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"My boyfriend gets mad when I ask if I can go through the messages in his phone's inbox. I always try asking for his permission in the nicest way possible, assuring him that I'm just curious, but he gets really annoyed and tells me to just respect his privacy. I don't understant why it's such a big deal—I've always been trusting, but because of his reactions, I'm starting to doubt him. SHould I still trust him, or does this give me reason not to?" —Ynna, 15
I think you should just respect his privacy. Most guys are really like that—they have their limits when it comes to these things. I've lost my phone more than once, so even when someone just touchs it, I kind of get freaked out already. It's really no big deal; I don't think trust should even be an issue, because it's just a cell phone. If he's doing something behind your back, you'll find out eventually. But if what you have feels real, then you don't have to worry. If your boyfriend gets seriously mad at your for asking, though, then ditch him. He's not worth it.
—Marco Mañalac, 17
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Rating: 3.89 out of 5 | Number of Votes: 9
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- 1. craze_gal says:
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i agree with marco but if your boyfriend acts that way mabe there is something..... you try to talk to him..... and respect also his privacy i he is respecting yours.. ok? dont worry that much
December 11, 2006 at 11:37 am - 2. cet says:
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hmmm... just understsnd him, maybe hes just the type of person who is very sensitive when it comes to a personal stuff...
December 11, 2006 at 7:15 pm - 3. brylla says:
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hyahhh....... you need to understand him, maybe he just don't like.... boys are really like that...
December 11, 2006 at 8:59 pm - 4. kRiS says:
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I'd Like to comment about this eventhough I haven't been into reLationships since birth.. heks! Oh weLL, some girLs do that to their bf's because we aLL know nowadays that some guys are not trust-worthy enough (no offense!) so it's just normaL to your gf's (and besides they have a right?) but other guys don't aLLow it (and i understand) 'cause a ceLLphone is stiLL a personaL item to oneseLf so better respect each others privacy and be abLe not to go over board so that you won't have a (big) fight over petty things and just baLance everything.. :)
December 11, 2006 at 10:55 pm - 5. debbiechx says:
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agree :P
December 12, 2006 at 10:42 am - 6. xYe says:
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i beG to disagrEe...aS if he's hidinG somethiNg iF He does't alloW yoU tO checK on hiS inboX...anD as wat you saiD he'S oLweis freaK ouT and getS mad evrY tyM u checK hiS foN..watS wronG wiD doiN daT?! yoU arE hiS gF...ayT!?u haV d ryT to daT...if diS thingS kipS on haPPeninG u bettER thiNk twiCe gURL.....
December 12, 2006 at 2:34 pm - 7. jah says:
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well, actually guys like him are people who values privacy...
for them if you do really love him and if he really loves, he'll never cheat on you...
there are some guys though
already commited in a relationship they still tend to flirt with others...
so try to understand him
December 12, 2006 at 11:14 pm - 8. kharltrina says:
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tol ...my karl says f wa tnatago bf mu den he shud let you read his phone nbox aryt???
mai gngawa ng milagro yan!!!!!!!!lolz
December 13, 2006 at 11:35 am - 9. thine16 says:
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qUnG wLa xiAnG tNtGo bAt aYw niA pBsA uNg mGa mEssAgE nIA...rIgHT?!?!?
December 13, 2006 at 2:32 pm - 10. jheng002 says:
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hayy... naku gurl if i were you makipagbreak kana sa kanya.. he's not woth it.. why wud he not allow you to use or see whats in his phone? what's the reason? its just a cellphone boyfriends sometimes shares their things
December 13, 2006 at 4:51 pm - 11. phin says:
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i diagree xe y must a guy won't show his inbox eh in d first place dey are into a relaxnship?,,so d gurl has d ryt.1 thing more is that,if he doesn't hide anything,he must let the gurl be feel free2 check his phone coz nkapaka petty na magrereact xa like such things as those
December 13, 2006 at 5:41 pm - 12. pink_kamz says:
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i think he's right. every person has the same right to privacy but on the other hand, i guess your bf needs to give you a very valid reason why he's acting such. if he stammers and gets annoyed, it's very clear he's hiding something but if you know him too well and that the privacy is all he wants, then respect him. it actually depends upon the situation. analyze everything before jumping to conclusuins. :)
December 13, 2006 at 7:59 pm - 13. lvlbba says:
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i agree with marco but its kinda alarming if he really gets mad. talk to him and see wat happens
December 14, 2006 at 2:41 am - 14. Sham says:
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Yeah, tama si Marco pero lahat ng girls macucurious kung bakit ganun ang reaction ng boyfriend nya... It's better na ganito nlang ang gawin mo. Mag set-up ka ng date and siguraduhin mo na okay ang mood nya then makipag-usap ka sa kanya kung ano ang na-fefeel mo(pero cool ka lng).
Coz' kung magjajump ka into a conclusion kaagad maybe it will not turn out well diba!!! Anyway, just tell him that you want him to be honest with you and if he is really serious susundin ka nya...
-Chimo-
December 14, 2006 at 6:12 am - 15. carla says:
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hmmm, maybe your bofriend is hidding something to you,, hindi xa magaglit kung he is saying the truth, db??
December 14, 2006 at 12:04 pm - 16. oinkyhunter says:
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...4me.. tsk.. uhm, maybe he's hiding sumtng.. kse, -un
December 14, 2006 at 1:58 pm - 17. clareez says:
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...talagang nkkaduda cempre...f he's rily sincre in ur rel but xa magha-hide ng kahit anu seo...db dapat open keo sa isa't isa?wat's trust den kung ganyan...d wala... so i sugest tok 2 him,say wat u fil...prangkahin mo no... we grlz nman mkkkhalata kng luv pa nla tau or not db?so nasa seo na kng anong plan mo...
December 14, 2006 at 3:43 pm - 18. Ellie says:
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I have a crush on this boy. I think he knew it.My cl*ssmates always tease me with him but he always tease me of something bad.I really get angry with him. But some of my cl*ssmates says that he has a crush on me. i really don't know what to do. And also there is a one girl who also has a crush on him and also tease with my crush, but my crush just react normal with her like what he does to everybody else!Can you help me know what he really feels about me?
December 14, 2006 at 10:54 pm - 19. mariecris says:
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add me naman plzzz....mariecris_maxino@yahoo.com thanks p0h
December 15, 2006 at 9:39 pm - 20. nikkapaola says:
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i think he's hiding something..because why would he react like that if there's none?right?i mean..of course you should respect his privacy..but many people get hurt because of so much trust..just ask him seriously if there's something..then it's up to you to decide whatever his answer will be,..
December 15, 2006 at 9:47 pm - 21. pinay_ako says:
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WHY WOULD YOU GO THROGH SOMEONE'S MESSAGES!!!!???? Ok first of all it's rude! those mesages are ment for that person not for you! Naku saan na napunta yung respeto natin sa other ppls property!
January 5, 2007 at 2:39 am - 22. babyRuth says:
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cellphones are personal things... if you are not permitted to read his msgs its ok.. you must respect that. though it will really drive you crazy thinking what the hell is on his phone's inbox...
April 9, 2007 at 3:25 pm - 23. campus_sweetheart17 says:
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he IS your boyfriend so u kinda hav d right to luk at his fone and same goes for him if he wnts to check out ur fone den he cud also. and if hes not hiding anything he shud b willing to let u luk at his fone. its also about the privacy but lyk i sed ur his gf wala naman cguro dapat itago frum u diba. he shudnt get annoyed or mad dahil AGAIN! girlfriend ka nya!
April 23, 2007 at 7:38 am - 24. campus_sweetheart17 says:
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pero if u guys jus got in a relationship i guess yea u shud respect his privacy.. dahil bago lng kayo
April 23, 2007 at 7:42 am - 25. teardrop says:
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is it free to sign up
April 24, 2007 at 3:39 am - 26. WiNcH says:
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duh...not agree...kc parang may tinatago...
May 20, 2007 at 10:46 pm - 27. chari_chin says:
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oo nga! correct ka campus_sweetheart17!! kung walang tinatago ang bf mu den dapat ipakita nya yung mga message oh kahit anu pa ung andun sa cp nya. ``,)
May 21, 2007 at 4:22 pm - 28. lara_muG says:
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in a relationship..it should have a fuLL trust to ur partner..if u feel theres something wrong then confront him..ask him wat bothers you alot..yeah!!he's right..he should have a privacy..respect him..TRUST him and continue to love him...
June 3, 2007 at 3:30 pm - 29. sheryllanne2000@yahoo.com says:
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trust is very impt. you should trust your boy. if he doesnt want to then don't push him.but if you really want to know what he's hiding, then ask it with a little lambing...getz!
June 19, 2007 at 3:15 pm - 30. mimi says:
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i think may tinatago xa..how could u trust someone hus not open 2 u..
July 14, 2007 at 8:10 pm - 31. hycitch says:
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yoko sa lhat ung my tntgo xkin..nd yoko ng niloloko ako..well.. i think i should talk to him..
July 20, 2007 at 8:57 pm - 32. april says:
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ou, tama c kuya marco.. pero qng walang tinatago sayo ang bf mo, he should feel free to let you read his phOne inbox..
July 21, 2007 at 10:41 am - 33. shobie041994 says:
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kuya Marco has a point... if he really loves you... he wont do such a thing to you... and if you really love him, you should also trust him... because if you simply don't trust him... for me... i don't think you really do love him...
July 21, 2007 at 4:35 pm - 34. kriztal_faye says:
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marco's ryt. u rili nid 2 respect his privacy. well u hve secrets dat u don't want 2 spill. imagine if his secret is in der. if u were in his place. u shud trust him.
August 5, 2007 at 4:03 pm - 35. sukiduncry21 says:
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yeap, u know wat if u luv sumbody u hav 2 give ur whole trust on him, u should respect his privacy,mybe he doesnt want to spill his secret..juzt trust him..
September 26, 2007 at 7:40 pm - 36. prettyrockstahchick says:
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if you truly love your boy friend, i guess you should respect him.. love can't dwell with suspicion!! you'll eventually know if he's being unfaithful.. and if you do, ditch him!! there are lots of guys waiting for you and i think you deserve someone better than him!! don't feel jealous or don't feel resentful about it!! karma will be his incentive if he truly is having a third party!
May 8, 2008 at 7:40 pm - 37. erisato says:
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trust him pero wag sobra.. lahat ng tao may tinatago.. kung meron man ginagawang mali.. karma nlng nya un
May 9, 2008 at 11:03 am - 38. kriziamarie says:
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totally! I'd agree with marco. :)
June 9, 2008 at 4:41 pm


