If you are having second thoughts on whether you should make up or break up with your guy, take this time and evaluate where you're standing right now. Here are a few questions that might help you decipher whether it really is time to move on or to patch things up, because your relationship is just going through a rough time.
- Have you openly communicated with him yet?
Tell him what you really want and need. Stop talking in riddles or sugarcoating your issues, and say what you mean. Take time to talk to him seriously about the problems you have—like his snide remarks which bother you so much or how he forgets to tell you he's already home, so you won't worry anymore. Make sure, though, you also listen to him and understand what he has to say. You're in it together, remember?
- Have you given your all to keep the relationship alive?
Have you already exhausted every bit of effort and energy in you to make him happy? Or you usually just wait for him to call you, ask you out, and start most of your conversations? Or maybe you're getting tired of making all the efforts while he just sits and waits for you to make the next move? A relationship involves two people. You should be both doing something to make each other happy and contented in the relationship.
- Have you stopped growing?
Relationships are supposed to make you grow, strive to be a better person, inspire you to be the best you can become. You are there to support each other's dreams, passions, and successes. If you feel like you're getting stagnant or if you feel like he's beginning to dictate your future, it might be time to think about where you guys are headed.
- Has this happened before?
Are there recurring issues, fears, or problems that keep coming back even after you have talked to him about these? You can be happy today or in cloud nine tomorrow, but when something happens, the issues come back—so you go back to square one and ask yourself whether you should let go of this relationship or not.
- If this were your last day, would you regret not ending your relationship?
This is the one question that will probably help you most in coming up with the decision. If this were your last day, would you regret not ending or ending your relationship? It is easy to be misled by temporary feelings of dissatisfaction or frustration, but if you take the time to look into the future and assess whether the person you’re with is someone you’d want to be with in the long run, you'll eventually know if you really have to let him go or not.
If you answered yes to most or all of the questions, chances are, you have already exhausted what you have to make the relationship work. You may want to take a break from the relationship for now. But if you still have doubts, take some more time to think. Trust your inner wisdom. You will always know when to let things fold and when to let them unfold.
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