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Which one are you?
The way I see it, when it comes to ending relationships, a person will act either of two ways:
There is the girl who humbles herself, latches onto a relationship fiercely until she is let go, dredges the bottom until she can no longer find any scraps or semblance of what she used to love. This girl will hang on until she is at the point of humiliation. At the end of the day, when the relationship finally falls apart, she is content in knowing there was nothing else she could have done to save it. She thinks this’ll give her less of a reason to look back and regret.
And then there’s the girl who recoils at the first sign of trouble. She will withdraw faster than he has a chance to prove her wrong. She’d rather be the one who rejects than the one rejected. She covers her bases quickly, and shuts out any possibility of being embarrassed or offended. She’d rather have her pride intact than the truth, with all its potentially gory details.
There are pros and cons to being one or the other.
So which one do you think you’ll be?
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May 15th, 2007 at 6:54 pm
i’d be that girl who humbles herself, the one who does not jump into breaking up with the guy. sasdly, I’ve always been that way. there is a down side to it. You pretend that your relationship still has a way to go. you are fearful of asdmitig that there is something wrong… that eventually, it will end. that’s what i was.
May 19th, 2007 at 10:40 pm
id go for the first one. at least i would never have any regrets.id be cool about stuffs and would not fret.
May 20th, 2007 at 7:26 pm
i’m both..damn it..
May 21st, 2007 at 12:27 pm
err. i think im the first one. ^^.
May 22nd, 2007 at 1:08 pm
i am the first the one… i’ll do evrything for our relationship to work out…
May 22nd, 2007 at 2:44 pm
I guess, based on recent experience, i’m the one who does everything to hold on… even though i want to be strong and rarely show i’m hurt after a guy who said he loved me turns out to be a jerk, in the end, i’ll do everything in my power to hold on to him even though i know i’m just being stupid and even though everyone tells me to let go… because i have one great weakness: when i love, i make him my everything and leave nothing for myself…
May 24th, 2007 at 12:54 pm
Based on experience, I’m the one who holds on whatever happens.. I always try to be strong for the relationship and keep it together… I’ve always been this soft-hearted girl who never wants to hurt anybody… I’d rather be the one being left behind than to be the one who leaves first. because after all, you can always tell yourself that you did everything to make the relationship work and when the time comes you won’t have any regret….
best way after a break up is that you make yourself better, make time for yourself, be more concern with yourself this time you need progression… and when that time comes he’ll realize how stupid he was for letting you go!
May 27th, 2007 at 3:45 am
well, i admit i’m like the girl described as the one who rejects the guy before getting rejected.
I’ve done this role since in the long run I knew this will also happen, it’s a waste of time in keeping up
a relationship that will end too. The downside of this choice were dozens of “what-ifs” and being
hurt and sorry for the pain I’ve afflicted to the guy. It’s bitter but life must move on, and one
thing I’ve learned was to think first for a dozen or a hundred of times before rejecting a guy
worth keeping for. Who knows it might work out. :’)
May 28th, 2007 at 8:35 am
There is the girl who humbles herself..
id go for this one.
im very similar to her=p
id do anything to go on with the relationship.. do everything i could to save it. at least at the end..i wont be the one who will end up crying..i would be the one rejoicing=p
May 28th, 2007 at 11:21 am
well,,i guess im the first one…atleast ill have no regrets on anything because ive done everything that
i could…even though it didnt work out that well,,thinking that ive done my part with my best effort
gives me the strenght to move on and let him go…
May 29th, 2007 at 4:03 pm
based on experience, i’d rather be the one who says goodbye,
show to people that it won’t matter to me.. just like last september,
i was engaged to him and we were getting married by january this
year supposedly but i broke up with him at that very moment i caught him
with another woman who is proven just one of his girlfriends.
even if i was 3 months pregnant then,,.. i knew there was really a need
to save the relationship for the sake of the baby but i stand firm on my decision
inspite of all the things he did hoping to have me back.. i still love him but i was headstrong
now i am moving on as a single mom, and i am happy with my decision otherwise
my life would have been miserable if i hold on to him nor if i did took him back..
life is precious, life is short.
we only will live once.
so live and love wisely.
remember that life and love are not equal..
happiness is a choice.
May 31st, 2007 at 8:57 pm
i’d be the girl who humbles herself..coz if i really love the person..my pride doesn’t matter anymore
i know it sounds stupid because i’ve experienced bein dumped before..but..i think that’s love
but i think you should not let that person take over you life,..and yourself..if you had tried everything
but it’s still not working..you just have to learn letting go..and moving on..
May 31st, 2007 at 11:39 pm
I would stay with my better half till I don’t have anymore feelings for him. It’s funny to know that even if he would turn out to be a jerk, I would still stay and take all the bad things he would do to me. Most of you might say that’s stupidity. I, myself would say that also. I am the person who’s scared of regretting something. If I let go someone that could have been possibly the right one for me, then I would suffer for the rest of my days. But if I tried and tried to work things out with him, but still nothing in progress happened, then it’s time to let go.
June 1st, 2007 at 10:09 pm
sometimes i’m a bit of both… but i really hold on to a relationship, do everything to make the relationship work, as long as i know that the person who i’m with is doing the same thing…
June 2nd, 2007 at 8:41 pm
im the second girl.after one frustrated “like” and a cheating boyfriend (even though i took him back), i’ve learned to hold on to my pride and detach myself from truly being head over heels in love with a guy.it’s called having a brain u know.
June 3rd, 2007 at 7:36 am
uhmmm.. i think i wil be the humble one.. i’d rather lost my pride..
June 4th, 2007 at 6:56 am
There is the girl who humbles herself, latches onto a relationship fiercely until she is let go, dredges the bottom until she can no longer find any scraps or semblance of what she used to love. This girl will hang on until she is at the point of humiliation. At the end of the day, when the relationship finally falls apart, she is content in knowing there was nothing else she could have done to save it. She thinks this’ll give her less of a reason to look back and regret.
I think thats me. Because if you love someone you will be willing to do everything for the person you love, and you have to trust them, i dont like the second one because i believe people change you just need to let them
June 6th, 2007 at 1:27 pm
well…i’ve been through this….and i was the one being left…well…i have accept the fact that he left me to be with his ex-girlfriend…but he’s telling everybody that i broke up with him…what’s his point??? so ok…i was the gurl wgho humbled myself…well..i did everything to save our so-called “relationship”….now… i have no regrets….believe me…coz…honestly…it’s his lost…not mine…=)
June 8th, 2007 at 1:39 am
my golly. i’m both. gosh.
June 14th, 2007 at 5:33 pm
i’m the girl who humbles herself, and that’s what i’m doing right now. i believe that when you love someone, no matter how hard it is, you’ll stick by his side and not let go. when it hurts, i’d rather lose my pride than lose the one i love. i hold on to relationships. letting go has never been an option for me. ’cause if you love someone truly, you wouldn’t have the courage to even think of leaving.
June 16th, 2007 at 12:14 pm
hooh.. i guess i’m more of the first one.. but sadly, i think i’m also like the second one.. how’s that?! argh!
June 16th, 2007 at 8:09 pm
the 1st one..it sucks..!yet its the best way to embrace pain & 2 really understand the essence of saying goodBye!…it may sound” martyr”..but surely regret-free!!its his lost!!that’s d lesson i’v learned..and let go and let GOD!!!
June 19th, 2007 at 8:53 am
..honestly.. id go for the first girl… but at times.. i hate being rejected,,it really really sucks!!.. so there are times that im the one rejecting people but i have a good reason for doing so..
June 19th, 2007 at 11:07 am
i have been through this already and even though i always end up as the big looser i will always choose to be the girl that humbles herself because at the end of the day he would always be the who lost…because he didn’t know what my worth is….
June 22nd, 2007 at 2:11 pm
I’m the type of girl who holds on… When I see a problem I face it… but i don’t persist anymore when there is really nothing more to hold on to… and i’m the type who gets hopeful easily… and that’s the most difficult part…
June 23rd, 2007 at 11:56 am
me… i’d be both… i’m the type who’d want to have no regrets in leaving a relationship but still i’m also the same girl who has her pride intact… i haven’t really yet been in a relationship but as i see how people get hurt and how the friendship is broken afterwards, i hold on to my pride tighter…
June 25th, 2007 at 11:35 am
I think it depends sometimes when you love the person too much you can be the first one but if you don’t love him as much as he do you can be the second one. It depends upon the choice that you will make that you will determine which one are you.
June 25th, 2007 at 11:46 am
i’d rather reject than be rejected…
it’s the same as to fool or be fooled..
June 25th, 2007 at 12:26 pm
i’m the second type. i’d rather be the one rejecting, than be the one rejected. I make sure he won’t have the chance to prove that I am the one who is wrong. Ma-pride ako in short.
June 26th, 2007 at 5:31 pm
the first one..i’ll do anything just to keep the relationship intact!!
June 27th, 2007 at 2:52 pm
I’d rather be the girl who humbles herself, latches onto a relationship fiercely until she is let go.The other girl…don’t like her.
June 29th, 2007 at 6:06 pm
i think i’ll be the girl who won’t say goodbye.
i’d rather eat my pride and do everything to save our relationship!
but, there’s a limitation of course….
July 1st, 2007 at 1:01 pm
it’s obvious, everyone wants to be the type of girl who humbles herself for love. but not me. not anymore..if i smell break-up, i’ll be the first to throw up. it’s time to stop being martyrs guys. let’s stand firm on saying, “we don’t get dumped by any two-legged creature who has a really gorgeous face.” and besides, we deserve better that being dumped. we should be the one dumping them.
July 3rd, 2007 at 4:13 pm
it depends. . .
July 6th, 2007 at 9:12 am
nice question….
with my past relationships,,,
I’m the second one described…
i really hate rejection,,,and if i sense that it’s not working or “nagsasawa” na q,,,
umaayaw na ko…
and it’s just recently that I realized..i’m super bad,,
July 13th, 2007 at 3:30 pm
i belong to the first one. it is really embarassing to recall what i’ve done. but the nice part is i learned to get over it, i have changed and promised myself not to be like that again.
July 16th, 2007 at 3:53 pm
i think most of us, girls, are now being humbled because we think that no matter what we’ve chose it will end even though we didn’t like it. for me having your pride is not wasting your time because its yours not to them but if you think you cant handled it, hold on and just appreciate what you’ve done in the past & move on! go girl! we know that you can do it!
August 27th, 2007 at 3:37 pm
oh gosh!~ i think i’m the latter one… maybe because im afraid that the truth will hurt me.. that’s why i’ll just let go of the relationship… no explanations said. i guess, i already have a phobia when it comes to love…
August 29th, 2007 at 11:10 am
i’m both..
if i really love the person, i will be the girl hu’z being humbled..
but if i think the guy is a jerk and i really dont love him.. i belong 2 the 2nd one^_^
September 5th, 2007 at 2:53 pm
based on the replies, i see we Filipinas are the martyr type of lovers… i guess that includes being the wifey thing… that is why there is this battered wife issues and i bet battered girlfriend too…
anyways, i am the “hang-on till the last drop…” type.
September 24th, 2007 at 11:27 am
id rather go, wid no regrets b4 u want to end up a relationship u hav to think da consequenses ..
October 9th, 2007 at 5:35 pm
i was both of them, sometimes i don’t wanna let go of everything even if people around continues to humiliate me. I do have a pride but sometimes in love, it might take a deep breath and a nervous mind to decide on losing it. On the other side, if i knew what’s the problem already then i think i have the right to be free. well i’m not into the way of wanting to reject rather than to be rejected. If you take a look at it, (e.g) if the problem is that the guy has fallen out of love to you, emotionally, your rejected already. The feelings gone and there’s no relationship anymore.
but anyway, the only thing that is sure that when the relationship has ended, if you loved truly, you’ll be hurt.
October 11th, 2007 at 4:50 pm
i think im the 1st one.. i admit.. im stupid when it comes to love. i want to fix whatever mess we had.. accept my faults and mistakes.. ask the guy to stay..shit! how stupid.. but that s a part of being in Love.. to become a stupid in mAny ways..
if i cry, so what?? it is my decision after all..
at least im a happy fool not an empty wise person..
that is the essence of loving i think..
so that in the end you have no “wat if” in mind..
aAaAiiiii… i misS my ex…
i misS him 4 making me fooLL
a haPpy fooL! haha
-vine
October 11th, 2007 at 4:55 pm
P.S..
2 hold on doenst mean u r a coward..
the fact is that u r strong still holding on and accept the pain..
misS u LOML..
-vine
October 14th, 2007 at 5:52 pm
im included to those girls that is called “tanga pag nainlove” but i just wanna take a risk in reconciling with my ex bf but if the guy says “no” that’s the time i have to move on, atleast i did my part for the last time just to save the relationship ayt?
October 17th, 2007 at 3:46 pm
well, i think… i’m the first one. i do humble myself. lose my pride. i get stupid and i’ll try everything jsut to save the relaionship even losing myself. i admit it… i’m such a martyr… perhaps coz i really hate goodbyes.
October 21st, 2007 at 11:39 am
if i would be given a chance to be in a relationship,
aba!
pipilitin kong mainalik yung pingsmhan nmin,
kya napunta sa relationship para magmahalan,
di para msayang ang pinagsamahan,
kung mahal mo talaga xa;try!
pero kung matagal ka nang naghihintay na bumalik lahat,
i think it’s time for you to find someone who deserves you!
October 22nd, 2007 at 7:06 pm
ako cguro yung girl na nasa mind ko nah na uunahan ko yung guy sa pag-reject pero hindi ko magawa kasi tanga ako pag in love. so nakaka-inis if you’re rejected by the one you really like or love. it’s so masakit sa heart. nasugatan na yung pride mo, nasugatan pah ang heart mo.
well, mas masakit at mahirap i-heal yung sa heart comapred sa pride nah konting repair lang, ayos nah.
umabot pah ako sa kabilang bukid para mg-explain kung which one ako. haha.!
October 25th, 2007 at 5:31 pm
uhm. i really am the humble girl.:P
November 6th, 2007 at 11:45 am
The second one.
I know that having a special someone is wonderful. Waking up in the morning with a smile because ‘you’ know someone loves you. I do believe that loving can be a vice too. And if one goes to extremes I don’t know if s/he wouldn’t feel betrayed, manipulated, rejected, etc. Inasmuch as love is the most beautiful thing it can also be the most terrifying. Love is not always sweet. And keeping the self in tact is better than looking at ‘your’ doom because ‘you’ have fallen to the game called LOVE. Oh I know this is my own cowardice maybe because I am too afraid of being rejected. I am vulnerable and I’d rather protect myself. The self is the most dangerous enemy.
hehe
November 12th, 2007 at 8:50 pm
the first one. probably because im afraid of actually ending relationships..because i cant possibly see how im going to be without that person. but in the end i always find myself laughing at ME.at how narrowminded i got when the relationship was at the edge of the cliff. because really, letting go isnt so bad when everything’s going down hill and you’re still trying to make it work. sometimes the best solution is to let go and let both of you BREATHE :p
November 25th, 2007 at 10:00 pm
aw,,, i’m the first one… i’m always like that and i hate it! I am the kind who keeps on holding on to a relationship up to the last minute. i admit, those are the times i feel like im really stupid. It will take a while before i come to the realization that there’s nothing worth saving. Sometimes, we just have to be brave to accept the reality that you’re just not meant to be. Acceptance is really a great help in moving on…c:
December 2nd, 2007 at 8:26 pm
i don’t know which one i am…
December 10th, 2007 at 12:43 pm
wELL.. i gUess i’LL bE thE sEcOnd tyPE.. i cAn’t aFfoRd tO bE brOken bY a gUy wHO’S nOt EvEn wOrthY tO havE mE.. i woULd oNLy exErt eFfOrt tO thE oNe whO aPprEciatEs mE anD reaLizEs my wOrthy,, thE gUy whO dEsErVes my tEaRs anD my aLL.. hE iS thE gUy whO woULdn’t even Let oNe drOp of tEar faLL dOwn fRom mY eyE.. sO iF thE reLatiOnsHip iS sHaky, i wOuLd ratHEr lEt go than tOrtuRe mysELf with sOme nOneSeNsE jOke.. wHat’S mEant tO bE wiLL finD it’S way anYway :p
December 13th, 2007 at 9:17 am
has anyone heard of the saying
Shame on you if you fooled me once. Shame on me if you fooled me twice.
I have been through it. It complicated things. At least Katie, you had your mum with you. You were certainly lucky. I didn’t. Because in the “legal” sense, my relationship with my ex was more clandestine. Like drug dealing operations, it was underground.
Now that he wants it (our relationship) back…I am deciding pa. I don’t know when he’ll be visiting kasi he’ll be traveling from other countries pa. So here goes. I don’t know what to do now and when to decide kasi hindi ko alam ang deadline. Kahit anong sabihin mo, I can’t leave the guy hanging.
FYI: When he cheated on me the second time…that was before I entered Law school. I decided I couldn’t deal with a philandering boyfriend and an even more demanding lifestyle of being a law student. I chose Law school. Even when I was on the verge of being kicked out by that school (due to maintaining GPA issues), I had ABSOLUTELY NO REGRETS choosing Law school. I went after a dream that was more important than a boy who will never be content with what I can give. I chose a future life work that would fulfill me than moping after a boy who will be in another girl’s bed making a notch on her bedpost.
February 9th, 2008 at 9:42 pm
i guess i need help in knowing which one i am. thanks for tips anyway.
February 12th, 2008 at 2:20 am
id rather be the humble one..for the simplest reason of not regreting on the pursay relationship…
February 21st, 2008 at 11:39 am
know what base on my own experience im the one who handels the relationship but sometimes im the one who first give up ,,, because as we all know there’s a reason in every decision we made…
February 25th, 2008 at 12:12 pm
neither… i wouldn’t know because I have never been in a relationship and if ever I’ll be then I’d be the girl who humbles herself to save the one she loves XD