It takes two committed people to build a strong relationship. You cannot be the only one who insists on making things work. If a guy truly cares for you, he would invest time and effort in your relationship. And trust us when we say that you're worth the investment!
Don't let your partner take you for granted. Here are the signs that you're more invested than your boyfriend.
You are not a priority.
You're willing to wake up extra early just to get him his favorite breakfast and he cannot even pause a TV show to answer your call? Wow.
If you always find yourself making the first move on everything, then something's definitely not right. Remember, relationships would only succeed if both partners are equally committed to make things work. Make your partner realize that it's time for him to take the first step. Tell him that having an initiative is an important aspect of any relationship and that you would really appreciate it if he tried a little harder. He can't just give 20% effort and expect a solid 100% in return, right?
You haven't met his family yet.
It's been months but you still haven't been introduced to his family yet despite your constant hints that you would love to meet them. Family introductions are considered as relationship milestones. It means that your guy is thinking long-term and that you're included in his future plans.
However, there are still many possible explanations as to why he hasn't made an effort to set up a meeting yet. It's best to ask him directly so you could understand the situation without making any false assumptions.
You always feel unheard and unappreciated.
You can immediately recall the story behind the small scar on his left arm. You know the name of his first pet. You know the things he love and the things he hate. You can practically write a book about him because you make it a point to remember everything he says and yet, he still asks you every now and then whether your second name is spelled with a K or a C.
Be straightforward and tell him what you feel. You're not asking for too much. You're just asking him to pay more attention—something that he should be doing all along as your boyfriend.
You're not part of his future plans.
When you ask him about his future plans, he would just answer with, "I don't know. Maybe buy a car?" If you have been dating for a while and you still think that your future with him is a bit blurry, it's only normal to wonder. Are you at least sitting on the passenger seat of that new car? Or does he see himself driving alone?
When a guy is serious, he would include you in his future plans. However, a lot of people also get scared of planning their own future. It's a topic that most people evade because they don't want to put pressure on themselves. So, the next time you talk, make sure that you're not putting too much pressure on him. Make it clear that you're not asking him to plan your entire future together. You simply want to know if you're there somehow.
You never really get an apology.
If your partner genuinely wants to save your relationship, he won't have a hard time saying a heartfelt "I'm sorry." Getting an apology after an argument means that his love for you is bigger than his pride.
There's nothing wrong about wanting to hear a sincere apology especially when you know that you really deserve one. Don't let your partner get away with everything without learning to say sorry. If you do, you might end up resenting him for all the apologies he forgot to give.
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