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Guys Q & A: How Do I Stop Falling For the Bad Guys?

It is really that bad?



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Do you have any guy-related question you've always wanted to answer? A Candy Girl wrote to us, saying, "I always fall for the bad guys. I want to make it stop. Help!" Because we always have your back, here are our thoughts on your dilemma:

First of all, how do you describe a bad guy? What makes him the bad guy? Did he unknowingly break your heart by going on a date with another girl when he seemed to be hitting on you a few days ago? Does he wear bling and end words with -izzle? Is he a gangster?

The thing is, people can't be classified as good or bad. We all have gray areas. One guy may appear goody-goody, but he surely has little cracks inside. Another guy may appear like a toughie on the outside, but he's actually a secret softie inside. Maybe you didn't really fall for "bad guys." Maybe you just lumped them together in a gigantic pile according to your standards or the world's standards.

But know this: No matter what standards you've set for yourself, you still can't entirely choose who your heart falls for and who it'll beat for. The next thing you know, you've already fallen for that guy you swore you'd never fall for. You just have to figure out who's worth giving it your all and taking a risk for. 

In the words of John Green in his novel The Fault In Our Stars (the movie premieres today, BTW!!!), you don't have a choice if you get hurt in this world or not. But you do have the say on who will hurt you. Fall for any guy, love him, enjoy the romantic bliss, break your heart, get hurt. In the end, we all hope for one thing: That we'll like all the choices we've made for love. Good luck, Candy Girl!

Got guy-related questions or dilemmas you want us to help you with? Tweet us @candymagdotcom or use the hashtag #AskCandy. We'll try our very best to help.

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