Help!! My friend is addicted to having more than one boyfriend

[leyna9301]

Well, I have this friend and she's younger than me. She's only 13 and has had many boyfriends. The thing is she hooks up with them at the same time! I try to tell her that's bad but she doesn't listen. And now I'm starting to get annoyed. What should I do to stop her with all these nonsense? And before its too late. She's still young, but with having many bf's she might be in danger.

[violetbaudelaire]

Maybe you should talk to her abt the situation she is in. Make her realize the consequences of her acts.,maybe its just her way of having fun or sumthing, idk. But talk to her b4 it gets worse. Bcoz i have this friend way back in HS. Same situation, lots of bfs. Whenever we ask her why she does that, she will just tell us na masaya daw and nakakaboost ng self-esteem etc. And we found out na grade 4 pa lang sya,gnagwa nya na yun! So kahit anong sabihin namin s kanya,wala lang. Hndi na raw nya kayang pigilan..and up to now na college na sya, ganun pa din. So i thnk dapat tulungan mo na yung friend mo before it's too late.

[unrequitedLAB]

Maybe you should talk to her abt the situation she is in. Make her realize the consequences of her acts.,maybe its just her way of having fun or sumthing, idk. But talk to her b4 it gets worse.

True. I used to have a friend like her. I tried to confront her once but she doesn't want to talk about it and worse she denied it. Though we're(my friends) sure the rumors were true.
Anyways, you should tell her that what she's doing is wrong. If she still didn't stop, consult it to someone you both know who you think can think of ideas to stop her from her past time / hobby. She's young and as time passes by, she'll learn her mistakes.

[definedelirium]

tell her everything, including all the possible things that could happen if she doesn't stop. give her the cold, hard truth. you can say your two cents about it, but in the end, only she can stop her flirting ways once karma bites her in the butt and the consequences of her string of boyfriends comes crashing down on her. i dont believe in the saying na 'once a player, always a player' pero sa paningin ko titigil lang sila pag talagang na-in love na sila, like the real thing. you can always be there for you friend and talk to her about her behavior, but if the situation affects you so much that you cant stand being with a person like her, maybe it's time to move on.

[katez09]

Yea.. Try talking to her. Or ask your Guidance Counselor to do so. Sometimes, having a grown up handle situations like this helps a lot.

[lilmisscutie;]

Talk to her out of it.  I mean, she`s too young.  Tell her that there`s a right time for it.  She is your best friend; she WILL listen. [:

[preppychic]

Ang katti niya kamo. If she doesn't want to listen then let her be. Layuan mo siya para naman matauhan.

[Hanzo23]

Ang katti niya kamo. If she doesn't want to listen then let her be. Layuan mo siya para naman matauhan.

I LOL'ed at "kati nya kamo" I remembered a term we used in high school..... Its called "Malantutay", "Malantong" or something like that

Preppy's right. its her life, and as a friend, the only real thing you can talk to her about is to be prepared to handle the results if her "addiction" gets out (READ: all of her boyfriends realize in one way or another)

Since during high school years, there is intense labeling of individuals, just make sure she is aware of what kind of label can be branded on her for such actions. She can hang out with the boys, there are no problems with that, but have multiple boyfriends? Not good

[preppychic]

^ HAHAH. Yah! Malanjutay, pokleng and the likes. 

And the fact na she's only 13 ganyan na inaatupag. Baka nagpapakasawa lang siya sa lalake or she wants na pagsawaan siya ng lalake. HAHA. E yung family ba niya open sa ganung bagay at her age? Maybe you can talk to one of her family members para naman maalert din sila. Baka mamaya mabuntis na lang siya dan tapos hindi pa nadala mabubuntis ulit. I remember yung isang contestant nun sa Wowowee. She has 5 children in different guys tapos ni isa dun sa mga yun walang nag-stay sa kanya to stand as a father. Kung gusto niya matulad dun okay lang. Dun siya masaya eh. Basta ikaw tapos na yung part mo and ginawa mo na ang best help na you can give.

[Hanzo23]

If you look at it from a different perspective, since the girl is 13 (assuming thats first year high school) Maybe she is just trying to establish herself as a unique, highly sought-after individual hence she projects the impression that she has a lot of guys going for her.

Baka naman, isang date pa lang or nanliligaw pa lang yung guy for a day or two, either sinasagot nya agad or the very least pinagkakalat agad na silang dalawa na. "Boy-collecting" can be fun but its a double edged sword. I personally know a girl who really was beautiful and had different guys courting her monday to friday. Trust me, you dont wanna know the labels that are put upon her behind her back. It goes beyond just "flirty", "malandi" and the like.

By the time she figured it out and the secret labels were discovered, she couldnt help but bust into tears in front of our class.

[preppychic]

Being respected is way more important than being beautiful. If she thinks that these guys are drawn to her because of her beauty, let her think twice. Maybe they just know how flirty she is kaya siya pinaglililigawan. Sa batch namin nung highschool, I have this friend na madami nanliligaw sa kanya. Ineentertain niya yun lahat. Little did she know na me habol lang sa kanya yung mga yun dahil sa image niyang b*tch.

[ishtecthomass]

just tell her na ang "landi ,landi mo lol" pag sinagot nya"hindi  ako malandi"sagot mo"ano tawag dun sa maraming boyfriend?edi malandi "para maicip nya na malandi sya  pero seriously sabihin mo na maraming mga ka -tulad nyang edad ang nabubuntis at nag-aasawa ng maaga at nasisira ang buhay,kung di pa rin maniwala sau sabihin mo ,makakarma ka 

[pach]

tsk tsk tsk.

she's hungry for love.

[preppychic]

tsk tsk tsk.

she's hungry for love.

HAHAHA. Yun eh kung sa love lang siya hungry mejo maiintindihan ko pa. Yung tipong naghahanap ng father figure kase wala siyang father.

[pach]

HAHAHA. Yun eh kung sa love lang siya hungry mejo maiintindihan ko pa. Yung tipong naghahanap ng father figure kase wala siyang father.

Kung father figure pala hanap nya, o, eh di tamang tama ang pari. kaya nga "Father" ang tawag diba? 


 Pero ang totoo, hinahanap nya ang Diyos. Hindi lang nya alam kung ano ang hinahanap nya kaya she settles for less.


Once she finds God, she will not crave for anything else other than him. Advice ko sa thread starter: Tell her to begin to pray, to talk with God. Tell her to go to Church because there she will find the peace she craves.

Sex is a substitute (albeit, poor) for God.


"My heart is restless until it rests in You"