Dear Candy girls, I've been single for almost 4 months. And I still want/love my ex.We've been together for almost 1 year and 7 months. We're each other's first love. Until now, I'm still hoping for him to come back. I can't move on, or ayaw ko lang talaga. Kasi feeling ko magiging kami ulit. Feelingera na kung feelingera, pero ewan ko ba. After we broke up, he had been inbto relationship pero walang pang 1month, nagbreak din sila. Or shall I say, hindi nagtagal. And now, may crush sya, o gustong ligawan. Take note, kapangalan ko pa. We're sending each other group messagesl, pero hindi kami nnagkakatext. I still want him no matter what.
Anyway, here comes my advice.
You guys have to talk. Its possible that what you are feeling is just a hangover. I mean, you've been together for a long time and you are just missing him right now. Its easy to confuse love with other emotions especially if the emotion that your feeling is strong. Like lust for example, or envy or loneliness even.
I don't know what happened with you guys, but if you really love him and he wants you back too, then maybe you could start over.
But if by talking you suddenly realize that what you want is closure after all, then you get your closure and you can move on.
If you really love him but he does not want you back, you can love him from a distance. Atleast alam mo, diba?
So yeah, the ultimate solution is to talk.
I think its unhealthy that you guys are keeping tabs on each other. If you really want to move on, stop all forms of communications. Even if you are not in love with the person, you would still feel hurt that he's dating other people. By hurting, or feeling pain, you are actually making yourself believe that you are still in love with him, even if its normal to feel pain from seeing your ex date another person even if you don't feel anything for him. Its possible that its just your ego working in you. You hear him dating other people immediately after your break up. But maybe its his way of coping.
I don't know if that made sense, If it didn't, I'm sorry.
Lemme know how that'll turn out, K?