Things You Don't Understand With Guys..

[fabulouschick]

The only thing that I don't understand with guys is, why don't they understand that girls always wanted to hang out with their girl friends? ARR !

[vampiredoll]

The only thing that I don't understand with guys is, why don't they understand that girls always wanted to hang out with their girl friends? ARR !

That's just your guy. He's way too possessive!
I think everyone needs to hang out with their friends without their boy/girlfriends every once in a while. Its called 'having a life'.

[johnny_madrid]

The only thing that I don't understand with guys is, why don't they understand that girls always wanted to hang out with their girl friends? ARR !

This type of guy is insecure with his girlfriend. Not only does he have a possessive trait, he is controlling as well. He doesn't have the maturity to maintain a relationship, and does not know how to have a girlfriend. Little does this guy know, that this will start to slowly push away his girlfriend with him.

The mature guy will understand that he and his girlfriend cannot be together 24/4, as it will encroach too much on each other's lives. Too much of anything can suffocate.

At the same time, one can also infer, does this guy have friends to hang out with, if his girlfriend is out with her girl friends. If not, then he should have other interests or hobbies to take up his time as well, so he can grow as a person.

Controlling is something akin to a dictatorship. People don't like dictatorship, as everyone loves freedom. Therefore, they will rebel. So this guy has to learn this. Give the girlfriend some free time to hang out with her friends. It shows not only trust but caring as well. If both the girlfriend and the boyfriend as with each other 24/7 it suffocates the relationship, and there is no room for it to grow.

[hot_clay]

i think guys behavior depends with their own perosonality and with the girl's too.

[purplestein]

There's this guy classmate of mine who asked me, last February, if he could court me. I said 'no' because I only see him as a friend. Then he said that he'll wait, that he'll still court me no matter what, and that he'll never give up. He even started calling me with an endearment, which I forced him not to call me like that anymore. Later I knew, he already likes another girl. Not that he doesn't deserve to move on from me, of course I want him to find someone else. It's just that I hated why he made all those promises. I kinda held on to them coz I didn't believe that there's actually still guys like that. Ugh.

Guys are polygamous by nature kasi. Mahilig silang magkagusto sa dalawang tao.

[caveat_emptor]

This question suddenly popped out of my mind. how do guys choose whom to court? Do they just pick any available girl? Does it have something to do with being l the most beautiful girl in the crowd? Wala lang. no offense pero sometimes, when i see a couple, tapos hindi ganun kagandahan yung girl, i really ask myself: is the guy really serious??? or if the girl is, well, much bigger than the guy, does he really take her seriously? Sorry, medyo nacucurious lang talaga... i dont know how their mind works eh..

[Hanzo23]

how do guys choose whom to court?

This is rather a difficult question to answer because it is really relative, meaning that attraction is different from guy to guy. Some guy want a smoking hot girlfriend, others, not that much. Other guys want a girl who speaks her mind, others not so much. So the only answer I can really give is that it depends on what a guy is looking for and if it matches his preferences.

Do they just pick any available girl?

This tends to happen with peer pressure. Especially if most, if not all of his buddies have girlfriends already. He may have high standards, but he can cave in to pressure and pick one out in the wild that looks acceptable enough to him and his friends.

mature guys (or men) rarely do this. They know that this becomes a serious commitment so they will take as much time as they would to find a suitable mate. They may get their heart or girls' hearts broken a few times in the process but they are more concerned about the future rather than the present. So they want to find the absolute best partner for life with them.

Does it have something to do with being l the most beautiful girl in the crowd?

I'll be honest, even in the animal kingdom, physical attraction is still a critical factor in looking for a suitable mate.

Does that mean that if you are lacking in the beauty aspect that you are out of luck? Not necessarily. Listen to what I will say, guys want to be with a beauty queen or a model in public and in bed, but nowhere else past that. Beautiful girls actually have it harder because they could run into more bad relationships than average girls. Sure, more guys will court very attractive girls, but how many of them will actually pursue a long term relationship once her beauty wears off?

Wala lang. no offense pero sometimes, when i see a couple, tapos hindi ganun kagandahan yung girl, i really ask myself: is the guy really serious??? or if the girl is, well, much bigger than the guy, does he really take her seriously? Sorry, medyo nacucurious lang talaga... i dont know how their mind works eh..

This is the complexity of human beings, we all have our preferences and we strive to find partners whom we can spend our time. Sometimes short term, sometimes long term. The important thing you have to remember is if someone is indeed interested in you. Be your genuine self. This will help you determine if a guy is truly serious with your or not.

[caveat_emptor]

Thanks so much. I'm now more enlightened

[alexa_13]

hindi nila kayang mag stick to one! makakita lng ng iba, hala sige go ng go na agad. i haven't experienced loving too much. bata pa ko. you can say that im bitter. but that was the reality. im just 16 years old and bkit kailngan na magkaroon tayo ng boyfriend since alm nman natin  na hindi rin sila ung mgging huli? so meaning we know in ourselves that we are just playing wIth them. ITS NOT LOVE!
NBSB? nope. i have a bf once. but it's just a game. he wanted to play so i played with him. nothing more.

TORPE PA. MADALAS.

[miirimii]

How they can be so close with other girls; tapos pag-dating naman sa girl nila, they're can be so protective when the girl hang-out with other guys. @______@

[Hanzo23]

How they can be so close with other girls; tapos pag-dating naman sa girl nila, they're can be so protective when the girl hang-out with other guys. @______@

Did you actually formally introduce your boyfriend to your other male friends? If not, then there is your answer.

[miirimii]

Did you actually formally introduce your boyfriend to your other male friends? If not, then there is your answer.

Salamat po sa advice.
 They know naman po.  I trust him and he trust me. But he doesn't trust my other guy friends when I'm close with them. Tapos palagi niyang sinabi sa akin, "Believe me, my intuition is always right." And I'm like 

[candygirl10795]

i don't understand why guys sometimes di pumapayag sa mga gimik ng barkada. feeling tuloy ng mga friends ko lumalayo ako

[alynnah]

for the same reason that some girls don't like their guys hanging out with his guy friends...

They want quality time together, it just depends on the guy/girl how strict they are with their partners. It's not a general rule, it just depends sa taong kasama mo, personality niya, needs/wants niya, etc. Kung ok lng sa kanya hangout ka with your barkada

[candygirl10795]

Thanks for the advice, i appreciate it.