7 Things You'll Be Surprised to Know About Lily Collins
You look at Lily Collins—brow inspo, fashion kween, not to mention the girl who brought to life Clary Fray, Rosie Dunne, and Snow Freaking White—and you think she's got life all figured out. But just because she makes it look effortless, doesn't mean it is. (Spoiler alert: It never is.) In her debut book, Unfiltered, Lily opens up about her experiences and painful struggles, how she dealt with them, and what she wishes her younger self knew.
- She suffered from eating disorders. It started when she was a teenager, and she became very good at hiding her anorexia and bulimia. She obsessed over calories, took pills, and clocked countless hours at the gym. "I thought I looked amazing, and if anyone said anything negative, I assumed they were envious." It took her years to realize that she was harming herself and also her loved ones. Now, she’s learned to develop a healthy relationship with food, treating it as nourishment instead of punishment. "Healing is an ongoing process, and I will be working through my disorders for the rest of my life."
- She's been ghosted a few times. You'd think that no boy would dare ghost someone like Lily, but here is yet more proof that when it comes to this dating crime, the burden is all on the ghost-er (or ghost?). "When I considered that the common denominator in all these situations was me, I automatically assumed that I was the problem. But let's be clear: you are never the problem—they are. I promise."
- She's had her (un)fair share of toxic relationships. There was the guy who emotionally, verbally, and physically abused her. "I was so deep in the situation, desperately wishing to be accepted and desired by this person, that I didn't have the courage to stand up. It wasn't until I reached my limit, when my body felt like it was shutting down, that I finally recognized I needed to end it."
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Then there were the guys with addiction. Again, Lily wondered if it was her that was the problem since it had become a pattern. "Maybe they saw me as nice and easy to dupe. No matter the reason, the bottom line is: they didn't regard me highly enough." Eventually, Lily realized this: "You have to love yourself the most and use your voice. And now I recognize that when I used mine, I wasn't talking to him. I was talking to his addiction and it refused to hear me."ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
- She didn't always have a great relationship with her dad. Lily's father is singer-songwriter Phil Collins, but to her, he was simply dad. Her parents got divorced when she was five, after which he moved from their home in England to Switzerland. The distance led to a strained relationship with him. It was very difficult for Lily, but she took the initiative and told him what she needed and expected from him, and that she will always love him. The open lines of communication helped when her dad battled with alcoholism. She, along with the other people in his life, was able to get through to him and lead him to sobriety.
- She desperately wanted to play Jenny Humphrey on Gossip Girl, and live the New York life, but it was not meant to be. Things have a funny way of working out in life (and love), and with other opportunities (and relationships) coming her way, Lily realized that everything was happening for a reason. "So, thank you to all those people who have dealt me a crappy hand and told me no—it's made hearing yes that much better."
- She's a born go-getter and storyteller. Lily was 15 when she cold-called editors to pitch stories for teen magazines from a teenager's point of view. Makes perfect sense, you think, but keep in mind that this was before social media as we know it, before teens had multiple platforms to speak their mind. After plenty of rejections, she got a meeting with Elle Girl UK, and that meeting led to a monthly column about her life in LA. The magazine eventually folded, but it was her way into the industry and pretty soon she was writing for various magazines and reporting for Nickelodeon. And it all started because she had the guts to go after what she wanted, even if there were no guarantees.
- She's telling all in the hopes that her painful past would lead to a brighter future for other girls. "I can't change my past, nor would I want to. All I can do now is move forward, apply what I've learned, and pass any wisdom along to young women who may not even know they need to hear it... Choosing how and when to admit my truths now allows me to take back the power that my insecurities had once stolen. I will no longer let them dictate how I live my life. After all, bottling up my secrets never did any good. If I'd just spilled them to someone I trusted, I could have felt more connected and supported. And that’s what it's all about.”
Unfiltered is available at National Book Store.
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To the Person Who Does Not Know Any 1D Song
By: CJ Reyno
Never in my wildest dream I imagined to meet someone who does not know a single One Direction song or who does not even know, Harry Styles, Louis Tomlinson, Liam Payne, Niall Horan, and err… Zayn Malik. How did you spend your teenagehood without listening to their songs? The disrespect to my #StyPayHorLikSon. My initial reaction, Vas Happenin’?
Since I was 12 years old, that was way back on 2012, One Direction songs have been my official life soundtrip, my go-to songs whenever I feel happy, sad, mad, excited, and etch. I can still remember how people went crazy just to attend their concert here in the Philippines. I must admit, I was one of those. LOL. The group was also dubbed as, “The Biggest Boyband in the World”. They were an era. You really left me in awe when you told me that you do not know a single One Direction song. Their songs are gold. But I was a little hopeful when a new messaged popped up on our conversation, “Hey I know one, Make You Beautiful”.
You do not know how my world collapsed after reading your message. I would like to say that I appreciate the effort, thanks, but they do not have a song entitled, Make You Beautiful, because it is, What Makes You Beautiful. I tried to explain but you said that they are just the same. (Tip: Never fight with a Directioner when it comes to this because we will not let our guards down). No! They are not the same. How can you make this big mistake? LOL. What Makes You Beautiful is One Direction’s debut song. Almost everyone knows this, “you’re insecure, don’t know what for,” ring a bell? The music video of this surpassed 1 billion views on Youtube. On my 21 years of existence, you are the very first person who told me this “I-Thought-It-Was-A-Joke-But-You-Are-Serious” statement.
As a persuasive fangirl, I thought to myself that I should make you appreciate their music, that you should know that it is What Makes You Beautiful, not Make You Beautiful. The group may be in hiatus but their music is and will always remain superior. You are hard-headed lad. We even when to the point where you challenged me to treat so I can make you watch their music video. Am I even surprised that I agreed to this? HAHA. I feel like an agent trying to persuade her customer to buy a property on our company. You do not know how happy I was when you sent me your video listening to What Makes You Beautiful. I felt like I successfully closed a deal with my client. Not to exaggerate but I really jumped because of happiness after watching your video. It was the first message I checked that morning. Thank you for your effort, so much appreciated. Funny how our conversation starts with your innocence on One Direction until it goes deeper and last longer. Up All Nigh conversations which turned to almost Midnight Memories. Ironic how a Directioner had developed an admiration on someone who dislikes her favorite boys? Just like One Direction’s song, Change My Mind, “Never felt like this before. Are we friends or are we more?” I guess, like Liam’s line on Love You Goodbye, “It's inevitable everything that's good comes to an end. It's impossible to know if after this we can still be friends.”
I was happy that I made you listen to One Direction. At least I made you appreciate and made you aware that there is a song called, What Makes You Beautiful, not Make You Beautiful. I am happy that you already found your Girl Almighty. Wish me luck on finding my Summer Love. xoxo, Your Directioner friend
Here's a fan art that I made for Lee Joo Young of Itaewon class! I've been making digital illustration since last year and I'm happy that I was able to see my improvements. I'm also happy to see people's reactions and support for my craft even though all of it are made through my phone (adobe illustrator) only ????. You don't actually have to use expensive or complicated medium as long as you know how to be creative and like what you're doing, then you can do it. ????