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Deconstructing the Enemy

August 17th, 2007

I admit. I’ve done it. I’ve demonized someone that I didn’t take the chance to get to know. All because I was jealous. Guilty as charged.

It’s just that, the first sight of these pretty little things flipping their perfect little hair in the direction of your boyfriend is sure to annoy you. Once introduced, they will grate on your nerves with their lilting laughs and coy innuendo. Already aggravated, any further interaction only results in them pushing all your buttons. Or at least, seeming to do so. Instinctively, you will set off on a warpath to obliterate her.

I’ve realized, though, that the key to keeping your relationship hassle- and jealousy-free is not to destroy the girl who threatens you. What you need to do is make an about-face and take on the biggest of all battles—your relationship with your guy. If he’s happy and you’re happy and your relationship is strong, the Other Girl can flutter her lashes all she wants and she wouldn’t stand a chance.

I could be wrong, but what has probably got you so riled up is not so much that she’s Evil Incarnate but that you and the Other Girl are so alike that you’re scared your guy will trade one for the other. The way I see it, if you keep yourself happy and keep him happy, he won’t ever do a double take.

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Catfights

July 5th, 2007

I was watching The Bachelor: Tell All the other day and I was shocked.

It wasn’t that the girls were being extra racy, or over-the-top daring, or super aggressive this time. It was that during this particular episode that was supposed to have been their reunion—months after they’ve last seen each other and after having lived with and made nice to each other for several weeks—they were at each other’s throats! Believe me, they were being very creative with their insults. And it wasn’t enough that they were disparaging one or another girl in front of a live audience. Every so often, scenes of the girls from the confessional room stabbing each other in the back would be shown. They were vicious.

What bothers me is that guys are never that nasty to each other. Sure, they fight. But they don’t play their squabbles out like it’s some soap opera or dish out backhanded attacks and counter-attacks as frequently. They don’t spend endless hours peddling gossip about each other. Worse, they don’t make codenames for their frenemies just so they can continue to talk about her at length.

Could it be true? Do boys tend to stick up for each other, while girls tear each other apart? Do we always see each other as the competition? Can’t we all just get along?

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