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[miss_ej]

 ahmmm .. wah ..  i need some advice .. 

well .. my mom is mad at me .. and i don't know why ..
she suddenly burst out in anger .. and after that night she's not talking to me ..
i don't know what to do ..
i can't talk to her like a daughter to her mother cause we're not that close ..
i can't even talk to her about my personal feelings .. i know that she'll only scold me .. 

H-E-L-P !!!!

[Random Faerie]

Hi.

I'm currently 21 and I will turn 22 next month. My boyfriend (who is Japanese, and he leaves far away), are going to Cebu for my birthday. My mom allowed me to do it, super naappreciate ko naman yun. And I will definitely be responsible.

Ang kaso ngayon, my boyfriend wants to go to Hong Kong for his birthday (which is on Dec. 31. New Year's eve pa). Do you think it would be too much, do you think that I would pushing my limits too far if I ask my parents if I can go on this trip?

I want to go din, kasi birthday nga yun ng boyfriend ko at super minsan lang kami magkita... Pero naiisip ko din naman yung pag-aalala ng parents ko, at isa pa New Year yun. Ayun. Super torn tuloy ako.

Help naman. Pano ba to?

[ravenmadison]

Hi.

I'm currently 21 and I will turn 22 next month. My boyfriend (who is Japanese, and he leaves far away), are going to Cebu for my birthday. My mom allowed me to do it, super naappreciate ko naman yun. And I will definitely be responsible.

Ang kaso ngayon, my boyfriend wants to go to Hong Kong for his birthday (which is on Dec. 31. New Year's eve pa). Do you think it would be too much, do you think that I would pushing my limits too far if I ask my parents if I can go on this trip?

I want to go din, kasi birthday nga yun ng boyfriend ko at super minsan lang kami magkita... Pero naiisip ko din naman yung pag-aalala ng parents ko, at isa pa New Year yun. Ayun. Super torn tuloy ako.

Help naman. Pano ba to?

Ang hirap naman po ng situation mo. New year's eve pa. Di ba ang pangit kung sasalubungin niyo ang New Year ng hindi ka kasama ng family mo? Ask your boyfriend if pwedeng mag advance ng birthday niya.

[YanYanLabby]

wow! i love the post! it just hit me right! Yes my brothers before don't understand me and my sister is irritating me! but now I understand them it's just that sometimes I got mad because of they really don't get me though I always understand them! isn't that unfair?!

[metallie shane]

hello sis..
I'm a member of what you so cold "teen parents"
haay..

Here is my problem..

I get mad kung pinakikialaman nya yung sinusuot ko eh. here I'am trying to be pretty and sexy for him as much as i could pero parang di nya nakikita.. naiinis pa sya.

then doon nagsimula yung JEALOUSY factor ko. he started to go home late than his usual time of going home.siguro late lang ng mga 1-2 hours madalas pero minsan mga 11 p.m.. tapos nakainom pa sya.. sabi nya kasama nya daw yung mga kumare at kumpare namin.. Pero HELLO!! may anak kami.. tapos gumigimik pa sya.. parang mas gusto nya lumabas kasama yung mga friends NYA (lang) kesa makasama kami ng anak nya.. 

jan ako nasimulang maparanoid.. pag tumitingin sya sa magaganda at sexy girls sumasakit ang puso ko..
pag nageenjoy sya sa ibang companion nya nasasaktan ako..
pag may nagugustuhan sya na bagay sa iba, ginagawa ko naman, pero pag ako na yung gumagawa nagagalit naman sya..
feeling ko yung mga girls na "MAS" sakin gusto nya..

everytime i try to be someone else para magustuhan nya naiinis naman sya..
minsan nga hindi ko na alam kung anong gusto nya eh..

I CAN'T READ HIM NA TALAGA!! 
PAGOD NA AKO..
naghohold on lang ako para sa anak namin..

sana hindi nalang kami kinasal.. 

[jecy]

Helo po.
Here's my dilemma n0t so serious.Pero kelangan ko ng magdecide bago magpasukan:/
nahihirapan po kasi ako sa course ko ngayon as in nagfailed na ako sa major subject ko.Iniisip ko po na magshift nalang,kaso po nagdadalawang isip ako kasi malayo ung papasukan kong skul,im worried bout my mother wla syang makakasama kung magtratransfer ako ng ibang skul.Marami po kasing kelangang ic0nsider like solo na lang sya sa bahay,panu pag marami syang gagawen wala syang mauutusan.Tapos me tndahan pa kame,edi maghapon na syang duty dun.Wala na syang pahìnga.E mainitin pa naman ulo nun bka mahighblood.E yung skul ko po kc ngaun walking distance lng atleast d sya gnun mhihirapan.Kelangan ko pa po bang ipursue ung gsto kong course khet malayo o stick nlang ako sa course q ngaun for the sake my m0ther?Tnx in advance:)

[babypinko8]

Helo po.
Here's my dilemma n0t so serious.Pero kelangan ko ng magdecide bago magpasukan:/
nahihirapan po kasi ako sa course ko ngayon as in nagfailed na ako sa major subject ko.Iniisip ko po na magshift nalang,kaso po nagdadalawang isip ako kasi malayo ung papasukan kong skul,im worried bout my mother wla syang makakasama kung magtratransfer ako ng ibang skul.Marami po kasing kelangang ic0nsider like solo na lang sya sa bahay,panu pag marami syang gagawen wala syang mauutusan.Tapos me tndahan pa kame,edi maghapon na syang duty dun.Wala na syang pahìnga.E mainitin pa naman ulo nun bka mahighblood.E yung skul ko po kc ngaun walking distance lng atleast d sya gnun mhihirapan.Kelangan ko pa po bang ipursue ung gsto kong course khet malayo o stick nlang ako sa course q ngaun for the sake my m0ther?Tnx in advance:)

Hi! Are there any person that can help your mother do all the chores when you're not around? Like a close neighbor or any close relative? If not, I think you shouldn't leave your mother alone because I'm sure that you'll just worry about her everyday when you're far from her. But if you're confident that someone can take care of her while you're not around, then go pursue your dream. If ever that you won't transfer, is the course that you want not being offered at your school now? Or any related course to that? If wala, you're still young, you'll have time to study more if you really want to

[jecy]

di nga po inoofer yung course na gusto sa school namin.i want to follow my dreams pero iniisip ko rin c mama.

[trixie1896]

Lagi po akong kinakabahan kapag dumadating na ang sunday, and one main reason is, hindi po ako sure kung gusto kong umattend ng church. Iba po kasi yung religion ng family namin, pero nagstart po akong machange as a christian kaya po umaattend ako sa christian church kaso wala po akong kaclose sa church at iniisip po ng family ko na iba na ako sa kanila, ano po ba ang dapat kong gawin? Gusto ko pong magstand sa faith ko without offending my family.

[jecy]

Lagi po akong kinakabahan kapag dumadating na ang sunday, and one main reason is, hindi po ako sure kung gusto kong umattend ng church. Iba po kasi yung religion ng family namin, pero nagstart po akong machange as a christian kaya po umaattend ako sa christian church kaso wala po akong kaclose sa church at iniisip po ng family ko na iba na ako sa kanila, ano po ba ang dapat kong gawin? Gusto ko pong magstand sa faith ko without offending my family.

same here gurl ahmm advice ko lang  patuloy lang tau kay Lord!lagi nmn natin syang kasama at tutulungan nya tayo.Hindi nmn kasi natin mababago ang sitwasyon at ang ibang tao,si lord lang ang may kakayahan nun.Alam naman ni Lord yung desire natin na mas makilala pa sya.remember it's not our battle.Lift it up to him  in Jesus name

[babypinko8]

di nga po inoofer yung course na gusto sa school namin.i want to follow my dreams pero iniisip ko rin c mama.

It's either you pursue your dream or you delay it. Have you talked to your mother about what you want?

Lagi po akong kinakabahan kapag dumadating na ang sunday, and one main reason is, hindi po ako sure kung gusto kong umattend ng church. Iba po kasi yung religion ng family namin, pero nagstart po akong machange as a christian kaya po umaattend ako sa christian church kaso wala po akong kaclose sa church at iniisip po ng family ko na iba na ako sa kanila, ano po ba ang dapat kong gawin? Gusto ko pong magstand sa faith ko without offending my family.

Religion is a very very confusing topic. Because I really believe that you shouldn't be dictated on what your religion should be. People have their own beliefs and this belief doesn't depend on your family, friends etc, it lies within so I think that you should explain that to your family. Respect is the key here. You respect their religion and their beliefs and I hope that they'll allow you with yours. My dad is also like that, he's very religious (We're Catholics, btw) and I'm not really practicing so he scolds me every time I don't go to church. It can be irritating but yeh, they are just doing their job as parents.