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im just confuse with his actions :-\

Why? What makes you confused with his actions?

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heyy there ate Xyla.
i hope that you could give me any inspiration or advice in my situation today.  :)

Last year, my best friends and I made a group called Goddesses 6 namely Sofia (me), Victoria, Melanie, Paula, Angelicea and Chelzi.
We were very close- we treated each other like SISTERS!
I was very happy and proud to have friends like them helping me in times of trouble.

But when summer arrived, Melanie invited Paula and Victoria to Polo Club for a "get-together".  :'( I felt very disappointed and sad because she didn`t invite me! :-[ I saw their pictures in her multiply and it looks like they`ve forgotten us- Chelzi, me and Angelica! We made our own friendster account and I`m the only one opening it. I`m kinda feeling that I should cancel our friendster acct. but I`m afraid because maybe the others would think I`m being so sensitive!

I need MAJOR help!

lovelots, Sofia  :-\

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heyy there ate Xyla.
i hope that you could give me any inspiration or advice in my situation today.  :)

Last year, my best friends and I made a group called Goddesses 6 namely Sofia (me), Victoria, Melanie, Paula, Angelicea and Chelzi.
We were very close- we treated each other like SISTERS!
I was very happy and proud to have friends like them helping me in times of trouble.

But when summer arrived, Melanie invited Paula and Victoria to Polo Club for a "get-together".  :'( I felt very disappointed and sad because she didn`t invite me! :-[ I saw their pictures in her multiply and it looks like they`ve forgotten us- Chelzi, me and Angelica! We made our own friendster account and I`m the only one opening it. I`m kinda feeling that I should cancel our friendster acct. but I`m afraid because maybe the others would think I`m being so sensitive!

I need MAJOR help!

lovelots, Sofia  :-\


Hi Sofia.
Thanks for sharing your problem. I think the only thing I can advise you is to talk to them. Ask them why they didn't invite you or something for you to clear some issues because if you leave it just like that the problem won't be resolved. Always remember that a good communication makes a relationship strong. Avoid all those assumptions by talking to her in a calm way.

Good luck with that. Update me. Okay? God bless. =)

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Hi Sofia.
Thanks for sharing your problem. I think the only thing I can advise you is to talk to them. Ask them why they didn't invite you or something for you to clear some issues because if you leave it just like that the problem won't be resolved. Always remember that a good communication makes a relationship strong. Avoid all those assumptions by talking to her in a calm way.

Good luck with that. Update me. Okay? God bless. =)

ok. thanks ate Xyla. :) I`ll try my best to talk to them.
I promise- I`ll update you. :)
loveyouu! thanks so much again  ;)

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Oh my Gosh!!! I`m sooo sorry! I forgot the HOUSE RULES! you must not mention names! whoops! i`m so so sorry!

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Why? What makes you confused with his actions?

 :)wala na po yun... wala na kong paki dun!
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ok. thanks ate Xyla. :) I`ll try my best to talk to them.
I promise- I`ll update you. :)
loveyouu! thanks so much again  ;)


I'll be waiting for your update. :)

:)wala na po yun... wala na kong paki dun!

Hehe. Wala na ba? Ikaw talaga. =P

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hey there. i was kinda having this problem since february. its about me and my best friend. he's a guy. usually, when we talk to each other. we feel comfortable. we talk to each other seriously and sometimes we play jokes on each other. we're always together, even in school. we're like totally, major best friends in school. but now, he's acting a bit strange. when we talk, i dont feel like he's comfortable with anymore. it's like, everything has changed between us. i asked my friends about my problem. they said that maybe this guy has a crush on me but he never told me that before... but its impossible... because he's my bestfriend and we tell each other everything. now im feeling insecured when im with him, i miss him when he's not around, i dont feel like talking to him when he's on the phone and i feel like txtng him when he's not leaving me a message... could please help me with this MAJOR PROBLEM cause im really confused right now... i dont know what to do... :-[


take care - jessamine



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hey there. i was kinda having this problem since february. its about me and my best friend. he's a guy. usually, when we talk to each other. we feel comfortable. we talk to each other seriously and sometimes we play jokes on each other. we're always together, even in school. we're like totally, major best friends in school. but now, he's acting a bit strange. when we talk, i dont feel like he's comfortable with anymore. it's like, everything has changed between us. i asked my friends about my problem. they said that maybe this guy has a crush on me but he never told me that before... but its impossible... because he's my bestfriend and we tell each other everything. now im feeling insecured when im with him, i miss him when he's not around, i dont feel like talking to him when he's on the phone and i feel like txtng him when he's not leaving me a message... could please help me with this MAJOR PROBLEM cause im really confused right now... i dont know what to do... :-[


take care - jessamine






Since you guys are like really open to each other, why don't you try talking to him? Ask him what is up and what's going on. Because if you only rely on the assumptions, nothings gonna happen. I don't think there's something wrong with asking him.

Good lick on that Jessamine.

Just update me. Okay?

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hi, I'm Bianca,
hmm.. i don't know if this thing is so sensitive but i won't mention any names so that i won't be violating any rule. hmm.. i had this bestfriend who's SO close to me ever since elementary but our friendship came to an end last year.. she got pregnant and doesn't know who the father is.. she shares everything to me but before that happened, we weren't talking to each other for so long.. i was shocked when she texted me that she's pregnant and doesn't know what to do.. she told me that she's gonna abort it for she'll only make her life worse if she will continue to carry the baby on her womb. she doesn't know what to do, neither do i. i told her to tell her mom first since they're so close..but she doesn't want anyone to know it since she already decided to abort the baby. i really do love her and tried to keep her secret but after a week, i can't handle it anymore, she told me that her boyfriend bought a medicine that will kill the baby inside. I'm SO desperate to tell her mom bout it but everytime i call her mom, she's always the one who answers the phone and keeps on insisting that i should stop it. since i wasn't able to tell her mom, i approached our adviser and tell her the whole thing. our class adviser went to her and asked her bout it. then after some time, we find her crying so loud and she ran. we thought she's heading for home. we called her mom again and finally been able to tell her everything. but my friend wasn't there. she's with her boyfriend and the next thing we knew, the baby's gone. she texted me hurtful words that put mark on our friendship..
and now, I'm really missing her so much.. I've never had the kind of friend she was to me.. we're OK now.. but so distant from each other.. until now, i still don't know if what i did was the right thing or the wrong one. it boggles my mind why it have to end with just like that.. how i wish i can bring back the old times with her.. but, it's not that easy anymore..
it's not like i wanna be the only girl in your life.. i just wanna be the only one that actually matters..ü

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hey ate xyla!

I'm having a big problem about my best friend... it so happened that she's also my cousin... Ever since close na talaga kami. until dumating yung time that I realized na pareho na kaming dalaga and I noticed that she has changed into a whole new person. by the word change I mean, bad change. she's too paimportante. gusto niya ako lagi lalapit, and pag nagkikita kami, parang hindi niya ako kilala. once, nag-away kami dahil sa boyf niya, si boyf ang kinampihan niya. kahit inaadmit ng mga kabarkada namin na siya naman talaga ang may kasalanan, she was adamant and gusto niya ako pa ang magsosorry.

tapos, paaral siya ng mommy ko at tita ko, isang beses pinagsabihan siya about her boyf kasi hindi pa naman siya allowed, kung ano-anong sinabi niya sa mommy ko. hindi ko na masikmura yung mga ginagawa niya. sa lugar namin she's being called a serial slut behind her back. maraming beses ko siyang binigyan ng chance... but now, it's hopeless na talaga. i plan to tell her that I'm sick of it, I'm sick of her, and I don't wanna be her friend anymore.

Please tell me how I could do it ate xy... I have no idea on how to let go of something I've held on to for as long as I can remember.

:,(

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hi, I'm Bianca,
hmm.. i don't know if this thing is so sensitive but i won't mention any names so that i won't be violating any rule. hmm.. i had this bestfriend who's SO close to me ever since elementary but our friendship came to an end last year.. she got pregnant and doesn't know who the father is.. she shares everything to me but before that happened, we weren't talking to each other for so long.. i was shocked when she texted me that she's pregnant and doesn't know what to do.. she told me that she's gonna abort it for she'll only make her life worse if she will continue to carry the baby on her womb. she doesn't know what to do, neither do i. i told her to tell her mom first since they're so close..but she doesn't want anyone to know it since she already decided to abort the baby. i really do love her and tried to keep her secret but after a week, i can't handle it anymore, she told me that her boyfriend bought a medicine that will kill the baby inside. I'm SO desperate to tell her mom bout it but everytime i call her mom, she's always the one who answers the phone and keeps on insisting that i should stop it. since i wasn't able to tell her mom, i approached our adviser and tell her the whole thing. our class adviser went to her and asked her bout it. then after some time, we find her crying so loud and she ran. we thought she's heading for home. we called her mom again and finally been able to tell her everything. but my friend wasn't there. she's with her boyfriend and the next thing we knew, the baby's gone. she texted me hurtful words that put mark on our friendship..
and now, I'm really missing her so much.. I've never had the kind of friend she was to me.. we're OK now.. but so distant from each other.. until now, i still don't know if what i did was the right thing or the wrong one. it boggles my mind why it have to end with just like that.. how i wish i can bring back the old times with her.. but, it's not that easy anymore..



Hi Bianca. Honestly, that's really a difficult situation. I was also once in your position and that time, I really didn't know what to do. I kept persuading my friend not to do it but unfortunately, I failed. I think you did the right thing because you are just concerned to your friend and to that innocent child in her womb.  Just go talk to her and tell her what you feel about the situation. If you can't talk to her personally, write her a letter. =)

Good luck on that. Update me. Okay?


hey ate xyla!

I'm having a big problem about my best friend... it so happened that she's also my cousin... Ever since close na talaga kami. until dumating yung time that I realized na pareho na kaming dalaga and I noticed that she has changed into a whole new person. by the word change I mean, bad change. she's too paimportante. gusto niya ako lagi lalapit, and pag nagkikita kami, parang hindi niya ako kilala. once, nag-away kami dahil sa boyf niya, si boyf ang kinampihan niya. kahit inaadmit ng mga kabarkada namin na siya naman talaga ang may kasalanan, she was adamant and gusto niya ako pa ang magsosorry.

tapos, paaral siya ng mommy ko at tita ko, isang beses pinagsabihan siya about her boyf kasi hindi pa naman siya allowed, kung ano-anong sinabi niya sa mommy ko. hindi ko na masikmura yung mga ginagawa niya. sa lugar namin she's being called a serial slut behind her back. maraming beses ko siyang binigyan ng chance... but now, it's hopeless na talaga. i plan to tell her that I'm sick of it, I'm sick of her, and I don't wanna be her friend anymore.

Please tell me how I could do it ate xy... I have no idea on how to let go of something I've held on to for as long as I can remember.

:,(


The only right thing to do that is to be honest with your feelings. Do it in a calm and nicest way. Just tell her your concerns. I don't see anything wrong with that.
Good luck on that. Update me, okay?

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i have a very big problem...
and i dont know what to do..
  :(

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Can you tell me what is it? You can send me a private message if you want to.

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I'll be waiting for your update. :)

Hehe. Wala na ba? Ikaw talaga. =P

pasensya ka na ate xyla ha... basta nareaize ko lang na mas marami pang mas importanteng bagay kesa dun.. hehe.. thanks for everything! ;)
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