Guys Q & A: How Do You Know If You Should Give Him Up?

Should you give up or keep on going?

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Do you have any guy-related questions you want answered? One Candy Girl asked us, "How do you know if you're supposed to give him up?"

That's a difficult question, right there. But because we love being able to help you out in the guy department, here's what we have to say about this dilemma.

First, we don't know the specifics of the situation—just that you're thinking of giving him up and that, somehow, you want to. So now we ask you, why? Why do you want to give him up?

Did you catch him flirting with another girl? Did he cheat on you? Did he hurt you so much that you're incapable of forgiving him at this point in time? Do both of you think it's just not the right time to pursue each other yet because a. one of you is in a relationship, or b. both of you are?

In cases like the ones we mentioned above, we think it's the best choice to give him up. Your main issue is trust, and we all know that trust is the foundation of a relationship. How do you know it's not going to happen again? How can you trust that you'll always be his only one? It takes a leap of faith, and it's up to you if you want to take that leap or not. If you don't want to, then it's time to give him up—for now. But don't close any doors, because he might soon prove that he's worthy of it.

Another scenario: What if it's a bad case of unrequited love? We say, give him up for now, too. You're young, Candy Girl, and there's a whole world out there waiting to be explored by you. Don't let one guy be the center of your universe. Give him up for now and allow destiny to take its course, and if it allows your roads to cross once again, let it be. For now, take your time to focus on the relationships you have—with your family and friends, the constants who will never, ever give you up.

Need someone to listen to your guy dilemma? We might be able to help! Tell us about it in the comments or tweet us @candymagdotcom. We love hearing from you. :)




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