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5 Things Unconfident Girls Should Stop Doing When Someone Says They're Beautiful
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Fact: We all have insecurities. We could be tall and smart or pudgy and athletic or model-esque and talented, and still have something to complain about. Which is why when someone tries to give us a compliment, some of us, most especially those lacking in self-confidence, don't know how to deal. Below, we listed some of the things unconfident girls resort to when confronted with a compliment, and a few alternate responses to match.

  1. Self-deprecation.

"You look so pretty!"

"That's because I showered today."

Answering a compliment with self-deprecation is like getting something nice from a person (like a gift) and making fun of what you were just handed. Instead of giving back a slew of reasons proving that person otherwise, saying a simple "Thank you" would be enough.

  1. Feeling insecure about a compliment.

"You're beautiful."

"Thanks?" *She probably just feels sorry for me.*

The problem with lacking self-confidence is it tends to make negativity your knee-jerk reaction to almost everything. So much so that when someone expresses admiration for you, you tend to think it's a backhanded compliment. If you're not totally convinced, you can be honest and say, "Talaga? Thanks, ha?" It shows you're appreciative of the compliment, but at the same time, want to know if the other person is being sincere.

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  1. Blowing it off.

"Ang ganda mo talaga!"

"Hindi no. Mas maganda ka kaya!"

Because most unconfident people find it hard to take compliments, their initial reaction is to mirror the admiration they are given. But the thing is, when you're praised, you are not required to say something of equal or greater value in return especially if you're not sincere.  A simple, "Uy, salamat ha," will do.

  1. Taking it as a joke.

"You're beautiful, girl!"

"I know, right?" *laughs*

One of the common misconceptions of accepting a compliment is that you're overconfident or feelingera, which is why you usually downplay it by retorting with a joke. But the thing is, there's nothing wrong with accepting one and more importantly, there's nothing wrong with knowing you are beautiful. If you don't want to come off as cocky, you can say, "Aww, that made my day!"

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  1. Thinking you don't deserve it.

"You're beautiful inside and out."

"Huh?" *thinks of the compliment for a long time and comes to realizations like, "he probably just needed someone to talk to" or "she's probably just fixing her bad girl rep."

Before you even get to overthink and over analyze the compliment, open your mouth and thank the person who had just given you possibly the best compliment one can ever receive. Easier said than done? Don't get us wrong, we know a thing or two (even more) about self-doubt. We know it's easier to make up excuses for being admired rather than own up to something you feel you're not totally worthy of. But you know what? Whether it's an insincere compliment or a heartfelt expression of admiration, who cares? What's important is that you should know that you deserve it. Because no matter what you've been through and no matter what you've experienced, you are beautiful and you shouldn't let anybody tell you otherwise.

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