RULES OF AN ARGUMENT: FIGHT FAIRLY AND RESOLVE ISSUES.

[alynnah]

Designate a time for you to resolve it then pray before you begin talking about the issues.
No threats during argument.
No blanket judgments or labeling generalizations.
Stay on the topic at hand.
No interrupting.
Stay in present tense.
Don't argue in the dark. (without evidence)
Don't walk away without saying to your partner, "I'll be back". (parang cool-off a bit)
No finger pointing.
Take responsibility for your thoughts. Use "I" language.
Write down the topic at the beginning to insure staying on topic and clarify the issue.
Don't bring up past issues.
Try to avoid over-dramatization.
Allow time to collect your thoughts. Immediate response is not necessary.
Approach the argument with a problem solving attitude, rather than blame.
Try to avoid statements so critical that the other person has no course but to retaliate.
Don't save up feelings and dump them all at once, try to air feelings often.
Try not to yell.
Don't use abusive language or labels.
No gossip.
Speak for yourself.
Neither person is right, there are only differences. Both win when the conflict is resolved.
Admit you're angry.
Go forth as equals. Don't use power plays.

Exclusive Rule for Guys: no shouting! don't cower the girl into submission.
Exclusive Rule for Girls: no crying! talo na kami pag umiyak ka na.

~candyGUY with ♥~

[Kimberchavez]

thanks for this! 

[x_deel0vespink]

 

[iwantmybearhug]

thanks for this..very useful...

[auraroo]

Not that I'm contradicting but I didn't quite understand how "Admit you're angry." would help. Please, paexplain? Thanks!:D Natuwa naman ako dito!

[alynnah]

Not that I'm contradicting but I didn't quite understand how "Admit you're angry." would help. Please, paexplain? Thanks!:D Natuwa naman ako dito!

it means, that if you are starting to get pissed off... tell your partner muna. para pde ka cool-off...
anger is a natural defensive response kasi.

[Amaterasu]

Mmm, interesting. :}

I'll go print this and tack it on my wall.

Thanks!

[camill3_00]

Wow.

This will be very helpful.

[crybaby_04]

Aww... This is very useful, especially for those who usually fail in resolving arguments.

Thanks for posting this!

[alynnah]

that's good! use these to 'win' este, resolve your arguments 

[nightingale]

thank you I need that

[jhenzky03]

thanks for reminding of me about this!!! you're of a great help... God bless!

[pach]

doc, i need self control. 

[alynnah]

doc, i need self control. 

self control with what?

[Miki_07]

wow!tumpak kuya!salamat!

actually lagi kaming nagaaway ng kapatid ko dahil pareho naming ginagawa ang opposite nyan.Hay...