In the words of Coldplay, "Nobody said it was easy. No one ever said it would be this hard."
That pretty much describes how moving on from a summer fling is. Just when you're basking in the warmth of the sun, it sets. Before you know it, things are over and gone. Now you don't have a choice but to let it go, and charge everything to experience.
Don't you wish it was so easy to move on from something that made you feel so happy and so alive during this vacay? As easy as deciding you want to go for it and #YOLO?
But that's what we're here for, Candy Girls. We're here to lend a hand and help you pull yourself back up. Here's how you can start moving on from your summer fling in three steps:
- Accept the fact that it was just that: a summer fling. You know what you were getting yourself into. This was just something passing through, something to wake you up from the monotony of summer break. You had a deadline set. No commitments were made. You're just having fun. The sooner you accept that it wasn't bound to last, the sooner you'll come to terms with the truth that you really have to start moving on.
- Cut all forms of communication with him. Stop stalking him on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram. Stop keeping tabs on him, or hanging around the places you used to hang out in. This won't do you good. It will only make you think of how he made you feel or how happy you were when you were together. And that doesn't help. Let it go. Delete his number. Un-friend him on Facebook. Unfollow him on Instagram. Now.
- Continue living your life. Go back to regular programming. What were your initial plans this summer before he came? Do it. Try to remember where you were before you met him. You lived your life without him before, you can do that again. You just have to try and recall how you were and who you were at that time. It won't be easy and it won't definitely feel right at first, but soon enough it will. Just try. Try every day.
Maybe it was just two weeks or a month, but that doesn't make getting over a heartbreak caused by a summer fling easier. Heartbreak is heartbreak, regardless of the length of time you were together. Getting over a summer fling is the same as getting over the pain of ending a full-blown relationship. So don't be too hard on yourself. Stop forcing your heart to be alright again ASAP, because it was just a few weeks. You have liked/loved him, and you put your heart on the line. Give yourself some space and some time to move on from the scars this non-relationship has caused. In time, you'll be good.
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