Being shy gets you nowhere.
When it comes to interviews, meeting new people or internships, being the one who sulks in a corner and barely gets a word in conversations gets you nothing and nowhere. Think of it this way, no one ever remembers the quiet one.
What people say can only hurt you if you let it.
Most of the time, people are scared of being confident because of what people might say about them. Basically, when you show any sign that you're comfortable in your skin, you are possibly: too full of yourself, arrogant or conceited. In the context of the real world, people will really say nasty things about you for reasons beyond your control, whether you like it or not. What matters though, is whether you believe it yourself. People may have the choice to say what they want but you have the power to not listen.
No one will believe you if you don't believe in yourself.
Marianne Williamson once said, "And no one will listen to us if we don't listen to ourselves." If you want people to think you're beautiful, you should believe that you really are. If you want people to think you have a good heart, believe that you have one. It all solely starts with you and your belief that you're capable of being so much more.
Confidence will take you to places you could never imagine.
I was always told, "Fake it 'til you make it." And I bring that advice with me everywhere. To put it simply, believe you are this type of person until you actually become that person.
You can't keep expecting to have things that you don't work or ask for.
What timid people usually complain about is how they don't get what they want while outspoken and self-assured people do. People who are outspoken and self-assured get what they want because they ask for it and work hard enough to get it. The people around you are not mind readers and they never will be. They can't anticipate your wants and needs because they're too busy pursuing their own. There's nothing wrong with asking, Candy Girls! Worst case scenario: they say no. So what? Candy Girls never give up! Don't take that no for an answer and work your way up!
The Confidence Gap Article
If you are familiar with the piece, you'd know that it's been said that there is a significant difference between men and women in the working world. It also states that women continue to underestimate their abilities and performance and that doubts are probably women's worst enemy. What?! I don't know about you girls but this surely is a wake-up call! Don't be afraid to be confident because of your fear to be overbearing, conceited, and a nightmare to work with. Show them what you're made of!
So who's ready to be confident?