long distance relationships...useless daw ba?

[katrinard_4ever]

Ung huli ko naging boyfriend kasi hindi pa kami nagmemeet sa personal....we met each other through text.Palagi xang nagyayaya na magmeet kami.niyayaya q xa pumunta sa church kung saan aq nagsisimba or sa school namin pero gusto nya sa park.Kung sa park nman masyadong malayo sa bahay namin tska hindi aq pinapayagan magcommute mag-isa.Sabi niya wala daw kwenta ung relationship namin kung hindi kami magmemeet.Kung para sa akin wla nman ung distance kahit hindi kami mgkaholding hands pero mahal nmin ang isa't isa.Kya jan nagtapos ung lovestory namin.

[kateikyoushi]

been there done that... we're almost 1 year & 2months pero we never met pa in person  (thru pictures lang) ...imagine ... minsan napag.isip2 ko tuloy, ano ba tong napasukan, ang weird, very weird kasi kahit hindi ko pa xa nakilala in person, i'm truly, madly, deeply inlove  (lol tama ba un? ung lyrics ng kanta)..  .. haha .
Ilang beses na naming magtry na magmet pero ayaw yata ng pagkakataon. We're islands apart, since he's from negros, while im in iloilo.. Ngaun mas malayo pa kasi nasa manila na xa  ...Sad naman)...
Pero our relationship is getting stronger, kahit ilang beses na kong mag.attempt na maghiwalay kami.. (ang sama ko  ..) lalo pa kapag nag.away kami, xa pa ung hihingi ng sorry kahit kasalanan ko pa para lang magka.ayos kami..  ..
well hanggang ngaun kami pa rin.. Tsaka we both know naman na the right time will come din kung kelan kami magkikita talaga... (hope so).. 

[prettyjenna14]

yes it's useless
i faced that effin LDR for almost 4 months
yun din pala lolokin lang din ako
parang pinasa lang din in other words

[monabhee_05@candymag.com]

i think it's not actually useless talaga... pero depende lang kasi kung hanggang kelan yung span ng time na magkakahiwalay kayo o di nyo kapiling yung isa't isa...




kung masyadong matagal eh napakalaki ng  tandecy na maging useless....



kung one week lang naman kayong away fron each other, eh ok lang,,... hindi yon... kung may pinagsamahan kayo before kayo mag-hiwalay ng lugar eh, mga one month kakayanin... heheeh...



pero kung halimbawa nalang kasi ng mga story sa taas, na kahit minsan hindi sila nagkita, ay, malabo talaga... dapat kasi magkasama kayo para maging matibay ang relationship... atsaka malabong mahalin kayo ng totoo ng mga ka long distace relationshp niyo nang di pa kayo nagkikita.

sabi ng nga physics,

]"as the distance increases, the force of attraction decreases"




may boyfriend din ako dati, actually 1 month lang kami kasi nga hindi kami madalas magkita kahit pa classmate ko sya nung elementary at may pinagsamahan kami. hindi din sya nagwork kaya i decided to break him... kasi wala na talaga..







ayun lang... share ko lang personal experience ko about that...heheeh







but somewhere down the road, maybe your roads will gonna cross again, it doesn't really matter when..


hehe..


oh ayan, kinantahan ko na kayo...heheeheh

[rHcL_1819]

it depends naman..

i'm in a long distance relationship for almost 4 months now and medyo matagal pa bago magkita kami ulit. i moved here in the united states and ilang months pa bago ako bumisita ng pilipinas and months din before he move here. so yun... LDR muna. pero before ako umalis, 7 months na relationship namin and we tried to spend most of our times together. super bonding moments kami. everyday kami magkasama kasi nga sabi nya, kahit 24 hours pa kami magsama sa mga remaining days ko dun di pa rin daw equal yun sa times na hindi namin makikita ang isa't isa.

mahirap ang LDR. sobra. pero, kinakaya.. mahal mo yung tao eh. and there's a hope that someday, magkakasama ulit kayo. =)

i'm not saying yung mga stories above useless. but di kasi ako naniniwala na you could actually fall in love with someone na di mo pa nakikita. of course, di ko nilalahat. may mga marinig na din ako stories. but i still believe na yung may mga foundation na bago mag LDR are more likely to succeed than those who do not.

[japanese_cake]

                    Uhmmm...I think that's nice.Kahit sabihin q pa sknya na mahal q xa and there's a time in the future na magmemeet kami pero parang gusto nya ngayon na.Tingin q my boys lang naman ganun ung gusto nila kaholding hands nila ung gf nila.Kasi saakin iba ung gusto ko sa gusto niya eh.Ok lng kasi saakin kahit hindi pa kami nagmemeet basta Naiisip niya aq itext which means that he's thinking of me.anyway thnks sa advice

[sweetlady]

dont think so. yung ex ko LDR kami. Text lang din kami nagkakilala at 8 months bago kami nagkita, nung birthday nia i finally agreed na magkita kami. Tapos every 2 months kami nagkikita kasi college pa ko nun at working stud ako. So nung naka grad na ako and i moved to my new place, we make it a point na magkita kami every month. Pero yun nga minsan may mga emergencies. Actually siya yung pinakamatagal kong relationship. Umabot kami ng 3yrs mahigit.

[japanese_cake]

been there done that... we're almost 1 year & 2months pero we never met pa in person  (thru pictures lang) ...imagine ... minsan napag.isip2 ko tuloy, ano ba tong napasukan, ang weird, very weird kasi kahit hindi ko pa xa nakilala in person, i'm truly, madly, deeply inlove  (lol tama ba un? ung lyrics ng kanta)..  .. haha .
Ilang beses na naming magtry na magmet pero ayaw yata ng pagkakataon. We're islands apart, since he's from negros, while im in iloilo.. Ngaun mas malayo pa kasi nasa manila na xa  ...Sad naman)...
Pero our relationship is getting stronger, kahit ilang beses na kong mag.attempt na maghiwalay kami.. (ang sama ko  ..) lalo pa kapag nag.away kami, xa pa ung hihingi ng sorry kahit kasalanan ko pa para lang magka.ayos kami..  ..
well hanggang ngaun kami pa rin.. Tsaka we both know naman na the right time will come din kung kelan kami magkikita talaga... (hope so).. 

Ganyan din sinasabi sknya na darating din ang araw na magmemeet kami pero lagi niyang sinasabi ngayon na.but anyway thanks sa advice...

[kateikyoushi]

Ganyan din sinasabi sknya na darating din ang araw na magmemeet kami pero lagi niyang sinasabi ngayon na.but anyway thanks sa advice...

if u have the time, magmeet kayo, kmi sa situation ngaun malabong mangayari un, nxt yr pa uwi nun... were not totally strangers since kabarkada xa ng hyskul bestfriend ko, <=== matchmaker 

And kila2 ko na mga kapatid nya & pinsan, un nga lang not personally.. but lagi ko clang nakakausap sa phone or thru text..  imagine 

tsaka LDR is not useless, as long andun ung love, trust & care, though hindi mo maipapakita thru actions but there are many ways para mapa.feel mo un ... 

[♥michipoo♥]

It depends.

Sainyo dalawa nakadepende yan. If you really love each other, you can find time at exert more effort para magkita or makapag bonding kayo. Kahit once a month or once every two months. It is not necessary to see each other as long as nagkakaintindihan kayong dalawa sa reasons kung bakit di kayo pwede magkita. i 'm in a long distance relationship now, turning 1 year next month. We see each other like once a month lang, pero we are very much happy. I must admit our relationship is not perfect, madalas kami magaway pero pilit namin inaayos. Sa ganitong relasyon. tiwala ang puhunan para mag work ang relasyon. Kami every night magkausap, di nawawala yun. We find time na magkita kahit na pareho kami busy sa school. I can really feel the love between us kahit ganun sitwasyon. Kung mahal niyo talaga isa't isa, distance will never break you apart.

Goodluck

[wonderfulkiimee]

1 yr n kme ng bf ko khapon ng bf ko. malapit n din kme grumaduate. he's planning to study in UP baguio, while i'll staying in manila. medyo malayo ung distance n un. mhirap b ung long distance relationship?? ganu b kalaki ung posibility n mghiwalay pag ganun?? sana wag kme mghiwalay. away ko mangyari un. 

[♥michipoo♥]

^ if you really love each other, walang makakapaghiwalay sainyo. My boyfriend is in Tarlac and I am here in Manila. ( Medyo malapit nadin ang Tarlac sa Baguio.)  Kaya naman basta disciplined lang kayo at pag talagang kuntento na kayo sa partner niyo, for sure di na kayo titingin pa sa iba

[sweetlady]

Trust lang and open communication, everything will work just fine! 

[emskey]

it's not useless, it's difficult.

if he really wants to see you, why don't he compromise? ano yun gusto niya ikaw mahirapan sa biyahe? meet halfway, para parehas kayo mahirapan =)) JK. pero seryoso, if he really wants to see you, he SHOULD find a way, ganun ka din dapat, if you really want to see him, you SHOULD also find a way.

[Ayessa DLP]

it's not useless, it's difficult.

if he really wants to see you, why don't he compromise? ano yun gusto niya ikaw mahirapan sa biyahe? meet halfway, para parehas kayo mahirapan =)) JK. pero seryoso, if he really wants to see you, he SHOULD find a way, ganun ka din dapat, if you really want to see him, you SHOULD also find a way.

I agree!ü It's difficult, but it's not useless.
And I also think it's a good idea if you meet halfway.ü

I think LDR works better for me because it's difficult to always have your boyfriend around you. Personally, women have the tendency to become too dependent on the guy, when he's around you most of the time (kasi nasasanay tayong and'yan sila - kapag malungkot tayo, and'yan kaagad sila para pasayahin tayo - we forget about being there for ourselves and learning lessons on our own). And for me, LDR minimized that dependency thingy.ü There are also a lot of things I have learned from being in a long-distance relationship, like love isn't about being together 3/4 of the time or most of the time. It's about your commitment as a couple to make the relationship work, whatever it takes.ü