all in this together—even superheroes like The Flash.
Barry Allen has been in love with Iris West for as long as he can remember, but he never said anything about it because, as his dad psychoanalyzed, he was too caught up in trying to find the man who killed his mom and framed his dad. Fear of rejection may also have had a lot to do with it. Barry only told Iris when she was about to move in with her boyfriend, leaving her speechless but not inclined to leave him for Barry. (Ugh, boys and their timing and territorial tendencies.)
So Barry is left with a crushed heart that not even his super speed can fix. Fortunately, this week's episode of The Flash shows that he's slowly but surely moving forward. Here's how he did it.
Busy, busy, busy. With all those life-or-death missions, Barry had less time to pick apart every conversation he had with Iris and think about all the could’ve beens. In the real world, you’d ideally steer clear of dangerous situations, but immersing yourself in school, extra curriculars, or new hobbies can help you overanalyze less.
Friend zone. The good kind! Remember that your friends are there for you. They will take you out, make you laugh, and join you while you sing your sorrows at karaoke. They’ll help you forget about your broken heart even for a little while if you just let them.
Time (after time). After Barry confessed to Iris, things were awkward to say the least. But he broke the ice with a nice speech about a future where things aren’t weird anymore and they’re still best friends. “It’ll be here faster than you think.” Take his word for it—the guy does know a thing or two about speed.
Someone new. It was only when Barry stepped out of his comfort zone that he met a new girl. This week’s episode introduced us to cute, confident, and smart Linda—that thing with the app is one heck of a move! She works for the same newspaper as Iris, which isn’t unlikely to happen in real life because it’s a small, small world.
The real world is also full of other people to crush on and fall in love with—maybe even those you already know. (Do our eyes deceive us or is there a little something between Barry and Caitlin?!)
Catch a glimpse of The Flash on ETC.