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[pinkstarlover_21]

hi.. here's my problem..

main problem is that my parents don't want me to have a BF..

they keep on telling me that i'm too young.. lge na lng nlang cnasbe na bka pag may bf ako mbuntis ako or something.. but i know the limits in having a bf.. at tska bkit kuya ko nung ngkron ng gf nung 2nd year cia okei lng?.. it's so unfair.. tska i get good grades in school.. kya ndi cla dpat mgworry.. pero bkit gnun?.. naiinis ako.. and if mhal ko ung bf ko ndi ko nmn pdeng iwan lng cia ng gnun gnun lng.. ndi ba cla dumaan sa gn2?.. maciado clang overprotective.. nkkainis.. and one thing, pnapgbreak nla kme ng bf ko.. then, dmay pa frends ko.. bwal ako lumbas.. bwal ako mkpgusap sa knila.. anong nmang ggwin ko sa haus ayt?.. it's so damn boring in there.. alm nman nlang i can't live without my friends and ndi ko kyang ndi lumlbas.. tpos wla rn akong celfone kc knuha ng mom ko.. 1 month na akong wlng fone tpos ndi ko rn nkkusap ung mga frends ko.. ang boring sa haus.. i get stuck with my homeworks and stuck in my bed.. ang boring sobra.. bwal dn pumunta sa haus nmen ung mga frends ko.. pti mga frends ko dndmay nla.. ang unfair.. sobra.. ano bng ggwin ko?.. ayoko kc mkpgbreak sa BF ko e.. please help?..

[miss_jesselle]

hello! here's my problem....

the main problem is that frustrated ang nanay ko sa akin!

it all started by the time I was starting to enter college. ang gusto kasi ng nanay ko, mapasok ako sa UP (who doesn't?). ang kaso nga, I didn't pass the UPCAT. Then sinubok niyang ipasok ako sa waitlist ng UPLB, ang kaso, after a few days nalaman naming hindi ako nakapasok kasi hindi ko nilagay ang UPLB as second school choice. in the first place naman kasi, si nanay ang nag-fill out ng application form ko sa UPCAT, ang nilagay lang niya, UP Diliman kasi malapit lang iyon sa amin (caloocan), and nothing else, even UPLB kasi ayaw niyang mapalayo ako sa kanila (again, who doesn't). so noong nalaman puwedeng mag-waitlist sa UPLB, sugod agad siya kahit alam kong hindi puwede kasi nga hindi ako (i mean siya) naglagay ng second campus choice.

the day after we knew na hindi ako pasok sa UPLB, we went to PUP. i passed the entrance exams there and made it to the higher bracket. supposedly, the enrollment for those in the higher bracet is april 24. pumunta kami doon may 8, so naubusan na ako ng slot para sa BroadCom, ang natira na lang ay isang night shift slot in Journ. nagtalo pa nga kami ng nanay ko kasi i want to take that last slot, pero hindi siya pumapayag because of the fact na it's a night shift (6:00-9:00 PM). Pero in the end, pumayag siya.

hindi pa natapos diyan! marami siyang conditions like hindi ako magdu-dorm (meaning uwian ako), susunduin ako ng tatay ko after school, and the worst, i can't attend freshmen orientations and join organizations! sinubukan ko na siyang kausapin about that matter, pero ang palagi niyang sinasabi, "pagbutihin mo 'yang pag-aaral mo at makakuha ka ng 2.0 ar higher para makalipat ka ng UP." wow, talagang big deal sa kanya ang makapasok ako sa UP! but then i've already adjusted to the environment! tapos tuwing umuuwi kami ng tatay ko, palagi siyang nakasimangot sa akin! kahit ano talagang gawin ko, hindi ko talaga siya mapa-impress! magiging masaya lang siya kapag nakapasok ako sa UP! help! what shall i do?

[ivica_15]

hi!!!here is my problem po...

no one knows who i am...i can't shae something to my family members. i have so many problems pero hindi nila alam na at night i'm always crying...ung mama ko parang walang pakialam sa akin...when we always going to mall parati si ate katabi nya mas iniintindi nya kpag masaya para daw akong baliw pero kapag normal na hindi ngumingiti nagagalit sya kasi para daw akong irritating!!!tapos kapag nsa bahay kami hihinaan ko lang yung t.v nagaglit kasi pakelamera daw ako...tapos isusumbong ako ni ate....!!!!!eeerrr!!!!naiinis na ako pati ate ko d ko masabihan!!!!(laki kasi ng age gap nmin....s ate-24,si kuya-16 ako 13 dba!!!) lagi akong napapahiya!!!!tapos pag magkasma kmi ni mama sasabihin nya ako daw ang pag-asa nila...dpat nmkatapos...kya nga ngayon undecided pa rin kung ano ang course ko (ano b dapat? kukuah ng course na ayaw mo pero malaki ang salary or passion mo tlga ang isang course pero parang maliit ang salary!?!?!) kpag napapagalitan ako i always think to all these problems no one knows hear what i say,cry,think...i'm always a FAILURE to them na nagpapabigat lang ako for them.....nnnyyyaaaa!!!naiiyak na ako!!!! tpos i can't feel that i'm a baby girl...hhhaaayy!!!!

sana to this site mkahanap po ako ng bagong family na mafull fill ang mga absences ng family ko!!!!even my friends don't know who i am!!!!pls candy staffs or candy family!!!!help me!!!! thank you!!!!

[Toy_addict]

hi.. here's my problem..

main problem is that my parents don't want me to have a BF..

they keep on telling me that i'm too young.. lge na lng nlang cnasbe na bka pag may bf ako mbuntis ako or something.. but i know the limits in having a bf.. at tska bkit kuya ko nung ngkron ng gf nung 2nd year cia okei lng?.. it's so unfair.. tska i get good grades in school.. kya ndi cla dpat mgworry.. pero bkit gnun?.. naiinis ako.. and if mhal ko ung bf ko ndi ko nmn pdeng iwan lng cia ng gnun gnun lng.. ndi ba cla dumaan sa gn2?.. maciado clang overprotective.. nkkainis.. and one thing, pnapgbreak nla kme ng bf ko.. then, dmay pa frends ko.. bwal ako lumbas.. bwal ako mkpgusap sa knila.. anong nmang ggwin ko sa haus ayt?.. it's so damn boring in there.. alm nman nlang i can't live without my friends and ndi ko kyang ndi lumlbas.. tpos wla rn akong celfone kc knuha ng mom ko.. 1 month na akong wlng fone tpos ndi ko rn nkkusap ung mga frends ko.. ang boring sa haus.. i get stuck with my homeworks and stuck in my bed.. ang boring sobra.. bwal dn pumunta sa haus nmen ung mga frends ko.. pti mga frends ko dndmay nla.. ang unfair.. sobra.. ano bng ggwin ko?.. ayoko kc mkpgbreak sa BF ko e.. please help?..

How old are you? Are you the youngest in the family or the only girl?

Don't compare yourself to the freedom your brother gets, because in a typical Filipino society, it is perfectly fine for the male children to have girlfriends at a young age, and sometimes the response people give if boys act the way they do is 'lalake naman yan e, ganyan talaga' especially in terms of fooling around and pre-martial sex. Girls are usually overly protected, pampered, and prohibited to do a lot of things in this society... so that is what's normal. Well dear, it's not about the grades and performing well in school because there are alot of girls I know who were A-students, and were supposed to graduate with honors, and they did get pregnant at junior or senior year, we never know when temptations come, plus we don't really know how we will react when that time comes, we may say we are responsible, and have our heads in the right place now, but when the situation is right there infront of you, you suddenly give in, panic or react differently from how you thought you would have reacted. Why don't your parents want your friends around? Have you asked them all their reasons behind their behavior? usually we just don't understand why our parents do this or do that, but deep inside they do have good intentions, they love us, no matter what we think. Why don't you just try to enjoy being alone, it's not so bad, I like to keep to myself most of the time, engage in activities such as reading, watching dvds, listening to music, exercising at home, doing crafts, playing with your baby brothers or sisters... Appreciate what you have, I know you may be frustrated, but they are your parents, and you must follow their rules, since they are paying for everything, you are living under your roof, and you have utang na loob to them to act accordingly.

[Toy_addict]

@ miss_jesselle

Your mom wants the best for you, she believes in the UP educational system, believes that UP is the best place for you to learn what you need to learn for the future, so why don't you just please her by performing excellently in your present school so you can transfer to UP eventually. Parties and fun can wait, college life is meant for studying and learning, after college, when you are a yuppie, and earning money, that is the time to go out clubbing, partying, travelling with your work buddies. Why don't you just invite your friends over to your place? so you can have fun bonding within the comforts of your own home or village. Or go out once in a while, to the malls, but only early morning till early afternoon, so that your parents wont worry about your safety. There is so much time in the future for fun and games, just study hard now, then when you get to UP, I am sure your mom will not bug you so much about things, since you achieved what she wanted you to do.

[Toy_addict]

hi!!!here is my problem po...

no one knows who i am...i can't shae something to my family members. i have so many problems pero hindi nila alam na at night i'm always crying...ung mama ko parang walang pakialam sa akin...when we always going to mall parati si ate katabi nya mas iniintindi nya kpag masaya para daw akong baliw pero kapag normal na hindi ngumingiti nagagalit sya kasi para daw akong irritating!!!tapos kapag nsa bahay kami hihinaan ko lang yung t.v nagaglit kasi pakelamera daw ako...tapos isusumbong ako ni ate....!!!!!eeerrr!!!!naiinis na ako pati ate ko d ko masabihan!!!!(laki kasi ng age gap nmin....s ate-24,si kuya-16 ako 13 dba!!!) lagi akong napapahiya!!!!tapos pag magkasma kmi ni mama sasabihin nya ako daw ang pag-asa nila...dpat nmkatapos...kya nga ngayon undecided pa rin kung ano ang course ko (ano b dapat? kukuah ng course na ayaw mo pero malaki ang salary or passion mo tlga ang isang course pero parang maliit ang salary!?!?!) kpag napapagalitan ako i always think to all these problems no one knows hear what i say,cry,think...i'm always a FAILURE to them na nagpapabigat lang ako for them.....nnnyyyaaaa!!!naiiyak na ako!!!! tpos i can't feel that i'm a baby girl...hhhaaayy!!!!

sana to this site mkahanap po ako ng bagong family na mafull fill ang mga absences ng family ko!!!!even my friends don't know who i am!!!!pls candy staffs or candy family!!!!help me!!!! thank you!!!!

Well, favoritism in the family is more often than not present in each family. You are just 13 (but you are not a baby girl anymore - so don't expect being pampered either) - during this time, most tweens-teens experience teenage angst, when they feel that everyone doesn't understand them, or the world is against them : the "Me against the world" concept. But infact, you are not alone, you are understood, and I am sure that what you think of as problems are really not problems at all if you think about greater things in the world, such as poverty and the like.

Yes, it is indeed important to graduate from a reputable school, taking a good course, and of course getting excellent grades, so when you are in college, perform as best as you can - getting high grades all the time and studying hard to achieve your goals. There is quite a lot of time for you to think about what you want to take, so why not research about the possible courses that interest you, and when you are in your junior - senior year, you will be taking Career tests, as well as attending seminars about what the best career path you should take, so take advantage of all the opportunities you get in terms of learning about different jobs and courses, ask advice regarding courses from older people around you. 

[pinkstarlover_21]

How old are you? Are you the youngest in the family or the only girl?

Don't compare yourself to the freedom your brother gets, because in a typical Filipino society, it is perfectly fine for the male children to have girlfriends at a young age, and sometimes the response people give if boys act the way they do is 'lalake naman yan e, ganyan talaga' especially in terms of fooling around and pre-martial sex. Girls are usually overly protected, pampered, and prohibited to do a lot of things in this society... so that is what's normal. Well dear, it's not about the grades and performing well in school because there are alot of girls I know who were A-students, and were supposed to graduate with honors, and they did get pregnant at junior or senior year, we never know when temptations come, plus we don't really know how we will react when that time comes, we may say we are responsible, and have our heads in the right place now, but when the situation is right there infront of you, you suddenly give in, panic or react differently from how you thought you would have reacted. Why don't your parents want your friends around? Have you asked them all their reasons behind their behavior? usually we just don't understand why our parents do this or do that, but deep inside they do have good intentions, they love us, no matter what we think. Why don't you just try to enjoy being alone, it's not so bad, I like to keep to myself most of the time, engage in activities such as reading, watching dvds, listening to music, exercising at home, doing crafts, playing with your baby brothers or sisters... Appreciate what you have, I know you may be frustrated, but they are your parents, and you must follow their rules, since they are paying for everything, you are living under your roof, and you have utang na loob to them to act accordingly.

uhmm.. 14 na po ako.. e ano po bang pde kong gwin?.. tutuloy ko pa ba ung relationship ko sa knya?.. or wag na.. kc ngaun ndi na kme ngkkta.. txt na lng kme.. tpos pag may psok mgktxt lng kme mga 4:30-10:00.. un na lng po ung tym na nbbgay ko sa knya.. ndi ko rn alm kung bkit ayw nlang ksma ko mga friends ko.. pero ngaun ata mejo pde na.. kc nkklbas na rn ako.. thanks po sa advice.. tska po nsnay na rn akong ndi lumlbas kya okei na ko.. thank u po tlga.. hehehe..

[Toy_addict]

^ ahh maybe it's best for you and your boyfriend to keep this casual, I mean cool off or don't include the boyfriend and girlfriend as a label, since you are still young anyway, young relationships in reality aren't that serious naman.

[Toy_addict]

I'm still here, for anyone who decides to post their concerns

[Toy_addict]

post away girls!

[acjd_08]

i do love what you guys are doing here even though only a few people reply. i mean... i just wanna encourage you guys to keep on doing this coz for me.. even if i was only able to help one person for a duration of 10 years through this, i would still be happy coz at least i made a diff in a person's life.

[Toy_addict]

i do love what you guys are doing here even though only a few people reply. i mean... i just wanna encourage you guys to keep on doing this coz for me.. even if i was only able to help one person for a duration of 10 years through this, i would still be happy coz at least i made a diff in a person's life.

Wow! thanks for the encouragement This thread still isn't clicking, but I am glad you appreciate the thread we made

[Toy_addict]

Ask away teentalkers, Ate Alex is always here to give you sound advice...

[Toy_addict]

How's everyone doing? Hope you girls are all okay. If your troubled by something thou, please post your concerns, and I will try to help you out. so post away.

[lycheetwist]

hey hey.
i'm so glad we have these things online nowadays..
here's the thing..
my sister is very spoiled by her "nanny" but the nanny has left teh family now for some reasons. since i was on my younger age my sister always fight me. no, not catfight. verbal abuse. those words she spits makes me slap her. but i'm too kind and can't afford to do that. some other people say i'm the kind one and she's the opposite. it's like we're not sisters by blood. she's not even adopted. mom says just don't mind her beacause she's insecure. there i go,she push me, i didn't mind it. stole my clothes wore it didn't ask permission, i smiled. i stole her teeny weeny clothes. verbal abused me. it's kinda ok. but sometimes it's way over than usual. i just cannot bear it. i locked myself in the bathroom. my heart just cried i express myslef through writings and drawings. just this night. i finished the ink in teh computer but it was full when i'm finished.. she verbal abuse me again and pushed me.. i almost fell on my behind.
i need encouragement.
please help. 

xoxo,
~*ayNa*~