You think he's The One? Take a deep breath and think again. Now before you start planning your dream wedding and naming your future children, reflect on the person he is. If you're already in that zone, compare and see if he matches all 10 things in the list below.
- He's intelligent.
He must be someone who matches you intellectually. You must be able to have conversations with him about the things that matter in life. He must be a dreamer, a producer, and an artist of life. While a book smart guy is great to have, he does need to be wise when it comes to life decisions. And you can be sure he's a genius when he knows he won the lottery with you and has no intention of ever letting you go.
- He has ambition.
He's a man who knows what he wants and goes for it. This is a person who has a plan and hopefully that plan includes you, too. He wants to do something worthy with his life and actually follows through with his ambition. It's not all words but also action. Sure, he showers you with promises, but he also makes sure he makes them happen. This will reflect in your relationship as well. This is the man who's mature and worthy of you.
- He's a good guy, not a nice guy.
The good guy is different from the nice guy as silly as that may sound. The nice guy can be found everywhere, the good guy however is a very rare breed. The nice guy is nice to all the girls. The good guy focuses on the one that matters. The nice guy is the one who is never truly clear with his intentions. The good guy is the one who, from the very start, makes it clear to you that he wants you and only you. A good guy will not be afraid to let you know when you're wrong or being a drama queen. Nice guys will just let things pass because they don't want conflict. They want peace and they don't want to hurt people's feelings or illicit bad feelings for criticizing. A good guy knows that it's their job to help make you a better person so they will tell you off when you're doing something wrong. Most of all, the nice guy is temporary. The good guy stays.
- He sees the future.
He knows that just because people and things feel good now, they could be different later. He bases his decisions on how it will affect the future. He's cautious and careful. He doesn't want to invest time and resources on things and people that won't last. That's why a guy who sees the future will never cheat. He's the keeper because you know that if he invests in you and your relationship, he's thinking long-term and not just some fling. This is the man you marry.
- He's selfless.
This person is a man for others and it's not some image he's conjuring up to impress people. It's normal as breathing for him to put others before himself. This is a quality that is essential because you should want someone who'll be able to prioritize you.
- He's his realest self with you.
You know he's a keeper when he's able to break down all his walls and let you in. He should be able to show you not just his best but most importantly show his flaws and insecurities. When a person is able to let their guard down with you, it just means that he trusts you enough to not put up pretenses. And don't you want to be with someone who's 100% real with you?
- He's kind to everyone.
Watch how he treats the people around you, most especially how he interacts with maids, drivers, waiters, and cashiers. Does he treat them with the same respect he gives your parents? Does he treat them like equals? A keeper is not boastful or arrogant. He treats everyone with dignity and respect. He treats everyone with kindness. Take note though that doesn't mean he's a doormat. He doesn't let people step all over him. Rather, he treats people the way they deserve to be treated.
- He's proud of you.
He's proud of you and isn't afraid to be seen with you. He doesn't have to be all cheesy on social media and post about you all the time. You can see it in the little things like the way he gets excited to introduce you to the people who matter most to him. He wants them to know your value in his life. You can see it in the way he encourages you to pursue your passions and sometimes even goes the extra mile to support you even if it means driving to your event for 3 hours. This is a man who knows your worth and is in awe of it.
- He brings out the best in you and you do the same for him.
What's the point of a relationship if you won't be able to grow from it? When you see yourself happier and healthier around him, take it as a good sign. With him, you bloom and you're inspired to be the best version of yourself every day.
- He truly loves you.
If a guy loves you with all his heart, keep him. A guy loves you if he accepts you at your worst; who stays even when it's inconvenient; who will always find time for you even at his busiest; who continuously improve himself for you and your relationship; and most of all, he remains consistent with his affection through time. Finding someone who truly loves you whom you can love back and cherish is no easy task but when you are able to do so, it's magical. True love may seem like a figment of the imagination to people but when you are able to find someone who loves you right, please treasure them and take care of them. You'll never know when this love can be taken away from you.
Think we missed something on the list? What makes you think someone is a keeper? Leave a message below!