Picture this: An opportunity to represent your school in a competition—everyone's excited for you, they know you're the best person for the job and you have all the capabilities. But you drop out last minute because you feel like maybe someone else can do it and you don't want to lose and let everybody down. Or you have a big test coming up and you know you have to do well so you study your hardest. But during the test, you get stuck in one item and completely stop trying. Another scenario: The guy you've liked forever is totally single and he's paying more attention to you than ever before. You've been on Facebook, chatting almost every day but you refuse to listen to his compliments and don't want to get closer with him because you don't think you're pretty enough or that you deserve someone like that.
Believing in yourself is probably one of the things you've struggled with at one point in your life. You probably compare yourself with other girls all the time and feel jealous when they have what you don't. You're probably afraid of judgment or failure and you don't want to take risks cause you're scared of what will happen if you do. Well Candy Girl, nothing good will come out of that self-doubt. It's hard, yes, but you'll be able to achieve more, be more, and ultimately, be happier, if you cast that fear aside and start to realize that you're a beautiful, smart amazing girl. You just have to believe in yourself.
Imagine all the missed opportunities when you don't believe in yourself. Your comfort zone is a safe place to stay in, but you go nowhere if you don't step out of it once in a while. People who chase their dreams achieve them because they knew in their hearts they could. Start with something simple, like trying out for your school play, or joining the basketball team—simple joys, new friends, doing what you love— all these things stem from you making the first move, and knowing you can do it. If you've ever heard of the saying, "If you don't believe in yourself, no one will," know that this will always ring true. Everything you think and feel happens in your own heart and mind. And if you believe in yourself, your beauty will shine through and no one will be able to deny it. People will trust you more if they knew you were confident, because you're the person who knows yourself the most. Trust yourself, and don't rely on anyone else to believe in you for you. They don't really know you the way you do; they actually rely on you to show them that you can do it.
Ultimately believing in yourself will lead to a happier you. You know what you want to be happy and you know you can achieve it. Disappointment is always a threat, but you will never know if you didn't try. The regret is much worse to live with than the possible setback, because part of being able to believe in yourself is being able to bounce back from difficult challenges. You wouldn't be able to go on adventures, to experience the world, to meet new people, to discover what you really love, if you didn't think you could.
It may be hard, but it's all worth it in the end. The next time you feel like you're not good enough, remember that's impossible. You are good enough. Don't ever think you're not.
What do you do to motivate yourself? Are there any mantras you live by to help you believe in yourself? Share them with other Candy Girls in the comments below or tweet us @candymagdotcom.