Things You Don't Understand With Guys..

[genielovesyou]

I don't understand what are they thinking.. and what are their feelings

let me tell you my story.
i like a guy in my rotc class.
he is a commander of our platoon so what i did is  i ask my friend if she can get his number..
so she did..
i text him.. he texted me..
it feels that he was very curious of me because he asked my name.. etc
then i said.. " Sir, hanapin mo na lang ako sa platoon excess"
then he said, sure..

nung dumating yung araw na may class kami ng rotc..
hindi muna ako pumasok ng umaga kasi may class ako ng trigonometry eh mahirap yun..
mga lunch time, kinukwento na ng mga friends ko na hanap ng hanap siya sa akin. etc
natuwa naman ako
ayun.. nagpaganda na ako etc..
pagpasok namin sa hapon..
hindi na muna niya ako hinanap kasi kailangan namin magpractice..
after practice sabi niya sa friend ko. "uy! asan na si (my name)?
so ung friend ko hinila niya ako at sinabi niya " sir, si (myname) oh?
nagsmile naman ako..
tapos umu oo na lang ulo niya tapos dedma..
yun naasar ako kasi unexpected reaction!

ANO YUN?! DI KO MAINTINDIHAN! ATAT NA ATAT SIYA NA MA MEET NIYA AKO TAPOS UN LANG? PARANG WALA LANG AKO NUNG NA MEET NIYA AKO...

the next day.. wala na ang feelings ko sa kaya LOL..

ganun ba talaga ang mga lalaki???

[Hanzo23]

tapos umu oo na lang ulo niya tapos dedma..
yun naasar ako kasi unexpected reaction!

ANO YUN?! DI KO MAINTINDIHAN! ATAT NA ATAT SIYA NA MA MEET NIYA AKO TAPOS UN LANG? PARANG WALA LANG AKO NUNG NA MEET NIYA AKO...

the next day.. wala na ang feelings ko sa kaya LOL..
ganun ba talaga ang mga lalaki???

That doesnt necessarily mean anything. What were you expecting of a reaction? He may have had a lot of things going through or was busy at that moment. Guys arent exactly the most emotionally visible of the two genders. The important thing is that if he did show interest in you, he should the very least have contacted you afterwards. If not, then I'm sad to say that he isnt really interested.

I myself show those tendencies. I've been introduced to a couple of girls and I dont exactly go bouncing off the walls when I meet them. I just give them an informal greeting and we part ways. If I still recall her name and face later on in the day or the day after, then I usually give her a call to invite her to  a casual lunch date.

[genielovesyou]

That doesnt necessarily mean anything. What were you expecting of a reaction? He may have had a lot of things going through or was busy at that moment. Guys arent exactly the most emotionally visible of the two genders. The important thing is that if he did show interest in you, he should the very least have contacted you afterwards. If not, then I'm sad to say that he isnt really interested.

I myself show those tendencies. I've been introduced to a couple of girls and I dont exactly go bouncing off the walls when I meet them. I just give them an informal greeting and we part ways. If I still recall her name and face later on in the day or the day after, then I usually give her a call to invite her to  a casual lunch date.

ahhh.. ok..
well, in the evening he texted me a forwarded message..
but because I'm so depressed with his reaction..
i dont want to talk to him 
so i didn't reply.. haha..
after some days.. he stopped texting me..
but i send him a few quotes, a "how are you?"
end of the story..

so this means his not interested in me?

[Hanzo23]

ahhh.. ok..
well, in the evening he texted me a forwarded message..
but because I'm so depressed with his reaction..
i dont want to talk to him 
so i didn't reply.. haha..
after some days.. he stopped texting me..
but i send him a few quotes, a "how are you?"
end of the story..

so this means his not interested in me?

Well he did contact you that night didnt he?
Im not sure how it will work afterwards since both of you are playing footsies (AKA Hard to Get)

[genielovesyou]

Well he did contact you that night didnt he?
Im not sure how it will work afterwards since both of you are playing footsies (AKA Hard to Get)

HAHAHAHA!!
ahh ok... now i understand
HAHAHA..
thanks a lot..

[cLimp27]

"hindi naman talaga lahat ng lalaki manloloko, nagkataon lang talaga na mali tayo ng napili"

[kends]

Okay just wanna clear things out.

So I opened my guy's fb awhile ago. Nakita ko sa messages na you know. May ka PM siyang girl which happen to be my batch mate na kinaseselosan ko tapos yung isa yung ka fling niyang teacher namin last year.

I confronted him about it. May mga nabasa rin kasi akong I miss you, Text me ow, where are you?, labas tayo, inom tayo, and mga banat pa nga like pakasal na tayo, di ba pwedeng tayo na lang.. and other stuffs.

Syempre uminit ulo ko nun. Tinanong ko siya. Pero galit na ako talaga. Sino ba namang hindi. Sabi niya na joke lang daw lahat yun. Ginugood time niya lang daw kasi friends daw sila. Bat daw ako magpapaapekto? The hell. Kasalanan niya yun ngayon ako yung pinagsasalitaan niya ng ganyan.

Hindi ko lang maintndihan. Bakit ba kase kelangan pa ng mga ganun? Nakakaapekto kasi sa part ng girls. Kahit pa joke yun. Tapos pag nag sorry at nag exlain gusto paniwalaan agad para matapos agad agad. Pag hindi naniwala muna ang babae, sasabihin bahala ka basta ako nag explain na. mamaya mag aaya mag break. Tssss. Anoba. :|

[Hanzo23]

So I opened my guy's fb awhile ago. Nakita ko sa messages na you know. May ka PM siyang girl which happen to be my batch mate na kinaseselosan ko tapos yung isa yung ka fling niyang teacher namin last year.

In my opinion, this is a huge no-no for me. Privacy is still privacy. Place yourself in his shoes, would you want your BF to check on your FB, email and cell texts to read all of your personal messages?

I confronted him about it. May mga nabasa rin kasi akong I miss you, Text me ow, where are you?, labas tayo, inom tayo, and mga banat pa nga like pakasal na tayo, di ba pwedeng tayo na lang.. and other stuffs.

harmless comments, besides, people post stuff in other people's blog all the time. Imagination and jealousy do not mix well.

Syempre uminit ulo ko nun. Tinanong ko siya. Pero galit na ako talaga. Sino ba namang hindi. Sabi niya na joke lang daw lahat yun. Ginugood time niya lang daw kasi friends daw sila. Bat daw ako magpapaapekto? The hell. Kasalanan niya yun ngayon ako yung pinagsasalitaan niya ng ganyan.

Hindi ko lang maintndihan. Bakit ba kase kelangan pa ng mga ganun? Nakakaapekto kasi sa part ng girls. Kahit pa joke yun. Tapos pag nag sorry at nag exlain gusto paniwalaan agad para matapos agad agad. Pag hindi naniwala muna ang babae, sasabihin bahala ka basta ako nag explain na. mamaya mag aaya mag break. Tssss. Anoba. :|

I'm not siding with the guy just because I am one. Unless he does something about those comments, then it doesnt really mean anything.  You have to trust him to make sensible decisions about his relationship with you. If he screws up, then break up with him, plain and simple.

Being jealous and manipulative are the first signs that you are not a very good fit for your partner. If you trust him to have the right mindset to be in a serious relationship, you will not behave in this manner.

No girl has the right to manipulate a guy's social life just for the sake of the girl's convenience and peace of mind. Your confrontation with him might already be enough to actually instigate the idea that he should cheat in certain occasions. Since you are already accusing him of doing it, he might as well as do it.

Give him the power to be responsible. If you catch him, just break up. Believe me on how responsibility can empower a person. The relationship may fall apart later, the only difference then is you are not the bad person in that situation.

[cLimp27]

hey hey, let's just accept the fact that nature na ng guys ang flirting. Kapag nagflirt sya, it doesn't really mean na hindi nya mahal ang  girlfriend nya, gaya nating mga babae, we get jealous, we always make  "hinala" just as like boys make flirting. and yang mga yan, pag pinakita mo na apektado ka sa pagfiflirt nya, lalo yang magpapapansin eh. alam mo yon, para lang silang mga pilyong bata, pag sinaway mo, lalo nilang gagawin. gaya nga ng sabi ko, flirting lang yan. pano mo ba malalaman na flirting? simple lang, kapag madami sila, pag madami kang nalalaman na tinetext oh nilalandi nya. pero kase, kapag hindi naman sya yung flirt type na guy, and there's just this single person na laging issue sa relationship nyo, aba, it's not flirting anymore. kase pag flirting, papalit palit. so, you have to make sure first kung seryoso na ba talaga yung guy sa babae. as long as wala kang napapatunayan, don't jump into some conclusions but always expect na pwede yung mangyari. sabi nga nila, you have to trust despite of the doubts. ipakita mong may tiwala ka, ipakita mong mahal mo siya, but don't ever make them feel na hindi mo kayang mabuhay ng wala siya.. kase, iisipin nila na okay lang gawin nila kahit ano, okay lang na masaktan ka nila kase hindi mo naman sila iiwan.  ipakita mo na magiging kawalan nya pag niloko ka nya. you just have to trust them, make them feel na proud ka kase boyfriend mo sya, dont pull them down, wag obssesive masyado, pag kase naramdaman nila yan, kakawala talaga. make them feel free but advise them to know their limitations. Listen to them. Be open. Hindi yung pag gusto mo, gusto mo lang. you are partners right? Always put your foot into their shoes para magkaintindihan kayo. ayun lang. shinare ko lang po. yan yung mga natutunan ko nung nagbreak kami. lahat ng sinabi ko jan, kabaligtaran ng ginawa ko sa kanya, kaya ayun, hahah.. and one thing i've learned? ang lalaki, kapag nasa isang relationship yan. as long as sinabi nyang mahal ka nya, believe them. kahit alam mong pwede ka nyang lokohin oh kahit may iba sya. kase kung alam naman nyang mas mahal na nya yung isa, hindi na sya magsstay sayo, kung mahuli mo man, nasasayo na kung gusto mo pang mgstay oh hindi. hindi ko sinabing magpakatanga ka, pero kase,  as long wala kang ginawang masama sa kanya, as long as wala kang ginawa kundi ang mahalin sya, marerealize nya na mas matimbang ka.. maybe hindi ngayon, pero pagsisisihin nya. pipiliin pa rin nya yung taong alam nyang mahal sya.
that's love. hindi martyrdome yun. wag kang matakot kung paulit ulit kang masaktan, ang importante, hindi ikaw yung nanakit. believe me. kung hindi man kayo yung magkatuluyan, magiging mas matimbang ka pa din kase alam nya na mali sya ng choice.

[kends]

In my opinion, this is a huge no-no for me. Privacy is still privacy. Place yourself in his shoes, would you want your BF to check on your FB, email and cell texts to read all of your personal messages?

I didn't mean it. Siya yung una kasing humingi ng account ko. So we exchanged accounts. Besides wala pa namang super private na stuffs dun so yeah okay lang naman.. for me I guess.

harmless comments, besides, people post stuff in other people's blog all the time. Imagination and jealousy do not mix well.

I'm not siding with the guy just because I am one. Unless he does something about those comments, then it doesnt really mean anything.  You have to trust him to make sensible decisions about his relationship with you. If he screws up, then break up with him, plain and simple.

Sinasakyan niya din kasi yung mga ganun. Syempre initial na reaction ko naman, mairita or something. Ayon. Kaya medyo nagalit talaga ako nun. Di naman sa walang tiwala, BAKA lang kasi. Malay natin diba? Pano kung ma tempt siya. Ayoko naman umabot sa point na yun.

Being jealous and manipulative are the first signs that you are not a very good fit for your partner. If you trust him to have the right mindset to be in a serious relationship, you will not behave in this manner.

No girl has the right to manipulate a guy's social life just for the sake of the girl's convenience and peace of mind. Your confrontation with him might already be enough to actually instigate the idea that he should cheat in certain occasions. Since you are already accusing him of doing it, he might as well as do it.

True. Maybe we stil need to know more about ourselves, how we handle things,how we react at issues, and how we face situations like this. Sorry for my wrong act.

Give him the power to be responsible. If you catch him, just break up. Believe me on how responsibility can empower a person. The relationship may fall apart later, the only difference then is you are not the bad person in that situation.

Yup! Thank you!

[Hanzo23]

Sinasakyan niya din kasi yung mga ganun. Syempre initial na reaction ko naman, mairita or something. Ayon. Kaya medyo nagalit talaga ako nun. Di naman sa walang tiwala, BAKA lang kasi. Malay natin diba? Pano kung ma tempt siya. Ayoko naman umabot sa point na yun.

BAKA is still "maybe"..... cant assume anything until proven otherwise. If he is tempted to do something foolish, he is aware of the full consequences of his actions.

True. Maybe we stil need to know more about ourselves, how we handle things,how we react at issues, and how we face situations like this. Sorry for my wrong act.

No need to apologize to me. I'm just pointing out that you could have handled it in a lot more mature way. Real men find intelligent, mature women a more worthy catch in the long run than the cutesy, jealous and childish-acting girls.

[Eyo.]

There's this guy classmate of mine who asked me, last February, if he could court me. I said 'no' because I only see him as a friend. Then he said that he'll wait, that he'll still court me no matter what, and that he'll never give up. He even started calling me with an endearment, which I forced him not to call me like that anymore. Later I knew, he already likes another girl. Not that he doesn't deserve to move on from me, of course I want him to find someone else. It's just that I hated why he made all those promises. I kinda held on to them coz I didn't believe that there's actually still guys like that. Ugh.

[vampiredoll]

There's this guy classmate of mine who asked me, last February, if he could court me. I said 'no' because I only see him as a friend. Then he said that he'll wait, that he'll still court me no matter what, and that he'll never give up. He even started calling me with an endearment, which I forced him not to call me like that anymore. Later I knew, he already likes another girl. Not that he doesn't deserve to move on from me, of course I want him to find someone else. It's just that I hated why he made all those promises. I kinda held on to them coz I didn't believe that there's actually still guys like that. Ugh.

That awful realization that guys like that don't exist.
It kind of hurts when a guy stops liking you, doesn't it? It hurts our ego to know that he found someone prettier/smarter/etc. 

[Hanzo23]

That awful realization that guys like that don't exist.
It kind of hurts when a guy stops liking you, doesn't it? Its hurts our ego to know that he found someone prettier/smarter/etc. 

Not even that, we hold the idea that "there are more fish in the sea" to be relatively true. one girl cannot be the sole person to possess a certain trait that no other girl possess.

Being "masungit" or playing hard-to-get may work to a certain extent, just to show that you want to be assured that the guy does provide some form of a commitment of his time to win your affection. However, if you make it too difficult for him, dont think for a second that he wont drop you for someone that gives him better chances.

Think of it as a lesson learned, if you miss his ways of endearment, then in a way, you wanted to be courted.

[Eyo.]

That awful realization that guys like that don't exist.
It kind of hurts when a guy stops liking you, doesn't it? Its hurts our ego to know that he found someone prettier/smarter/etc. 

Very true. Us girls, even if you don't like the guy, of course you feel happy that someone actually likes you. But you can't just let them stay because of that.

Not even that, we hold the idea that "there are more fish in the sea" to be relatively true. one girl cannot be the sole person to possess a certain trait that no other girl possess.

Being "masungit" or playing hard-to-get may work to a certain extent, just to show that you want to be assured that the guy does provide some form of a commitment of his time to win your affection. However, if you make it too difficult for him, dont think for a second that he wont drop you for someone that gives him better chances.

Think of it as a lesson learned, if you miss his ways of endearment, then in a way, you wanted to be courted.

You're right.
Yeah, I kinda miss his texts everyday and sometimes, even calls. But I'm happy for him that he's moving on. I don't want him to feel hopeful about the two of us because I myself haven't fully moved on from my past. And I think he has a better chance with the girl he's currently courting. All is well.