@ Sweetfella Ė Hi. Thanks for your inquiry. Itís too bad he couldnít respect your wishes. Unfortunately, a lot of guys feel that if a girl allows them to court her, the guys automatically assumes her response will be a yes, instead of uncertainty. A lot of guys get over this and move on and pursue another girl. These are the guys who have confidence in themselves, and itís just a part of life that you canít get that particular girl. But they are assured that there are other girls available for them, thus their emotional maturity continues to grow and develop. Then there are some guys who lack confidence in themselves thinking they canít get another girl. These are the types of guys who lack maturity and whose personal emotional growth is stunted, and they are stuck in obsessing on a particular girl, and not moving on, even when the girl rejects them.
Looks like you have a stalker in your midst there. Perhaps your best bet is just to not mind him. Pure dedma, as if he doesnít exist in your world. The worst thing a person can feel is not to be felt that his/her existence is acknowledged by someone he/she wants to notice him/her. Hopefully, heíll get bored obsessing with you as you dedma him. If he starts becoming worse in terms of threats or even violence, then you obviously will need to have some sort of involvement regarding the police, so at least it would be documented. Hopefully, it doesnít reach that point. But his stalking you, and tracing your number, shows some obsession on his part that seems to border on a psychological problem, where he canít move on and let go already. Just use dedma for now, but if you feel threatened by any of his actions, then by all means please make sure to notify your local authorities, like the police to make sure it is documented, in case his stalking and obsession escalates into something worse. It is better to be safe than sorry. Hope all works out, advanced happy holidays to you.
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@ Ohanjj Ė Hi. Thanks for your inquiry. Thinking of getting a Christmas present for someone shows you have empathy for others. What you have is a great thing. By not rushing and being friends, you get to know the other person much deeper, and you have a more solid foundation in the upcoming and eventual relationship. The bond will be stronger. I am not saying that it is a guarantee that you two will be together forever, no one can say what will happen in the future. But what you are doing is building a more solid foundation for the future than other peopleís relationships.
A watch is a good gift. Any gift is great at this point. It is up to the buyer to purchase what he or she thinks is good for the other. You can buy him a watch, a belt, shoes, wallet or you could do something that is unique. Something that shows your time together that is appreciated. Putting together pictures of you and him is nice. Itís like making a little mini-history of your past together. Take care and advanced happy holidays to you.