Dear Michelle,
I do not expect to emerge with any credit from what you are about to read.
This is goodbye. You always suspected that I couldn't love you and you were right. I respect you very much, and I care for you very much so, although you will find it painful, I have decided to tell you why we must part ways. You are not perfect.
I do not want to be mean, so let me reassure you that your shortcomings are largely physical.
If you were perfect, for me, you would have to be between 5'6" and 5'7" with hair that looks as if blonde and brunette had put their heads together and come up with a better color. Your coif would be natural, about 12" long, neither curly nor straight with an amazing wave to it that would come to life as you flicked it over your shoulder.
Your body should look like the classic and hottest actresses. Obviously your breast would be capable of looking either huge or tiny, depending as the dress demands.
Your skin should be blemish-free, apart from perhaps a charming beauty spot. It should have a texture to make alabaster look like a Quattro formaggio, although you wouldn't give a damn for cosmetics, apart from when you wanted to dress like a tart, which would be often.
Your beauty should be idiosyncratic, within the above parameters.
Most of all you need kind, intelligent eyes. When I say most of all, I mean it's no good without the rest of the package too. Plenty of dogs, the barking kind, have kind, intelligent eyes, but you take my meaning.
Pn this last point, I feel your eyes are intelligent but you naturally screw in your face when you talk, which holds them a bit close together. It means you always look as though you are calculating the price of something. This is unfortunate, because I know you are generous and free with the little money you have.
All the sugary sick things, the idiosyncratic way of flicking the hair, the lop-sided smile, the slightly theatrical way of smoking a cigarette, I'm afraid you'd be needing to do those too, if we were to have a choice.
There is a load of personality requirements which you score very well on. I very much admire your originality in thought and dress, for instance. I know that when I say things like that you always ask difficult questions such as, "In what way?" It's hard to put into words, just take it from me that I do.
I am aware that this is a sorry way to end our relationship, and I didn't want the whole perfection thing to get in the way. I thought for years that I could get around to it, that I could love women in all their diversity, that closeness was what it was all about.
I was wrong. You can't love someone if you think they've got a big nose, not properly. As a man, you might have kids with them, dogs, a house, etc. You might get caught in rain storms and drink win in the sun, do all the romance bit, but when you look deep into her eyes it will be because you want to avoid looking at her nose. Don't worry, you haven't got a big nose, it was just an example.
Rest assured, there isn't just one model of perfection, this is just the one that appeals to my demographic, which, unfortunately, is also yours. There are probably five or six others, maybe more, across the range of men, but I can't see you as Miss Sexy, the ideal stockbroker shag, or the mini-skirt-at-minus-five-inner-city=dream-babe, really, can you?
Don't think me cruel, you just need to know where you stand so you can work your life around this, like living with diabetes. Most women are in the same boat, but they are with men who lack the self-confidence, or looks, or money to trade up from them. There are plenty of these about, men who grit their teeth as the look at their sagging wives and say, "I'm no oil painting, she's the best I can get, I'll try to love her." That's what the kind ones say anyway, and they go to their graves missing the girl with the smaller nose, the girl with the bigger breast, the girl who understands.
I used to think it was okay to be size ten then, a great laugh, with a good figure and nice-ish face. It isn't. Size eight is the very fattest allowable, unless you’re a voluptuous actress, and we can't allow you an "ish" or even a "nice". It's horrible, but it's true.
I know you will do well without me. You are a pretty girl, a wonderful girl, but just not pretty enough for me. All I want from a woman is perfection in body and mind. The rest, career, job, kids, money, success, she can look after while I go down the bar.
I am sorry for my sentiments. I had always tried to believe in the opposite, in love being blind, in working at relationships to overcome the little things. If you're wondering if it was another woman, it was. Is, I hope. I don't know. Whatever, she meets the criteria stipulated above, so I have to go for it. I know you will understand.
I suppose it was my friend Harry who made me realize all of this, indirectly. Which brings me on to a bit of bad news. He's dead and I've inherited his condominium. The dead news was bad, although I knew you never liked him. It's a bit complicated to go into by letter so I'll tell you all about it when you come back. Look forward to seeing you, and say hello to the penguins for me.
Sincerely,
Your ex-boyfriend Mike
